Hu Shi Picture from the internet
On February 24, 1962, Hu Shi died of illness in Taipei.
Regardless of Hu Shi's political orientation and political ethics, as a modern Chinese thinker, writer and philosopher, Hu Shi is a first-class figure in modern times, and his death has been greatly mourned.
However, just when many heavyweights came to mourn Hu Shi, there was an extremely disharmonious scene, Hu Shi's undead, his haired wife Jiang Dongxiu performed a beating of the corpse in front of everyone, while pounding and crying: The dead ghost Hu Shizhi!
In the sound of "dead ghosts", Jiang Dongxiu's reluctance, resentment and hatred for Hu Shi were revealed.
At this scene, I can't help but think of a sentence by Mr. Lin Yutang:
You have seen Mrs. Hu Shi, and only then do you know how great Hu Shi is!
The feelings between men and women are very strange, and if they are simply sparks in thought, we can call them love; if they are simply because the face and the flesh collide with each other, we can call them desires. But people like Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu, who have not collided with sparks in their thinking, nor have they collided with their faces and flesh, but they can still stay together for more than 40 years, which has to be said to be an outlier.
This has to be remembered by people socrates.
Some people say that the key to Socrates' high achievements is that he married a humble woman. By analogy, is Hu Shi's ability to achieve such a high level of achievement in the cultural world also related to his marriage to Jiang Dongxiu?
In his life, Hu Shi had two fears, one afraid of the old woman, and the other afraid of the old wife. It is normal to be afraid of the old woman, this is not really afraid, but filial piety.
Hu Shi lost his life at an early age, and his father Hu Tiehua held a military position under Liu Yongfu of the Black Flag Army, and died of illness in Xiamen in 1895, when Hu Shi was only 4 years old, and his old wife Feng Shundi was only 23 years old. The 17-year-old young woman married 47-year-old Hu Tiehua and began her 23-year widowhood.
But Feng Shundi is a strong person, she did not lose confidence in life because she was young and widowed, and she took a 4-year-old child, but took on the burden of the whole family's life and carefully cultivated the young Hu Shi, all of which reflected the greatness of Feng Shundi's maternal brilliance. When Hu Shi was 40 years old, he also wrote an article to commemorate his mother's difficulty in taking care of family affairs and raising herself.
Therefore, Hu Shi has a deep respect for his mother, and it is not that he does not dare to disobey his mother, but he does not tolerate disobeying his mother, which can also be regarded as another kind of "fear" of Hu Shi to his mother.
Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu Pictures from the Internet
In the spring of 1904, the 13-year-old Hu Shi went to Shanghai to study, and before leaving, his mother set a family affair for Hu Shi, who was the jingde Jiang clan who was the opposite of the Jixi Hu clan.
Later generations often mention that the engagement did not require Hu Shi's consent, which is actually not accurate. In feudal society, things like the marriage of children did not require the consent of children at all. Just like Hu Shi's mother, Feng Shundi, married a 17-year-old miaoling woman to Hu Tiehua, who is already 47 years old, has anyone asked for her consent?
After Hu Shi went to Shanghai to study, he broadened his horizons and changed his thinking, expressing his disgust at this kind of marriage arranged by his parents. In 1905, when his mother wrote to urge him to return to his hometown to complete the marriage, Hu Shi for the first time disobeyed his mother's wishes and wrote back to express his refusal to return to his hometown to complete the marriage. However, although Hu Shi refused to return to his hometown to complete the marriage, he did not show the idea of repentance. And Feng Shundi did it very crisply, since Hu Shi did not return to his hometown to complete the marriage, then I will bring Miss Jiang Jia. In this way, Jiang Dongxiu, who had never seen his husband's side, was carried to the Hu family and began a 13-year wait.
Things like Hu Shi's were common in the last years of the Qing Dynasty and the early republic of China. This phenomenon cannot simply be regarded as the abandonment of the chaff wife by the young people who have accepted the influence of the new western trend of thought, but these young people who have accepted the new idea believe that this kind of arranged marriage is contrary to human nature, is the remnant of feudal society, and needs to be beaten and overthrown. However, their practices have pit the women who have not been exposed to new ideas and new ideas, they dare not resist, do not know how to resist, can only silently take care of their in-laws in their husbands' homes, and even never see their husbands again in their lives, and finally die alone. Like Lu Xun to Juan.
And Hu Shi's approach is still relatively generous compared to those who completely ignore the wives at home. In his own words, this is "not to bear to break the hearts of several people." This includes both the mother who had worked hard to raise herself and the wife she had never met.
Hu Shi, who is familiar with the feudal etiquette, knows very well that if he repents of marriage, what will be brought to Miss Jiang's family, the mother's family cannot go back, and she cannot remarry, and can only be a lonely old man for life. Judging from the fact that Hu Shi returned to his hometown and married Jiang Dongxiu in the future, this is not only The kindness of Hu Shi as a person, but also the hesitation and contradiction in his personality. In a word, that is, Hu Shi was both opposed to feudalism and refused to completely break with feudalism, which is also the point where Hu Shi was particularly criticized by posterity.
In September 1910, Hu Shi was admitted as an international student with a full score in Chinese language and a total ranking of 55, and entered Cornell University in the United States to study agriculture. During this time, Hu Shi became acquainted with the first woman of his life, Miss Wei Liansi, the second daughter of his mentor. In Hu Shi's mind, Miss Wei Liansi is fully in line with his understanding and understanding of the new woman.
"High character, rich in knowledge, extremely capable of thinking, high purity and almost madness, reading a lot, seeing a lot, it is really beyond the shoulders of ordinary women."
Hu Shi used all the beautiful words he could use to praise Miss Wei Liansi, and Hu Shi's elegant temperament also attracted Miss Wei Liansi, and the love between the two naturally happened.
Hu Shi and Wei Liansi Picture from the internet
The relationship between Hu Shi and Miss Wei Liansi is a spark caused by the collision of ideas, which should be counted as love.
Hu Shi had another new love in the United States, and this kind of thing was destined not to be revealed at all, and Feng Shundi began to feel bad. Therefore, when Hu Shi wrote to propose to withdraw from the marriage, she strongly refused, and as for wanting to marry Wei Liansi as a wife, she did not want to think about it.
In the United States, Hu Shi really can't face Wei Liansi's enthusiasm, in his opinion, as long as he has a relationship with Miss Wei Liansi beyond friendship, then he must marry her. Therefore, before he and Miss Wei Liansi had a relationship beyond friendship, Hu Shi finally confessed the fact that he had been married in his hometown in China.
Upon hearing the news, Velians collapsed. When Wei Liansi's mother learned of this, she was even more resolutely opposed to foreign marriage. In this way, under the unanimous opposition of the two old ladies, Hu Shi and Wei Liansi had to terminate their relationship. Hu Shi chose to return to China, while Wei Liansi never married.
The relationship between Hu Shi and Wei Liansi should be counted as Hu Shi's first love.
First love is often the most beautiful, but this relationship finally died, although there are many external factors interfering, but if Hu Shi insists, it is doomed not to be this result, it is likely to be a beautiful marriage. However, it was precisely because of Hu Shi's personality problems that it eventually caused Lao Yan to fly apart, and some lovers eventually did not become dependents.
Just like Hu Shi's friend Tang Degang's evaluation of Hu Shi:
"Mr. Hu Shi is a timid gentleman who is affectionate and stops at courtesy, and he does not dare to rebel when he engages in politics, and he cannot make any bold style when he falls in love."
On December 30, 1917, Hu Shi returned to his hometown to marry Jiang Dongxiu, which can also be regarded as the end of his mother Feng Shundi's thoughts.
But this time, Hu Shi definitely consummated the marriage to take care of his mother's feelings. According to Hu Shi's own letter to a friend:
I have never been picky and embarrassed about this marriage, so I have never been picky and embarrassed, (if I had not done this, I would never have married this, but this meaning can be under the foot, not enough for outsiders to say,) Now that I am married, I strive to accommodate my mother' heart...
Jiang Dongxiu did not read much, but after all, it was everyone's bridesmaid, and after marrying Hu Shi, she also showed a gentle and gentle boudoir temperament. Moreover, during the 13 years that Jiang Dongxiu had been guarding the empty house, he had also shown his ability as a daughter-in-law of everyone, not only handling the family affairs in an orderly manner, but also being very filial to Feng Shundi, and also fulfilling the obligation of filial piety for Hu Shi.
But Jiang Dongxiu also has shortcomings, that is, playing mahjong, and extremely addictive. Hu Shi is a literati who needs to meditate when writing, but whenever Jiang Dongxiu calls on friends to come to his home to play mahjong, the sound of the rushing makes Hu Shi unable to write at ease, which makes Hu Shi very disgusted with Jiang Dongxiu.
If there is only this contradiction, Hu Shi will not have to empathize with other people. After all, Jiang Dongxiu is a good wife and mother in other aspects.
Cao Chengying Picture from the Internet
It was during this period that a new woman named Cao Chengying appeared.
To talk about the relationship between Hu Shi and Cao Chengying, there is still a little bit of origin. When Hu Shi and Jiang Dongxiu were married, Cao Chengying appeared as a bridesmaid and became acquainted with Hu Shi. In 1923, Hu Shi went on a business trip to Shanghai, and Cao Chengying accompanied him for 5 days, so the two collided with a spark, and they couldn't get out of control.
As a famous literati, Hu Shi once received the admiration of too many literary young women, and gave Hu Shi a love letter. Although Hu Shi was timid, he also had an affair with some young women. But it was the first time that there was a vigorous emotional entanglement with Cao Chengying.
In Hu Shi's eyes, Cao Chengying is a delicate little cousin (Cao Chengying is the sister of Hu Shi's third sister-in-law), and compared with the atmospheric Wei Liansi and the assertive ambiguous girlfriend Chen Hengzhe, men have a desire to protect. To this end, Hu Shi, who has always been timid, plucked up courage this time and proposed a divorce to Jiang Dongxiu.
In the face of her husband's betrayal, Jiang Dongxiu was also very crisp, she first threw out a fruit knife, seeing that there was no way to suppress Hu Shi, Jiang Dongxiu simply took out a kitchen knife from the kitchen and threatened Hu Shidao, wanting to divorce, then she killed her two sons and then committed suicide.
Jiang Dongxiu's pungency was something That Hu Shi had never expected, and he had never expected Jiang Dongxiu to be able to do so! Under the threat of the kitchen knife, Hu Shi flinched, fearing that Jiang Dongxiu had really killed his two sons and that his reputation in society would be damaged. Therefore, the husband and wife agreed to a chapter of the law, and from then on, the two never mentioned the divorce to each other, and this matter should not have happened.
However, since then, Hu Shi has added another fear, that is, he is afraid of his old wife.
In fact, Jiang Dongxiu had already seen through Hu Shi's weakness, that is, one was timidity, and the other was afraid of damage to his reputation.
At this time, Hu Shi had already determined his position in the cultural world and had a good position in society, and what this kind of person cared about most was that his reputation was damaged. If Jiang Dongxiu really made the move to kill his son in order to prevent divorce, then Hu Shi's reputation would be swept away in an instant.
The so-called tiger poison does not eat children, as a mother, how could Jiang Dongxiu kill her son in order to prevent Hu Shi from divorcing?
After experiencing this storm, Hu Shi finally dismissed the idea of divorcing Jiang Dongxiu, but his secret contact with Cao Chengying did not decrease at all. For the secret exchanges between the two, Jiang Dongxiu actually knows, but Jiang Dongxiu only cares about his status as a big wife, as long as Hu Shi does not lead people into the house to replace himself, other things will turn a blind eye.
But Cao Chengying was an infatuated person, and seeing that she could not combine with Hu Shi, she chose to study at Cornell University in the United States where Hu Shi studied, and stayed on the mainland after liberation, and was buried in jixi's hometown after death.
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After the complete breakup with Cao Chengying, Hu Shi's heart finally returned to the family, on the one hand, because of these several times of crazy women's negative heart, his heart was exhausted, no matter which woman he had, he had regrets, guilt and reluctance in his heart, and he no longer dared to accept this feeling; on the other hand, Hu Shi also found many advantages of Jiang Dongxiu, running a family, doing things well, taking care of himself, although there is the disadvantage of playing mahjong, but this is not a big deal. As long as you are tolerant of yourself, that is.
Since then, Hu Shiyi has changed his past cold violence against his wife and has also begun to learn to care for Jiang Dongxiu. Since you love to play mahjong, then I will prepare a mahjong room for you alone, and when Jiang Dongxiu is temporarily in trouble, Hu Shi also put down his body and touched a few for Jiang Dongxiu; since Jiang Dongxiu likes to read martial arts novels, then I will prepare a bookshelf alone. All in all, during this period, Hu Shi was very good to Jiang Dongxiu, which can be regarded as making up for the grievances that Jiang Dongxiu had suffered for decades.
Unexpectedly, at Hu Shi's funeral, Jiang Dongxiu, as a widow, actually came to such a show, performing a beating of the corpse in full view of everyone, and crying while beating: The dead ghost Hu Shizhi!
In the poignant crying, it not only revealed Jiang Dongxiu's reluctance to Hu Shi's death, but also had too much grief and anger, and contained too much emotion.
But I don't know how Dr. Hu Shi under quanxia felt and how he felt about this appearance of Jiang Dongxiu?