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As we all know, breastfeeding is the way of breastfeeding that the World Health Organization and major hospitals have been advocating, and the many benefits of children drinking breast milk do not need us to say more, as long as the feeding conditions are met, I believe that the vast majority of mothers will choose to breastfeed.
Although there are many benefits to drinking breast milk, there is also a certain time limit, as the child grows and develops, when they are able to eat solid food, that is, the best time to get rid of breast milk.
But in many places, the function of breast milk is overly "mythical", and some mothers are still breastfeeding even when the child is more than 3 years old, and this behavior also makes the child become overly dependent on the mother, and once they leave the breast milk, they will be noisy.
Not long ago, I saw a parenting program on the Internet.
In the show, a four-year-old boy rolled on the ground and yelled at his mother, very emotional.
As a parent, the boy's mother was anxious and angry about this, at first, she used fierce language to reprimand the child, but after a stalemate between the two sides for a while, the mother found that this trick was useless, and she could not help her son at all.
After some struggle, the mother made a surprising move, only to see her son carry her son back to the room, untie her clothes and start breastfeeding him.
The 4-year-old boy is still so dependent on the mother's body, which makes the nursery teacher present feel shocked and heartbroken, and bluntly said that this is a typical zero-based mother, this way of compromise on the inability to resist will only make the child more clingy, and as the age grows, the mother's behavior will also blur the child's gender awareness, and the future will be endless.
There are many phenomena of excessive breastfeeding in real life, and many mothers are dismissive of this, and even some mothers take the uninterrupted feeding as a kind of pride, regardless of the impact this behavior will have on their children.
Like the Chinese mom above, this mom, from Ireland, regularly shares her parenting experience on social media and prides herself on breastfeeding her four-year-old son.
In this regard, the mother also posted photos of herself breastfeeding her son in various places, and she firmly believes that she has always fed her child, which will not only make him have a good physique, but also make herself proud and happy.
Unexpectedly, the mother's parenting style has been criticized by many netizens, and many people have left messages to persuade her to stop this behavior:
"When a child reaches the age of 4, he is still out of breast milk, and he is still a boy, and this parenting concept is really terrible."
"I can't figure out what kind of psychology this mother is, and children at this age can already carry out sex education."
"Pride? joy? This mom's attitude is hard to accept! ”
In the face of a 4-year-old son, a mother who uses breast milk to satisfy her child, a mother who is proud of breastfeeding, it is clear that in the examination of this parenting course, both mothers failed.
How does prolonged breastfeeding affect a child?
If you are purely nutritionally speaking, breastfeeding for too long will not adversely affect the child, but if you look at it from the perspective of parenting, this behavior will have an important impact on the child's psychological development during its growth.
First of all, prolonged breastfeeding will make children serious dependence on their mothers, this dependence behavior does not help the development of children's independence, and even with this dependence, children will also have emotional problems such as grumpiness, education is very headlines, and many mothers eventually solve problems through compromise.
Secondly, the mother's prolonged breastfeeding of her son will blur the child's gender awareness and reduce the child's cognition of "the difference between men and women", so that when the child's gender consciousness begins to germinate, it is easy to do things that do not respect the opposite sex.
When is the most appropriate time for a child to be weaned?
Since each child's growth and development status is different, and the mother's milk supply is different, there is no exact standard for when it is best to wean.
Under normal circumstances, if the mother has enough milk, most children will choose to wean at the age of one year, and some children are more attached to breast milk, and will naturally leave the milk at the age of 2 to 3, of course, if the mother needs to go out due to physical inability to eat or work reasons, then there are many cases of early weaning of children.
Therefore, parents can decide when to wean their children according to the actual situation, but it should be noted here that when the child is more than three years old, it is no longer suitable for continuing breast milk, otherwise it will do more harm than good, but it will not be worth the loss.
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