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Class disparities have existed since the existence of human beings, and with the continuous development of society, the class disparities have become economic disparities.
The gap between rich and poor has been a problem that our country has been facing since its inception, and the problem of the gap between rich and poor does not only occur in our country, but also in most countries around the world.
As the old saying goes, "Three generations of poverty, no more than three generations of wealth." "Because in ancient China, the cycle of heavenly reason was emphasized, and rich and poor is a cyclical process. But according to the current social situation, this statement is obviously no longer appropriate.
Modern people often say: "It is difficult to produce a noble son in the cold door." "It's also very difficult for children living in poor families to become rich. Why are most of the children of the poor still poor in the second generation? What is the root cause?
In the early years, China produced a high-scoring documentary called "Father", and the director showed us many educational problems in families in poor areas of China in a documentary shooting method, and also showed the public that children who grew up in the wrong way of education are difficult to break through the problem of poverty and embark on the peak of life.
Cognitive error: Only going to school is advisable
Most Chinese families actually have such a problem, I believe that many people have a deep understanding of this, with China's test-taking education, so that in the eyes of most parents and teachers, only children with good grades are good children, otherwise, it is an unqualified student, wasting the cultivation of parents and teachers.
In the environment of test-oriented education, this is normal, the score is above all else, which also leads to the growth of the child, parents will ignore things other than the grade, only good grades can make parents happy.
For these parents, it is undeniable that children must study hard to have a better way out, and learning is indeed very important, but it is also wrong to mistakenly confine children to the cage of learning.
The protagonist of the documentary "Father", Han Peiyin, is like this, he attaches great importance to the academic performance of his son Han Shengli, and he also tries to be as meticulous as possible in his son's daily expenses.
Because the family environment is already poor, and he also feels that his son will not have much expenses in school, therefore, the living expenses that Han Shengli can get every month are only enough to solve the problem of food and clothing.
Such a living expense allows Han Shengli to focus on learning, without any opportunity to contact and improve his other skills. This misconception indirectly limits the child's development space, so it is difficult to get out of poverty by relying on books alone.
Complaint-based education: Let children bear too much psychological pressure
In "Father", Han Peiyin often complains to his son about the difficulties of life, telling his son that he has paid most of the family's savings in order to let him go to school and get a better education. And it is true that it is not easy to cultivate a college student for Han Peiyin's family.
However, it is useless to complain with children often, and parents care about the pleasure of their own language, but they do not notice that such complaints will make children feel guilty.
Over time, the child's inner pressure will continue to increase, not only can not play a role in supervising the child's learning, but also in the child's heart a heavy shackles.
This almost deformed way of education will fundamentally hinder a child's development, and even under great psychological pressure, it will secretly choose to give up schooling and self-sacrifice.
Crying poor education: let children get unsound development
In many poor areas, crying poor education is very common, parents will often tell their children, our family spends all the money on your education, you go to school outside, we live very hard at home, you have spent a lot of money, you must save the money given to you by your parents.
The original intention of parents is not wrong, let the child be thrifty and thrifty, study well, but, over time, this kind of crying education is likely to bring excessive psychological pressure to the child, first of all, to the child set the label of "poor", so that he is afraid of life in society, gradually give up the struggle, do not want to change the status quo.
Secondly, living under this kind of crying education for a long time, children are likely to form inferiority complex. Feeling inferior to their own family, not daring to interact with the people around them, and thinking that they are inferior, which has a great negative impact on the growth and development of children.
All in all, poverty limits people's imagination and makes young people cower in society, afraid to invest boldly, dare not start a business, and dare not boldly put forward their own ideas.
The impact of poverty on a person's thinking and cognition is huge and irreversible, and without a good family education environment, it will greatly affect the development of children.
This is the reason why "it is difficult to get a noble son out of the cold door". If you want to change the status quo of poverty, only reasonable family education and the child's own positive progress can achieve the best results.
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参考资料：Bruk, A., Scholl, S. G., & Bless, H. (2018). Beautiful mess effect: Self–other differences in evaluation of showing vulnerability. Journal of personality and social psychology, 115(2), 192-205