The history of the galaxy is brilliant, and the old music is boldly drumming its lips and tongues. Let's continue to talk about the Three Kingdoms and live a life. As an important event affecting the pattern of the Three Kingdoms at the end of the Han Dynasty, the Battle of Guandu is about to begin, and in the twenty-fourth round, the two sides can be regarded as making final preparations for a major war that is about to erupt. Through the movements of Yuan Cao's two stations, it can be seen that Yuan Shao cannot win. It is estimated that some people have said that because the people who write books and read books know the outcome of the Battle of Guandu, they dare to say so, and the so-called preparation and preparation are naturally tendentious. There is some truth in this statement, but what Yuan Shao did in the novel is still more in line with history, so looking at Yuan Shao, he is a person who is difficult to achieve any great cause, and what is the final victory in the cruel competition of the group at the end of the Han Dynasty?
What mistakes did Yuan Shao make? According to the summary of the Three Kingdoms of Mao Pi, it is said that Yuan Shao had three major crimes: First, he insulted Han Fu and bullied Gongsun Zhan, although he obtained a large area of land and resources in the north, but the road was not right, which was really unkind. Second, when Li Daiguo was making trouble in Chang'an, he did not dare to come forward, which was unjust. Third, his brother Yuan Shu dared to trespass on his own with the jade seal, but Yuan Shao did not pay any attention to it, and when Yuan Shu was about to die, when he was ready to defect to him, he was willing to help such a brother, was this not unfaithful? From this, how can such disloyal, unkind and unjust princes be tolerated by the world? It should be said that these traditional views are correct for Yuan Shao, but this does not necessarily affect his later defeat at the Battle of Guandu. After all, the victor Cao Cao, according to these logics, is even more disloyal, filial piety, benevolence, and injustice, so on the battlefield, it is still not comprehensive enough to simply compare these. So, what problems did Yuan Shao have that led to his defeat?
In Lao Le's view, Mao Pi's subsequent summary of Yuan Shao in this return is the root cause of his failure, and in order to make it more vivid and reasonable, he also deliberately took Yuan Shao's shortcomings and Liu Bei, to be precise, compared with Liu Bang - the same problem, the successful people avoided, the losers did it all, the answer is not very clear and clear? First of all, Yuan Shao was too fond of his family, and originally had the best chance to defeat Cao Cao at the beginning, but because the child was ill, he was in a bad mood and missed the fighter. It is true that parents are naturally worried about their children, but in the face of work and career, if they completely give up their careers for their children, even if they are a good father for the time being, what can they do? Because after Yuan Shao's failure, he couldn't even leave a single tile for his children, so what kind of good father was that? Especially like Yuan Shao's family, he does not have to hold the child around to seek medical treatment, the family is huge, there are many subordinates, and there is no shortage of funds, the children are managed by people, only the major affairs and small feelings of his own group should be decided by him personally.
Looking at Liu Bei and Liu Bang again, once they encountered difficulties, they immediately ran away first, and their wives and children were handed over to others to take care of, regardless of whether he was an enemy or a friend. Although this practice is very impersonal to us ordinary people, after all, the family is the first, but we ordinary people can not meet liu Bei as big a danger as them, so we will not abandon our wives and children. Simply put, if something happens at home, under the premise of having someone to help deal with it, should we try not to affect our own work? Can't say that when you encounter some difficulties in your private affairs, you immediately have no master and can't do anything, so that you delay your responsibilities for your family, and you should do a good job. In layman's terms, loving the family is not wrong, but if even the most basic conditions for loving the family are gone, so that the most basic material life at home cannot be guaranteed, just say love, what is the use?
Secondly, even if Yuan Shao did not have the burden of his family in his career, he also had a fatal problem, that is, nepotism, and the decision was all based on personal likes and dislikes, according to the Romance of the Three Kingdoms, it was scheming. What does that mean? Guo Tu ji would say good things in passing, so they said what Yuan Shao was willing to listen to. On the other hand, because he hated Tian Feng and Xu You, as a result, Tian Feng's good words could not be listened to, and Xu You's advice was even more oil and salt, which caused Xu You to defect to Cao Cao, lose the Wuchao granary, and run out of grain, how to fight? This is completely different from Liu Bang and Liu Bei, Liu Bang's attitude is that as long as he can help himself win the battle, it doesn't matter what kind of grievances he had before, and Liu Bei has a group of subordinates who can serve him loyally, and even if we look at Liu Bei's final defeat in the Battle of Yiling, isn't it also because he is bent on going his own way and rejecting the sincere suggestions of Zhuge Liang and Zhao Yun for Guan Yu?
In reality, we ordinary people have similar problems, on the surface, he seems to be particularly willing to listen to the opinions or suggestions of others, even when asking for help from experts and scholars, when the other party says something that does not meet his ideas, he does not take a stance, to the subordinate is to imply let the other party think again, compared to the person who is stronger than himself, repeatedly ask, is there a better way. It is not until the subordinate guesses that he understands what he means, or when the expert is bored with the question and says an answer that meets his psychological expectations, the person will say - well, this method is good! The question is, if so, what else do you want someone else to help with? Do you really want to listen to other people's advice? Or do you just want to hear what others say to your heart, but you don't care if you are right or wrong?