The neighbor's 4-year-old son, Nan Nan, was persuaded to leave the kindergarten again.
Although Nannan looks similar to children of the same age, but the self-care ability is very poor: usually need to be fed, do not know how to go to the toilet, has been 4 years old and often peed in the pants, in the kindergarten always fight with children, want other children's toys, once the other party does not give to grab.
For these reasons, the first kindergarten lasted less than half a semester, the second kindergarten only attended for more than a week, and the third kindergarten did not enroll, and the kindergarten directly said that it would not accept children who could not take care of themselves.
This made Nannan's mother feel very difficult to accept, and she had no choice but to take the child to the hospital to see what was wrong.
After a thorough examination, the doctor said that the child has no major problems, but the development is obviously somewhat delayed, whether it is refined motor ability, emotional control ability or social ability, language ability, there are some deficiencies, about only the level of 2-3-year-old children.
After a detailed conversation with Nannan's mother, the doctor concluded: "The reason why the child will be stunted is that the parents are too pampered, so that the child loses the opportunity to exercise himself, and does not develop qualified self-care ability."
Nannan's mother only knew that her original care for her child actually affected the normal growth and development of her child, and she was determined to make changes.
Although it is understandable that parents love their children, in real life, situations like Nannan are actually not in the minority, because of the excessive doting of parents, children have eaten a lot of "bitter heads" just after kindergarten, and every parent should be vigilant about this, do not let love become "obstacles".
Parents should develop regular work and rest habits for their children
The biggest difference between kindergarten and family is that kindergarten is a collective living environment with specific regulations, and children must know how to follow the rules.
Some parents are too doting on their children, allowing their children to play non-stop before going to bed at night, and if they do not get up in the morning, they will sleep until they wake up naturally, resulting in a very irregular habit of work and rest for their children.
When children come to kindergarten, when faced with the need to get up regularly, take a lunch break, sleep habits, it is often difficult to adapt for a while, often late in the morning to go to kindergarten, a hundred times more energetic when napping, and sleepy when doing games in the afternoon, and finally not only the child is very hard, the teacher is also difficult to effectively discipline.
Therefore, in order to avoid children not adapting to the kindergarten's work and rest time, we should let the children develop good work and rest habits for the children in advance at least half a year before entering the kindergarten, and eat and sleep regularly, otherwise it is often too late for the children to enter the kindergarten and then "hold the Buddha's feet".
Parents should cultivate self-care skills for their children
Unlike being able to get 24-hour care from their mother at home, in kindergarten, children learn to take care of themselves.
Female star Mayashu has caused a lot of controversy because of too doting on children, when her daughter Miya entered kindergarten at the age of 3, she actually did not lift her pants, nor could she go to the toilet by herself, and the teacher learned that she issued an "ultimatum" and asked Mayashu to solve the problem within two weeks, otherwise she would face the persuasion of the kindergarten.
But the habits that have been developed for a long time can be changed, and Mayashu and her lover have a big dispute because of this, and the daughter's self-care ability has become an unsolvable problem.
Just like what happened to Mayashu's daughter, no matter how meticulous and thoughtful the kindergarten teacher is, she can't always take care of the child to go to the toilet and help the child lift his pants.
In the process of educating children, it is necessary to properly let go, let the children grasp some necessary life skills in advance, such as going to the toilet, eating by themselves, putting on and undressing themselves, etc. If the children go to kindergarten, they are also prepared to "stretch out their hands and eat to open their mouths", it is difficult to say whether they will also be persuaded by the kindergarten.
Parents should cultivate their children's basic communication skills
Parents are too spoiled for their children, and it is easy to develop a petulant and willful personality for their children, and they cannot have normal interpersonal interactions with children.
Children in the 2-3 years old, has a strong sense of self, will pay more attention to their own needs, if parents in the family education is not correct guidance, children in other children get along, often reveal some "selfish" performance, causing a variety of contradictions,
When we educate children, we should consciously cultivate children's basic social skills, so that children learn to express themselves and listen to and understand the ideas of other children.
In the process of communicating with peers, children can be made aware of some basic rules of getting along with people, understand that they cannot beat people with their hands, have problems to express in time, how to play with children, etc., and help children learn how to get along with their peers in kindergarten in advance.
Write at the end:
Parents must not only love their children, but also learn "how to love" and master the correct education methods, otherwise excessive coddling of children will only cause harm.
Before children enter kindergarten, we must teach children to master these basic abilities in order to ensure that children adapt to kindergarten life as soon as possible and live more comfortably.
Today's topic: Do you have children around you who have been dissuaded from kindergarten?