How should parents respond when children make unreasonable trouble?

Parental neglect can hurt the child's heart and gain parental attention in an unreasonable way. When a child's needs are not met, without exception, they will also use unreasonable behavior to achieve their own goals. In addition, when children become frustrated by setbacks, they will also vent their emotions by throwing tantrums and making unreasonable trouble. When children see other children asking their parents to meet their wishes in an unreasonable way, they will also use this way to force their parents to obey.

American child educator Heim. Ginote once said: "Punishment does not prevent bad behavior, it only makes criminals more careful when committing crimes, more skillfully concealed crimes, more skillful and undetected." When a child is punished, he will secretly resolve to be careful in the future, rather than to be honest and responsible. "When children make unreasonable trouble, parents should not think about what means to punish their children, but should think about what we should do. What methods can be used to prevent children from making unreasonable trouble?

1. Divert your child's attention

The child is unreasonable, the parents' emotions will also be fluctuated, and they will involuntarily scold and reprimand the child. But parents should first calm themselves down, and then use methods to divert their children's attention to help their children with emotional guidance. For example, parents can ask their children interesting questions, get their children some good food and fun, and so on. When a child's attention is diverted, he will quickly forget the need for unreasonable trouble.

2. Cold treatment of children's unreasonable behavior

Many times, when children cry and make trouble without reason, it is not necessarily really crying, but most of them are a means to achieve their own goals. Therefore, children often cry while observing their parents' expressions and movements. If parents would be nervous to coax them, they would cry even harder. If parents ignore their crying behavior, they will think that their crying will not make him achieve his goal, and then there will be no desire to perform. Therefore, parents should be firm and let their children cry alone. The child's repeated crying has not been effective, and over time, it will no longer be unreasonable.

3. Talk to your child more about your heart

When parents deal with their children's unreasonable behavior, they should talk to them when their children are calm. Everyone has the desire to talk, and so do children. Parents do not need to put up the shelf of elders, nor do they need to talk to their children with a flattering attitude, as long as they put their children on an equal footing and chat as friends. In the process of talking with children, parents must teach their children to think in empathy, if he is a parent, how he will feel when he encounters a child who is unreasonable. When the child realizes that unreasonable teasing is a negative and bad behavior, there will be no more unreasonable trouble.

4． Help your child vent excess energy

Children make unreasonable trouble, often because they have plenty of energy. So parents can help their children release these excess energies. There are many ways to release, you can exercise, practice and draw, you can also let the child help with housework and so on. When the child does not have extra energy, how can he still have the strength to make unreasonable trouble! In addition, it can also cultivate children's self-control and concentration, and help children quit unreasonable bad behavior.

A thousand readers see a thousand Hamlets, and a thousand children have a thousand personalities. Every child is independent and has its own unique personality, successful educational ideas can achieve them, and failed educational ideas will destroy their lives. Therefore, when parents educate their children about unreasonable behavior, they must choose an education method that suits their children.