The anchor reads the classics and accompanies you to say goodnight. Hello, here is "Lightning Night Reading", I am Ningjin County Rong Media Center anchor Yanna. What is the most important thing in dealing with people? Tonight I would like to share with you the insights written by Zhou Guoping, a contemporary writer in China: "The First Important Thing is to Be a Man."
The first thing is to be human
Text/Zhou Guoping
In addition to eating and sleeping, people are nothing more than doing things and interacting with people, which constitute the main content of life. Doing things includes doing things for the sake of making a living, that is, the so-called business, and also doing things out of interests, hobbies, ambitions, ambitions, missions, etc., that is, the so-called career. Interacting with people, including colleagues, neighbors, friends and the so-called public relations in general, but also including love, marriage, family and other relationships linked by sex and blood, both of which are visible behaviors of people, and there is a question of whether they are successful, and their success or failure is also visible. If you are successful in both aspects, for example, on the one hand, your career is prosperous and successful, on the other hand, you are happily married and have many friends, you can say that you are successful in society, and even that your life is happy. In the eyes of others, you are an enviable lucky person. If you do the opposite, you will be a bad luck in the eyes of yourself and others. In this way, the success of doing things and communicating seems to be the main measure of quality of life.
However, in addition to visible behavior, there is also an invisible thing, which, in my opinion, is more important than doing things and communicating, and it is the first important thing in life, which is to be human. Of course, in fact, being a person is not an independent behavior outside of doing things and communicating, but is contained in the two, which is a general attitude to life embodied through doing things and communicating.
As far as the relationship between being a person and doing things is concerned, being a person is not mainly expressed in what things are done and how many things are done, such as whether to do learning or doing business, learning or how big the business is, but in the way and attitude of doing things. Whether a person is doing academics or doing business, whether he is doing big or small, he may do a good job as a person, and he may also do a very bad job, the key depends on how he does things.
From how a person interacts with people, we can especially see his personality. This is not because of whether the popularity is good or not, there are not many friends, whether various interpersonal relationships are harmonious, and the good popularity may be because of the easy-going personality, or it may be because of the smoothness of doing things, which itself cannot explain the problem. In dealing with people, Confucius emphasized the word "faith" the most, which I think is right. Whether or not you treat people honestly and honestly can best reflect whether a person's character is bright and upright. Even if a person has friends all over the world, as long as he has treacherous behavior toward one of them, we have every reason to doubt whether he really loves his friends, because if he thinks it is necessary, he will also betray other friends. "Making friends without believing" can only succeed in temporary selfish desires, and it is a great failure to be a person.
Whether things and communication are smooth, including status, property, reputation, but also love, marriage, family encounters, often subject to external factors, not their own control, so should not become the main goal of life. Of course, one should not regard what is beyond one's control as the main goal of life. The only thing a person can really control is the attitude towards all these external encounters, in short, how to behave. The most important thing in life is not happiness or unhappiness, but maintaining integrity and dignity as a human being, whether happy or unhappy. I do think that being human is more important than career and love. No matter how proud you are in Vanity Fair and love field, if you fail as a person, your life will fail in general. The most important thing is not what position you occupy in the eyes of the world and who you live with, but what kind of person you are.
Writer Profile:
Zhou Guoping, a famous scholar, writer and philosophical researcher in contemporary China, is the author of Nietzsche: At the Turning Point of the Century, Nietzsche and Metaphysics, the essay collection "The Distance of Watching" and "Quiet", the documentary works "Lady Girl: A Father's Notes", "Years and Temperament - Autobiography of My Soul" and so on.
Anchor Profile:
Zhang Yanna is the news program host of Ningjin County Rong Media Center.