Original author: Peng Guixiang| Inner Mongolia Alxa League
Mobile phones
Last night my daughter posted a small video (flying water) with a small stone doing experiments. Little Stone said: "Doing this experiment will allow me to look at my phone less." "A small experiment, a childlike fairy tale, touched my heartstrings and made me deeply touched.
Today, on the way home to pick up the little stone, I talked to him about doing experiments. Little Stone said, "I asked my mother to buy me this toy." I saw it on my grandfather's mobile phone, there was an eight-year-old child who had broken his eyes because he looked at the mobile phone, and he bought this toy. One experiment a day can make him play less with his phone. ”
This description of the little stone plunges me into contemplation.
Now the phenomenon that children like to play with mobile phones, every family has a reaction. Many parents are troubled by their children's addiction to mobile phones, and they always feel that their children are not self-disciplined enough. Some experts say that the truth is that parents do not urge their children to develop good habits from an early age.
Everyone feels the same way. Sometimes in some public places (especially in the restaurant), you will see some phenomena; parents brush their mobile phones, and children are bored on the side; or give children a mobile phone, and parents are chatting hotly on the side; in this way, we adults do not leave the mobile phone every day, let alone children. Have we ever thought about how our children feel and the adverse effects on them?
In this information age, the amount of information on mobile phones and the number of various types of online games can indeed arouse children's curiosity. Their complete lack of resistance to mobile games led to a steady increase in interest in mobile phones.
Once, Xiao Shi said: Grandma, if I study hard, become the head of the work, and then become the president, will I be able to look at my mobile phone? The feeling at the time was playful and cute and funny.
It can be seen how much children like to look at mobile phones.
Usually at home, because of the phenomenon of children looking at mobile phones, there are often some differences. Often the more pampered party in the family is almost responsive to the child's requirements, so the child's dependence on him is very strong. At the critical time, the mobile phone will become one of the conditions he asks for.
This phenomenon has to be taken seriously. Children's curiosity about mobile phones and enthusiasm for mobile games need to be controlled by parents according to the situation. So as to urge the child to develop a good habit from an early age, so that he has a sense of rules. Thus alleviating or abstaining from the effects of this bad habit on the child.
Fortunately, the state has introduced control measures related to online games.
The State Press and Publication Administration issued the "Circular on Further Strict Management and Effectively Preventing Minors from Indulging in Online Games."
The notice requires strict restrictions on the time available to minors for online gaming services. All online gaming enterprises can only provide 1 hour of service to minors from 20:00 to 21:00 every day on Fridays, Saturdays, Sundays and statutory holidays, and shall not provide online gaming services to minors in any form at other times;
With state control measures. In daily life, family members should work together to create a good family atmosphere for their children.
Some experts say that it is impossible to control children to look at mobile phones without touching them, the key is to control time and transfer children's interests. Help them control this degree to guide and educate their children.
Let's work together and explore the following:
First, divert the child's attention
In his spare time, he can accompany the child to do some games he likes; for example, eagles catch chickens, hide cats and cats, or find toys that the child likes to distract him.
Or bring a gourmet meal with you and take your kids around the city's attractions.
Go to the countryside, go to the desert, get close to the embrace of nature, enjoy the sun and food, grass and flowers, and fully enjoy the fun that nature brings us.
Second, control the time when the child plays the mobile phone
When children play with mobile phones, it is best for parents not to forcibly seize mobile phones or shout at children.
Instead, it is clear planning, including time planning and permissions planning.
When your child proposes to look at the phone, communicate with him to form a good agreement. (Specified time) For example, you can only watch for 15-20 minutes at a time, and it can only be on weekends. Imprint this time in your child's memory and let him have a plan in his own mind. When the time comes, take the initiative to return. (Specially buy an alarm clock, jingle bells, time to go)
Third, make full use of authority planning
Today I learned about this pattern through Douyin.
That is, it is set through the parent mode in the mobile phone (there are very systematic settings, and some content needs to be viewed with the permission of the parents) and its content and time can be set separately for different APPS. This makes it easier to control your child. This allows you to control the quality of the downloaded content. You can download more games to develop intelligence. Fun games like Hunn Literacy, for example, are guided step by step.
Fourth, cultivate children's interests and hobbies
In children's lives, dig more of their interest points, such as painting, vocal music, physical fitness, etc., find children's interests, and then cultivate them.
You can also take him outside to participate in some sports activities. (e.g. kicking, cycling, etc.)
Fifth, cultivate children's concentration
Usually, parents can buy some handmade puzzles, handmade paper cuts, etc. The completion of a puzzle and paper cut takes about 1 to 2 hours, which can not only cultivate the child's hands-on ability, but also cultivate the child's attention. In short, spend more time with children.
The last point: parents do not let their children play mobile phones, first of all, parents try to play less mobile phones in front of their children, so that children will greatly reduce the contact time with mobile phones.
In this regard, the niece and daughter's approach is to try to see less or no mobile phone before the child goes to bed.
As the saying goes, parents are a child's first teacher, and the family is the most important school for a child.
As a parent, it is actually very simple to lead by example and provide a good learning atmosphere for children.
The growth of each child is a process of continuous exploration, continuous attempting, and continuous improvement.
We may not be perfect parents, but we can be parents who keep learning and improving.
We may as well try to use the "heart" to enjoy the process of parenting and nurturing children, then our lives will be half successful.
One expert put it this way: "If you want the field not to grow grass, the best way is to plant crops in the field." If you want a smart child not toss, cultivate his habit of reading. ”
For the sake of children's future lives, what we must do is to start from now on, continuously learn, explore, plan, design, and persist.
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Peng Guixiang is a medical worker and a member of the Hanhai Garden Book Club. Hobbies: Reading, fitness, and traveling. On weekdays, he likes to photograph flowers and flowers to beautify his life, likes to record his spiritual feelings with words, and enjoy life lightly.