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It is said that the daughter is the father's "little cotton jacket", in many family relationships, the father-daughter relationship is often better, and even sometimes the father's spoiling of the daughter is so good that even the mother will be jealous, so many netizens have joked and ridiculed: "You are a delivery, the father and daughter are the family." Although it is a joke, it can also be explained from the side that in many families, fathers and daughters get along very well.
This kind of intimate relationship, when the child is relatively small, is nothing, but with the gradual growth of the child, the so-called "child avoids the mother and daughter to avoid the father", with the child's physical development and the germination of personality awareness, parents of the opposite sex should pay more attention to some daily words and deeds in the process of getting along with the child, not too intimate, and even some beyond the boundaries of parent-child.
The father and daughter played, the daughter sat directly on the lap, and the mother was accused of overreacting
I saw such a case on the Internet before, a "daughter slave" father usually has a very good relationship with his daughter, often accompanies the child to play, and as the child grows up, the physical development becomes obvious, but the way the father and daughter play has not changed, or the same "intimacy".
This summer, the father and daughter play at home, due to the heat, the father will be bare-chested, the lower body only wears a pair of shorts, the daughter is also relatively cool, the mother has not known once to see the daughter wearing a skirt directly sitting on the father's lap to play, and from time to time may also be "kissed" with the father.
The mother realized that her daughter was getting older, the father and daughter were of the opposite sex after all, and some aspects should be slightly avoided, so she reminded her husband to pay attention to it at home.
But after several reminders, the husband was still how to do, indifferent, and once even the daughter directly wore a skirt and lay on her father's body, scratching each other's arm sockets. This face finally made the mother angry, thinking that the husband really did not take his words seriously.
After that, the mother complained about this matter on the Internet, who knows that it has received a lot of netizens' attention, but the voices of netizens are different, some netizens agree with the mother's point of view, thinking that "the female big avoids the father" is the right thing, and some netizens say that the mother is a bit fussy, too sensitive, the opposite sex parents and children to maintain the boundaries should be, but the appropriate physical contact is also reasonable, the mother's reaction is too extreme, may affect the father-daughter relationship, this is "beyond the line"!
In fact, in life, it is a very happy thing for a daughter to have a pampered father to accompany, and it can be said that there are many benefits for fathers to accompany their daughters, which not only enhances the parent-child relationship, but also makes the daughter gradually become brave and confident. However, "female avoidance of father" is not unreasonable, as the daughter grows up, some places do need attention.
In life, how should a father properly accompany his daughter?
1. Avoid excessive pampering
Many "daughter slave" fathers have been obedient to their daughters since they were young, pampered, as long as they can do it, they will definitely satisfy their children, and children can be said to have grown up holding honeypots. But in fact, pampering should also have a measure and a scale.
Parents' love for their children should be based on educating children to be humble and courteous, and to be kind, and help children cultivate a correct world view, outlook on life, and values. Blind spoiling may develop a child into a petite personality, and in the end it will harm the child.
2. Pay attention to respecting children's privacy
In the eyes of parents, children will always be children who have not grown up, but the child's body is constantly developing, sooner or later it will grow up, parents must not forget the most basic respect and equality between people because of too close parents and children.
No matter how small the child is, it is also an independent individual, and it also has its own privacy, especially the gender difference in the process of father-daughter relationship, which requires us to pay more attention to respecting our daughters and protecting their children's privacy. Don't over-interfere, discipline, or even try to explore your child's secrets and privacy.
3. Create a harmonious family atmosphere
In the process of children's growth, the original family may have a direct impact on their character development and future development, and the harmonious family atmosphere is also easy to cultivate the child's stable character, so that the child's heart is full, and he can bravely face the ups and downs of life.
4. No matter how intimate it is, it should also maintain an appropriate distance
The so-called difference between men and women, even between father and daughter, with the child's physical development, the budding of sexual consciousness, in some aspects the child will become sensitive, which requires parents to pay more attention to the boundaries between parents and children in some details of life. Especially between father and daughter, when the daughter gradually enters puberty, the father should pay more attention to maintaining an appropriate parent-child distance from the daughter. Starting from some daily life details, such as the father knocking on the door before entering the daughter's room, the daily interaction should not be too intimate, and slowly let the daughter understand what is called "safe distance", which is actually teaching the daughter how to face the opposite sex and protect herself in the future.
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