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As the saying goes, children grow up watching the backs of their parents, parents are the child's first teacher, and every word and deed of parents directly affects the growth of children. People often say: "no rules, no square circle", first of all, parents must have a sense of rules, to lead by example, and strict requirements and supervision of children, otherwise parents themselves have no sense of rules, how to require children to abide by it?
The boy is in the fourth grade, and recently he has become more and more fascinated with mobile phones, and he has gradually become fond of playing mobile games and watching game videos from the contact game Plants vs. Zombies. At first, parents did not care too much, but until this year, they found that their children rushed to write homework every time they came home, and parents were happy at first, feeling that their children were very responsible and their homework could be completed without parental supervision. Parents always come back from work on the grounds that they want to work, or on the grounds of work pressure, try to let the child understand their hardships, and use this as an excuse to brush the mobile phone in front of the child. Is this fair to the child? The child did not see his parents at the end of the day, and the only time he saw his parents was the time off work, but when the child wanted to play with his parents, he found that his parents liked to play with a black box the size of a palm, liked to listen to the sounds inside, and laughed from time to time. The child was lost, curious, why did Mom and Dad like this black box so much? Driven by curiosity, children also began to indulge in mobile phones. So the family was no longer talking, and the whole family was around the black box.
Since then, as soon as the child finishes writing his homework, the child plays mobile phone games in a hurry, playing for several hours, sometimes scolding and grinning in the game, the emotions are very excited, and the irritability is irritable. But one day when parents checked homework, they found that the child's homework was sloppy, and there were many mistakes, at this time the child not only did not check the homework, but held the mobile phone to play happily, the parents let him put the mobile phone down, hurried over to modify the homework, did not expect the child not to listen, but accused the parents of not being qualified to manage him, the parents were very angry, smashed the mobile phone in a rage, the child cried and said: "By what? Why smash my phone? Why can't you play with your phone as soon as you get home, and play until you go to sleep, why can't I play? "Parents heard this, stunned there, yes, they are always playing with mobile phones, how to let children follow the rules they set up?
Parents are sometimes selfish, always want to teach their children a high posture, let them follow the rules, and the parents themselves? Dramatize the rules, such as: do not allow children to watch TV after school, let children write homework, and they watch TV from time to time and laugh; they want children to obey traffic rules, but they often run red lights; they want children to understand politeness, but they sometimes explode foul language...
Therefore, if you want your children to follow the rules, you must play an exemplary role as a parent.
1. Be serious when making rules
If you want the rules to have an effect, you must be serious and serious when setting up the rules. If you set rules for your child with a casual attitude, then the child will be inappropriate in the process of implementing the rules, procrastinating, and very lazy.
2. Involve your child in making the rules
The child is also an independent individual, and he also deserves to be respected. When formulating rules, we must follow the principle of fairness, respect the opinions of children, and formulate rules together, and the rules set up must not only be obeyed by children, but also by parents, so that children will feel that they are part of the family, they also have the right to participate and speak, and their own opinions parents will also listen to and adopt, instead of blindly being required.
3. Make your own rules and be sure to follow them
The rules must be followed, and the rules made by oneself must also be followed. You can't fish for three days and dry the net for two days, take the rules you have formulated as a decoration, and stick to it for a few days and then return to the original shape. Persistence itself is not an easy thing, it requires strong perseverance and conviction, especially the child, is still so young, he is easier to give up, at this time the parents must set an example for him, parents should insist on following the rules and constantly encourage the child to persevere. Once the habit is formed, the child will have good habits and have strong perseverance.
4. The content of the rules set for children must be specific
When many parents set rules for their children, sometimes the scope is very large, sometimes the concept is very vague, and sometimes it is a rule that the child cannot do. This form of rule is set up as if it were not established, so parents must be specific, such as: Monday to Friday after school after writing homework and checking for correction errors, you can play on the mobile phone for half an hour. Such content is easy for children to understand and easy to follow.
Although the body is not ordered to do it, although the body is not correct, it is not necessary to establish rules for the child, first of all, the parents must have a sense of rules, so that the child can more easily abide by the rules set by the parents.