The old man often said: The small tree is not repaired and does not slip straight.
All along, parents beating their children is regarded as a common thing, parents in the process of guiding education, it is inevitable that there will be times when emotions are out of control, so it is inevitable to do it.
However, in the minds of some parents, they do not think so, perhaps they are also beaten from childhood to adulthood, and when they disobey their children, they will only respond to violence with violence.
Whether a child is beaten or not has nothing to do with the child's character
According to the survey, more than 75% of children have been beaten by their parents since childhood.
Whether at home or abroad, many parents define their children as belongings. The children I give birth to are all up to me, and even my orders are obeyed.
If you live in such a family, the child must always live carefully in words and deeds, and cannot take away any of his feelings. Because of this, it will make the parents unhappy and will be beaten.
But there are some children who are beaten, but this is not the case, parents are not control freaks, nor are they too coercive parents, but when they want to solve a problem, they will still choose to fight, because the effect of beating is faster.
In this way, things that could have been persuaded to educate were added up. If it is only once or twice, it is not a big deal, and if you form a habit, the situation is difficult to control.
What is the difference between a child after being beaten?
Children who are often beaten become more violent and arbitrary
We all know that the influence of the original family on the child's childhood can be described as very large, they accumulate experience by imitating the actions of their parents, just like the first time they eat something, only when they see their parents eat, they will be at ease.
Similarly, when faced with their own mistakes, children accept the punches and kicks of their parents, which will make them have such an impression, and later when dealing with similar situations, they will imitate it.
Therefore, such children will be more violent, their emotions are prone to fluctuations, and they lack patience in doing things, which can be solved calmly, but they are dominated by emotions.
And when they are educating their children, they will only intensify, not diminish. After all, that's how they first got the experience, and they could only vent in this way.
Children who never get beaten are more empathetic and more resistant
Parents often say that children do not understand anything when they are young, and they remember to eat and do not remember to fight. In fact, children are more able to remember to fight, followed by eating. Because children can distinguish between outsiders' attitudes and emotions towards themselves from the age of 3. Compared to people who don't like them, they will throw hugs to those who like them.
In addition, when children make mistakes, even if the parents do not beat them, they give them a stern look, they are scared to death, let alone really slapped.
Therefore, those who have never been beaten, their lovers will be higher, know when to look at the color, when to ease the atmosphere, when to bow their heads and admit their mistakes.
Quality of life: Children who have not been beaten know how to enjoy life better
Because I have not been beaten, I have not experienced the pain of flesh and skin, and I naturally have very few resentments towards my parents. In life, they always feel a beautiful, sunny side, although they will also make mistakes, but there are always parents to wipe their butts.
Therefore, they are also "fearless", but it is not that they completely ignore all the results, but to the greatest extent, they can listen to their inner life.
This is a luxury for those children who have been beaten. Because their cautious actions will lead to scolding, let alone letting go and enjoying.
Even if they have a smooth life, they will still worry that this is the quiet before the storm, and such beauty and quiet must not belong to their own gains and losses.
Alpaca mom has something to say:
If it is in a hurry, it is not necessarily a bad thing to do by chance, and I am afraid that I am afraid that my parents have formed a habit. Parents as adults, habit formation and change are very easy, but children are different, once their childhood habits are formed, it is difficult to change in the future.
Today's Topic:
Have you ever had your child beaten? In what situations did you hit him? Are there any times when you particularly regret it?