In the eyes of many parents, the Internet is like a devil, allowing children to indulge in it, waste time, abandon schoolwork, and even cause sharp parent-child conflicts. But I must remind parents that prevention is greater than cure. The real devil is hidden in the details of parent-child interaction, in the unsatisfied mind of the child, not in the screen where the phone or computer can be seen.
In the face of children's addiction to the Internet, prevention is greater than treatment. When internet addiction occurs, it is a real problem. It can be reflected that children may not be satisfied in real life in some psychological needs, and then pursue this virtual sense of satisfaction. Parents are worried that their children's addiction to the Internet or even Internet addiction can not only cure the symptoms but not the root cause, so they still have to go back to the parent-child relationship to find its deeper reasons.
Parents' correct cognition is very important, and being too nervous and worried is actually overreacting. From the ordinary addiction to the Internet, all the way to the back is really to define the degree of addiction. There are many specific manifestations in this, and the situation may be different for each teenager. From the length of time, it generally takes about a year from being addicted to the Internet to a state of illness.
Many children may be at home in the summer and suddenly play crazy games, playing for two months, then parents do not have to be nervous to feel bad. My child has internet addiction, parents must have timely observation and mastery of the time their children use the Internet and his psychological state. On this basis, flexible guidance.
Some friends said that if they want to know some specific methods, they can effectively observe and control the internet use of adolescents from the perspective of ordinary parents. Simply put, if there are some signs in daily life, parents should pay attention. How to prevent problems in ordinary daily life and parent-child communication angles?
The most important thing for parents is to be good at seeing the essence of the problem through the phenomenon. Because when parents face their children, they face some small trivial things every day, and it is easy to fall into a state of discussing things and clinging to the details. This kind of problem will cause conflict between parents and children or a small matter. More importantly, whether the parents are too concerned about small problems, so as to completely ignore the big situation behind these small problems. I think parents should have a bit of a big picture view now, and learn to understand and grasp the overall physical and mental condition of their children through small things and small problems.
First of all, let's throw bricks and lead the jade, when there are three signs below, parents should pay attention.
First, it may be that in order to play some video games or go to social networking sites, this child will excessively sleep and forget to eat, and the regularity of life will be completely messed up. That is, when everyone goes to bed at night, he may continue to play some games in the middle of the night.
So what do parents have to do to find out? If we feel that there is a situation, we can go to the child's room at night to see if they are sleeping well. If you are addicted to the Internet, it is easy to get up late the next day and be late for school. At this time, parents should not only pay attention to the fact that their children are late for school, but also think more about what causes their children to be late for school.
Second, in addition to daily routines, diets may also become abnormal. For example, if you don't come out to eat with everyone in the room, some parents even make three meals and then put them outside the so-called room, let him take it in by himself, and eat while surfing the Internet. This situation is generally unbearable for parents. Therefore, the development of this situation shows that there are already some problems in parent-child interaction itself.
Third, if the child hangs on the Internet all day, his academic performance will not be able to take into account, and his academic performance will definitely be affected, or even plummeted, so academic regression will be a symptom. Parents should think more about it and observe what causes the child's performance to regress, rather than simply and rudely teaching the child, not studying well, and not studying seriously.
Fourth, it is the performance of the child's emotions. For example, when you remind him that we should limit the time of internet use appropriately, he will start arguing with you and his emotions will be out of control. If the parents are careful enough, they will be able to detect the problem beforehand. If parents can be firm enough, they will definitely intervene early and intervene in time.
Because the development of the network is really too fast, it has been completely deeply tied to our lives, so our judgment of the network is actually constantly changing. In the face of Internet addicted teenagers at home, parents must neither wrongfully accuse their children nor indulge their children.
The key point is to know how to combine scientific theories with specific realities, synthesize them to make judgments, and try not to be affected by their own life experience and emotional cognition.
To be precise, judgment is the first step. From the parent's point of view, it is necessary to first figure out what the specific situation is, and then you can take further actions. After we really found out that this child was addicted to the Internet, we had to intervene as soon as possible. Early intervention Early management prognosis is good.
If it gets to the point of addiction it's very troublesome. In fact, as long as the word addiction is mentioned that he is the most difficult to deal with in the whole psychology or psychiatric medicine, it would not be called addiction. From the perspective of physiological brain science, in the state of addiction to the Internet, the dopamine in the brain will be secreted in large quantities, which is reflected in the psychology, and teenagers will also be addicted to it in order to pursue that virtual stimulation and sense of achievement.
Because of the physiological addiction, perhaps medical intervention has its focus, but the environment partly comes from the content of parents' education in the family. In this part, many parents will not feel that they have problems. We also often see that some parents tell their children to put away their mobile phones quickly and not to play. On the other hand, he is still holding a mobile phone to surf the Internet, or pointing to how the child does not go to sleep, but he does not want to go to sleep.
At this time, children often feel very strange, why you can do it I can't. So are the attitudes of parents and their words and deeds consistent? It is the key to whether I can successfully solve the problem of Internet addiction, and it can even be said to be the most important key.
There used to be schools that helped teens quit their addiction, and many parents sent their children there. In that isolated environment, it is hoped that the strength of the group and strict management can be used to correct the child's behavior. But does this work well? If you think it works well at the moment, it could be an illusion.
Because if the child returns to the original family environment, it is likely that the parents who can only preach but do not behave consistently are likely to return to the original point. Parents must not regard Internet addiction as an isolated problem, which is caused by children's disobedience and lack of self-control. If you want to treat both the symptoms and the root causes, parents must start by changing the family environment and parent-child relationship.
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