Wen | snow fell without dust
The red dust in the world, if you remember it, will definitely make people restless. Therefore, only when the pattern of people's hearts is large, and nothing is broken or rotten.
Many people say that their lives are hard and they are not welcomed by others. In fact, a lot of it is caused by your small heart and eyes.
Life is a mirror, you smile at it, it smiles at you; you cry at it, it cries at you. Therefore, smiling at everyone around you, having an inclusive heart and a tolerant capacity, in order to live comfortably.
Once the pattern in the heart is bigger, the world is also bigger. On the other hand, those who are narrow-minded are really sad.
In a person's lifetime, only with a "big heart" can everything go smoothly.
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Live in the belly of a gentleman with the heart of a villain, and the road becomes narrower and narrower
There is a saying that goes like this: "If you want to become a tree, don't argue with the grass; the general has a sword, but does not cut down flies." ”
People with a broad heart will have a big pattern, and they often do not care about others. For their hearts can see the wide road, not limited to the alley.
People with a large pattern have a wide field of vision, will be favored by the people around them, and will have flowers everywhere they go; while people with small patterns are narrow-minded, no one likes it, and they will naturally avoid it.
During the Three Kingdoms period, there is an allusion to "Zhuge Liang's Three Qi Zhou Yu" because Zhou Yu's narrow-mindedness and his eyes cannot tolerate Zhuge Liang being smarter than himself.
He tried every means to make things difficult for Zhuge Liang, but he did not expect that Zhuge Liang saw the tricks and dismantled the moves, and he cleverly escaped.
However, in the face of zhuge liang's plan for himself, Zhou Yu was powerless, and was eventually killed by Zhuge Liang.
On the other hand, Zhou Yu has always believed that "he shengyu he shengliang" is precisely because of his narrow-mindedness and everywhere he frames Zhuge Liang. He formed a hatred with Zhuge Liang and eventually became his own way of no return.
It can be seen from this that the path of the small-minded person is so narrow that it is not only unpopular, but also offends people everywhere. Such a person will prevent his career and life from developing in a better direction.
In real life, many optimistic and cheerful people with large patterns are full of laughter and laughter everywhere they go, and everyone sees people and loves them.
Such a person will naturally have his own place in society. And people with small hearts, they are trapped in their own steps forward, stuck in their own ways, and stagnant.
"Cai Gen Tan" has a saying: "Do not blame the villain, do not send people to be selfish, and do not remember the old evil." The three can cultivate virtue or harm. ”
Being a person, if you can be open-minded, not casually take revenge with people, and treat others with kindness, in fact, you are the greatest kindness and responsibility for yourself.
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Don't worry about the past, just laugh for the rest of your life
Psychology has a "diffraction response," meaning that the subsequent effects of an event often depend on the mindset in which people look at it.
A lot of times, mindset is everything. The same thing, if you always stare at the shortcomings, the shortcomings will be infinitely magnified, and even lead to a series of bad consequences, and eventually become a stumbling block to your failure in life.
For people in the world, focusing on the future will have gains; always clinging to the past, not only can not get anything, but also can not get out of the shackles of feelings, let themselves be wronged in the past, can not extricate themselves.
Confucius's student Yan Hui lived a very hard life. If it is someone else, they must be worried every day, but they can't see the trouble of Yan Hui at all.
Why? Because Yan Hui always focuses on things that are beneficial, such as learning and progressing, and never cares about what to eat or wear.
In people's hearts, once they pay attention to meaningful things, they will reduce a lot of psychological pressure for themselves. In this way, you can make your body and mind healthy and have hope for life.
The writer Sanmao was very distressed when he lost Jose. Because he could not pull out in pain, he chose to be with Jose on the other side of the red dust.
There is a saying in the Analects: "Those who go to the past cannot be advised, but those who come can still be traced." ”
Life is trapped in a painful past, just a swamp of thoughts, unable to extricate itself and no one can save it.
Tagore once said, "If you cry because you miss the sun, then you will also miss the stars." ”
If a person's vision is too small, it is like a frog at the bottom of the well, can only see the small piece of the world in front of him, or just entangled in his own past, natural life will not have great development and achievements.
Only by relaxing your mind and throwing away all the bad, failed, and irritable things in the past. Try to look forward, let your heart contain a wider world, and the days can pass more and more comfortable.
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If the heart is quiet, the heart is at ease, and the peace of mind is the peace of mind
There is a hot theory on the Internet: "When a person is over thirty, what abilities should be cultivated?" ”
One highly praised answer was: "When I quit my emotions, I found that everything became simple." ”
As adults, we only learn to control our emotions so that we don't get too much trouble for ourselves.
If a person's mind is too small and there are many things to pretend, it is inevitable that he will become upset and unstable all day, not to mention a normal diet and living.
As the saying goes: "If you don't know enough, you will be trapped in a cage; if you don't have enough wisdom, you will have emotional chaos; if you don't practice enough, you will have interpersonal troubles." ”
People should have a stable vision, a broad state of mind, see more scenery, and have a peaceful heart for everything.
Su Shi's life was full of disasters and difficulties, and he once wrote a poem "Title Xi Lin Bi", in which he wrote: "I don't know the true face of Lushan Mountain, only because I am in this mountain." ”
When a person suffers too much and cannot see the world clearly, it is better to stretch the breadth and height of thinking a little, and he will feel that everything is insignificant, just floating clouds.
Learning to be a bystander of one's own life is a shortcut for life to break through the cocoon into a butterfly in pain.
The most difficult thing in life is your own emotions, and you must learn to liberate yourself in pain and sorrow. As long as the mind doesn't hurt, nothing is a problem.
Society is too impetuous, and life is too rushed for quick success. Many people can't control their emotions and end up unsettled.
Therefore, in life, we must cultivate the mind and have a correct mind, so that we will not be disturbed by the outside world and will not be entangled in all things.
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The greater the heart, the better the life
You are on the first floor, someone scolds you, you can hear; you are on the tenth floor, someone scolds you, you can't hear clearly; you are on the twentieth floor, someone scolds you, not only can't hear you, but there will be a better scenery in front of you.
A person, open-minded, do not worry about others, the road of life will be smooth, the blessings of a lifetime will come uninvited.
As Wang Zhitie said, "Only those who can endure what others cannot tolerate will they be able to do what others cannot do; and those who have great talents will have great quantities." ”
If you want to make your life broad, you must have a big heart.