On a first date, pay attention to these 5 points, she still wants to come out with you!

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Today, first solve the problem of early dating awkwardness.

The biggest problem with dating – not knowing what to talk about.

Confirmed the eyes, each other are not good at words.

I'm not afraid that you can speak a foreign language, I'm afraid that I can't stand Chinese.

Take what saves you, this time trap full of silence.

Brother, don't be afraid, be afraid to lose.

After reading this article, I hope to give you some weapons to help you fight against the silent time.

Here's my advice to you:

Guide for the average challenger:

1. Collect information on the morning of the date / on your way to your destination.

Weibo/TV/Newspapers/Internet — Write down useful and valuable messages that you care about.

Used when the dialogue falls silent, inadvertently raised.

For example: Jacky Cheung is coming to a concert, do you like him?

Note that please do not cut into such a topic, please be sure to use it when no one knows what to say, and be natural.

If you don't handle nature well, there's the next one.

2. Create a conversational opportunity for the other person – talk about the current situation.

For example, "It's so hot today", "You've walked a lot today, you're tired" and so on.

These conversations will generate feedback from the other person, and because there is no actual content, it is easier for the other party to cut into what they want to talk about.

Then you just have to go along and talk.

If you don't know how to go on, there is the next one.

3. Try to get closer to the topic that interests you (the spotlight theory I've talked about before)

It's easier to find her interest in the other person's words than to ask her directly what she likes.

For example, she talked about her dog.

You can follow the trend: you like dogs, what dog do you have? How many times a day? Do you have any photos to see?

Please note that the other party is likely to introduce that you also like dogs, so that you can ask your words in turn, and the last thing you can say at this time is: I am allergic to dog hair. (It's quite humorous)

Of course, you may not be able to grasp what the other person likes and what is interested in in the conversation, or the other party's interest points are more difficult to talk about, it doesn't matter that there is the next one.

4. Try to compliment the other person

When the other person asks a more tricky topic - "I find you very special".

When there is nothing to talk about, I look like I'm going to fall silent—"I feel peaceful and comfortable with you, oh yes, will you be uncomfortable with me?" ”

Note that the main point of this sentence just now is that you really don't know what to boast, just praise the atmosphere is very good, but in order to avoid the other party to have an impression that you only care about your own mood, you must also ask the other party's mood.

At this time, if the other party smiles awkwardly at you, you can honestly show your embarrassment, didn't I tell you before that sincerity is your biggest selling point?

At this time, please use sincerity, show your embarrassment, and then look directly at the other side with shyness to tell her that you are sorry, you are not very good at chatting, in order to achieve a clumsy "cute" state. It can also save you from the danger of being misunderstood by her.

If the other party routinely perfunctory, please follow the above practices to save yourself.

"You're beautiful" "You're cute" can be said, but depending on the situation, if the other person is obviously talking to you, then making this kind of praise at this moment I guess there will be no good response, or even the opposite effect.

However, when the two people are more enthusiastic and the atmosphere is more relaxed, it is appropriate to praise the appearance of the girl. But please be moderate, try not to exceed 5 words, because talking too much will be mistaken for a greasy sex demon.

Additional Tips:

If you're driving and don't know what to say, turn on the music and talk about each other's interest in music by the way.

When playing a song you like, you can introduce her to each of these tunes, your feelings, your interpretation of the song, or the first time you listened to it, when you first liked the song, what happened at the time, and why you still like the song to this day.

The songs we love sometimes change with age. If you listen to the songs you like in junior high school, the songs you like in high school, the songs you like after college, and now you like, it is like indirectly walking through your life, she will also know more about you, at the same time, these contents are the real things in your heart, and you will not say that you don't know how to say it. Also added are whose concerts I recently went to and what bands I liked. And you can properly understand each other's other interests.

5. To the Brave:

The brave is not good at the index of words is infinite, that is, according to the script, he will walk out of the sound, but also for the beloved girl to go out and bravely express his buddy. There are also brave people who make the wrong way, misunderstand the chat, think that the output is a good chat, in fact, waste time, which is more terrible than not knowing how to deal with silent time. For such a brave person, in addition to the above points, I will push you a little closer:

1). Know that the other person may be as nervous as you are

So don't worry about not knowing how to express yourself, pay more attention to the girl on the other side, and find a way to calm the emotions of the other party. This can achieve 3 effects.

First of all, you will make it a task to let the other person relax, and you will naturally withdraw from the tense environment in the moment.

Second, when you think about how to make the other person relax, your nervousness will be replaced by normal thinking.

Finally, when you try to soothe the other party's emotions, the tenderness displayed will be conveyed to the girl on the other side, and the other party will have a better feeling for you.

2). Don't use negative words or show a negative attitude

Maybe you have a lot of ambitions and ambitions that have nowhere to go, maybe you don't meet them.

But I believe that you should not meet today to let her soothe your emotions. Why not create more and better time together?

3). Don't pretend to understand or talk about it

Some friends may be afraid of cowardice, afraid of leaking their own bad words, or using the sea and the sky as a means of self-promotion, so they know everything and talk a lot, and do not give each other a chance to speak. The result is that you talk about it for a while, and then you talk about the possibility of your interaction.

If you ask about anything, please refer to the General Challenger Guide.

The "Sword of Shang Fang" for the brave:

If you are not good at words, simply do not go to cafes or places with a lot of conversation opportunities, go to places such as playgrounds, so that you can accumulate talking materials and chat when eating.

And after a day of playing, each other is tired, and it is not surprising that there is not much to say when eating, but there is a point that you must show your happiness and ask the other person if they are tired or happy.

Don't be afraid of silence.

Fear of silence is the most dangerous.

Falling into a fear of silence will only limit your thinking more and not force you to lead to anachronistic topics.

It's normal to know that silence is a normal thing.

Even the two people who know each other well will not be speechless.

In fact, sometimes the silent time is also worth cherishing, if the recognition of each other is enough, do not say anything, let the time pass silently, it will also be a very enjoyable choice.

It's important to have the leeway to feel the time like this, and if you have that extra, the conversation will naturally arise.

By the way, someone asked me how to say love words, but I don't think I need to learn love words.

Li Bai coaxed the girl with "cloud wants to dress and flowers", and now it is equivalent to "wanting to have a helicopter, wanting to fly with you to the universe".

So, want to learn love words? Just listen to Jay Chou.

Your buddy,

Come true

2022.01.05