"Grandson" and "grandson", from the title point of view, in fact, a "foreign" word is lost, many people will also feel that not to help bring grandchildren, not only a chore, or a thankless thing, and finally may even raise a white-eyed wolf, but is this really the case?
Grandson who has been raised for ten years, neighbors see people praise "filial piety"
Friends' grandparents left early, and since childhood, there was no concept of grandparents, and she felt very envious when she saw others calling grandparents. In addition, her parents failed in business in the early years, so they were busy working, so they handed her over to their grandmother and grandfather, so they lived with their grandmother and grandfather for ten years, and then their parents built a house before returning home to live.
When grandma and grandpa took her, her aunt also gave birth to children, so there were three children in the family, but the old man did not have any favoritism, and the grandchildren and grandchildren loved the same. There are also many times when neighbors see her and grandma will joke, "Grandma is thankless with her grandson, and I don't know if you will remember your grandma in the future." "Friends will feel uncomfortable when they think about this, after all, they are like an outsider.
Later, friends grew up and got married, every week will go back to visit the old people, the old people's nightstand always buy them a full of snacks, although the old people always do not let them buy, but in fact, it can be seen that the old people still like to eat those things, so she has not broken these, but also took the old people to the provinces to travel two or three times.
The old man has been nagging her good in front of the neighbors, but he has never mentioned his grandchildren, from the ridicule of childhood to the neighbors who now praise "filial piety" when they see her.
Some people may say that it is because the old man is not partial, if the old man has been partial to his grandchildren since childhood, I believe that the grandchildren will not be filial piety now. In fact, this problem still has to be looked at rationally, if the old man does have a partial situation, then the grandson after all grew up with the old man, more or less have kindness, filial piety is also inevitable, but it depends on the degree of filial piety.
Some people say that it is because my friend she does not have grandparents, so she will be closer to my grandparents, and if I have grandparents, I may not be so close to my grandparents. In fact, this kind of thinking is also one-sided, saying that children grow up with whom to kiss, feelings are real, can not steal the concept.
As for bringing grandchildren and bringing grandchildren, many people say don't bring grandchildren, in the future grandchildren will forget the original, do not remember the old people, in fact, which one is a thankless thing, or depends on the child itself.
If the child has three characteristics, he is likely to be a "white-eyed wolf" when he grows up.
Whether it is grandchildren or grandchildren, if they do not have a grateful heart when they are young, then even if the elderly care for them hard, they will not pay attention to them, and they will feel that it is taken for granted. Just like the grandson of a relative's family, the old man always gives the good food to the grandson in order to please the grandson, and also withdraws his pension to the grandson as pocket money, but the grandson does not think so, and even sometimes does not get money from the old man and smashes things, such a child is the real white-eyed wolf.
There are also some children who do not respect the elderly from a young age, once they are unhappy, they will take the elderly to vent, verbally stimulate the elderly, and even have behaviors such as pushing and shoving in action. But many elderly people will not take these things to heart, and even make excuses for these things of their children, for fear that their children will be punished by their parents, to put it bluntly, they are conniving at their children.
This is the case with my great uncle's grandson, who has not respected his grandparents since he was a child, and once he was unhappy to push the old man to the ground, and the old man's lumbar spine was broken, and then he fell ill in bed, but the old man insisted that he did not stand firm. But his grandson did not feel anything, nor did he feel the pity of the old man among them.
Therefore, those children who do not respect the elderly from a young age, do not expect them to be filial to you when they grow up, and bring such children, whether they are grandchildren or grandchildren, are white-eyed wolves.
The last kind of child is extremely selfish, the child is not willing to share anything, for fear of being eaten or used by grandparents, regardless of whether they have eaten it or not. Children who appear extremely selfish in any way should not expect such children to be filial to the elderly in the future, even their parents may not be filial piety.
Therefore, don't use colored glasses to look at grandchildren and grandchildren, the key is how to raise children, whether to cultivate children with integrity, filial piety, gratitude, etc. If you teach your children well, even grandchildren will be very filial to the elderly. If the child is not taught well, the grandson who kisses him will eventually hurt the elderly.
Conclusion: Grandchildren or grandchildren, the old people should have fun in their old age, if they see that the children have those characteristics, it is better not to help with the baby, otherwise in the end it is also an empty, white busy work and suffering.