Will not take the initiative, how to chase girls?

Hello everyone, your morning brother suddenly appeared. Some of our little brothers, when they encourage their brothers to chase girls, they will say: What's up, what's up? One operation is as fierce as a tiger.

As a result, when it is his turn, the second becomes two hundred and five: Forget it, if you take the initiative, you may also be rejected. Don't brush me, it's the one you're lying on.

In fact, I want to make it clear to you that chasing girls without taking the initiative is not OK.

But many people have misunderstood the meaning of initiative, thinking that the initiative is to post upside down to show goodwill, so they would rather miss it than take the initiative.

But in fact, the initiative does not mean that you are posted upside down, the initiative is more to show your posture and release the signal.

So today let's talk about how not to miss the girl. Before that, please bravely put her name on the bullet screen.

#1 Show posture

When we go to the mall to buy shoes, we have such an experience, if the sale comes up, how good our shoes look, how comfortable, your heart will not have the slightest fluctuation.

But if the salesman tells you, "This pair of shoes is only available in our store in Beijing, and there are only 5 pairs left", do you want to take out your flowers and leave immediately.

In fact, it is the same when chasing girls, you don't have to deliberately show yourself, and people can't see it blindly.

But if you let her see your scarcity and make her feel that you are one of those 5 pairs of shoes, she may notice you more.

For example, if your circle of friends sends a photo with a friend of the opposite sex, or when you talk to her about a friend of the opposite sex, she will think that you have a good relationship with the opposite sex and is a sought-after commodity, which is social authentication.

Social authentication refers to the fact that when we are faced with a strange person and it is difficult to judge it, we usually go to see how others see him, just like the evaluation system in online shopping.

So if she finds that your popularity is very good and you are very popular with girls, she will unconsciously want to know you.

Social authentication stimulates the girl's instinct to subconsciously think that you have a higher value, so that she will unconsciously like you.

Mastering the skills of social authentication will make your charm in the eyes of girls instantly increase, and for the pursuit of girls, it will also make you more effective with half the effort.

In addition, we want to show ourselves to the girl, and we can share some of our experiences and gains with her.

For example, "You don't know how difficult it was when I first came to this company, working overtime until three o'clock every day, but the kung fu pays off, and everything is on the right track."

Saying this not only makes people see your self-motivation, but also thinks that you are a young man who is hard-working and hard-working.

#2 Signal release

After the above preparation, I believe that the girl's image of you at this time is generally good, then we have to let her know that she is interested in her and appreciates her.

Here's a way: praise her. You don't think it sounds very simple, some people either boast of the glittering rainbow fart, embarrassing no, or they exaggerate themselves as licking dogs.

So how to boast, just enough to boast? Remember this formula, boasting ability + contrast + asking.

Another little secret is to use the exposure effect to create encounters.

Have you found that when you brush a treasure, you see something that you like very much, but it is a little expensive, and you hesitate to quit.

However, on the home page, such things keep appearing in front of you, as if saying three big words "buy me", and then the more you look at it, the more you like it, and if you are not careful, you will chop your hands.

This is the exposure effect, that is to say, even if two people meet without any interaction, they may have more good feelings for each other because they look at each other a few times.

Therefore, when we convey the signal to girls, we can also use the exposure effect to create more chance encounters, and girls will not only pay more attention to you, but also think "How do you always meet him?" Did he do it on purpose? Or am I paying too much attention to him? ”

But it is very important that you do not turn the encounter into a tailgating, otherwise, you should be lucky if you are not poked in the face by others, in case people treat you as a stalker to give you a hammer, you say you lose money?

#3 Increases bluntness

I know that the little brothers are always sensitive and suspicious when they are in contact with girls, and they are nervous when they are alone with girls.

Saying a slightly inappropriate word will be haunted for a long time, making a small mistake will be in the heart for a long time, even if you don't think about it, you will unconsciously emerge.

Come and raise your hands and brush a 1 for me to see. In fact, this is your bluntness is too weak, the skin is not thick enough, so it leads to your lack of confidence when you get along with others, and you don't want to take the initiative.

In fact, people with weak blunt sensitivity are not a bad thing, usually people with weak blunt sensitivity will be more sensitive than others, and highly sensitive people will be able to observe that others cannot find subtleties.

Such people have great advantages in empathy ability and cognitive ability.

But because empathy is too strong, it is easy to take the responsibility of others on yourself.

And it will also accumulate too much pressure on yourself, which is actually not a good thing when facing girls, it will make you cower and be too worried.

In fact, thick skin is not impossible to cultivate, there is a skill is to look at things to see the overall situation, put the whole thing in a long-term time to see.

For example, if you go out alone with this girl today, you don't have to cling to her for what she didn't do thoughtfully today, what you have to do is to feel the whole dating atmosphere, are you all relaxed and happy