Repeat. The relics are the void phases of the dharmas, neither born nor destroyed, neither dirty nor dirty, neither increasing nor decreasing.
The Song Dynasty poet Lu Jiuyuan famously said: When things are difficult, it is better to know people.
To say that things in this world are more difficult than the word "knowing people" is better than the word "knowing people." Hundreds of years later, a cattle man from the Qing Dynasty came and used eight words to say the way to know people:
"The grain is the chaff and its essence exists", the words of god also.
This person was none other than Zeng Guofan.
The meaning of this sentence is that people cannot only look at the surface, but also look at the core part of the surface.
A person's inner mental state is richer than the "spiritual" connotation we often say, and it can be expressed through a person's appearance and form, especially the eyes. A person's state is in the eyes, which is not deceiving people.
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Zeng Guofan was a famous Zhongxing courtier in the late Qing Dynasty. When he was young, he pretended to be a scholar of science, and when he was an official in the capital to study a subset of the history of the classics, he did not engage in the project of leading soldiers to fight at all.
However, at a time of internal and external troubles in the country, a group of people led by Zeng Guofan came down like heavenly soldiers to save the imperial court from water and fire, and pulled the Qing Dynasty back from the line of life and death.
In fact, among the famous courtiers of the late Qing Dynasty, Zeng Guofan's military ability was not as good as Zuo Zongtang's. But his men are all capable and fierce, forming a rare group of talents in Chinese history.
It is precisely because Zeng Guofan is particularly good at knowing people that he was praised by his colleagues: "Zeng Gong has always known people's lessons, and he knows many sages." ”
At that time, Rong Hong, known as the "father of Chinese students", also praised Zeng Guofan for his knowledge of people in the "Gradual Record of Western Learning and Eastern Learning". In this famous work, he used a whole paragraph to tell the story of the number of talents around Zeng Guofan at that time!
According to statistics, at that time, more than 1/4 of the officials in the imperial court were promoted and appointed by Zeng Guofan, and there were more than 30 senior officials at the provincial and ministerial levels, including Li Hongzhang, Zuo Zongtang and other famous ministers of the late Qing Dynasty.
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Li Hongzhang is the highest among the many talents trusted and promoted by Zeng Guofan. There was such an interesting story between the two.
Once, Li Hongzhang took three people to see Zeng Guofan, and it happened that Zeng Guofan went out for a walk, and Li Hongzhang asked the three of them to wait at the door.
When Zeng Guofan returned, Li Hongzhang asked the teacher what the teacher said about the three people, and Zeng Guofan replied: "The person on the left is available, but it can only be used for a small purpose; the person on the right is absolutely unusable; the person in the middle is available and can be of great use." ”
Li Hongzhang asked the reason, Zeng Guofan said: "This person on the left, I look at him, he also looks at me, I look at him again, he will take his eyelids down, do not dare to look at me again." This shows that he has a kind heart, but his courage is not enough to expand, so it is available, but it can only be used small.
The person on the right, when I look at him, he does not dare to look at me, and when I do not look at him, he secretly looks at me again, and it is obvious that this person is not right, so it is absolutely not available.
However, this man in the middle, I looked at him, he also looked at me, I glanced up and down at him, and he looked at me with dignity. It shows that this person is open-minded, broad-minded, usable, and can be of great use. ”
The reusable person that Zeng Guofan refers to is Liu Mingchuan, a brave general of the Huai Army and later the governor of Taiwan.
This is also as Confucius said: "Look at its cause, look at its cause, and see its security. Who's who? ”
To understand a person, you look at the motivation of his words and deeds, observe the path he takes, and examine his mood when he does things. So, how can this person be hidden? What is this man hiding?
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Tang Haoming, the writer who wrote the long historical novel "Zeng Guofan", once summed up Zeng Guofan's way of knowing people like this:
Know people with virtue. Virtue is the foundation of wood, just like the leaves of the tree, both moral integrity and ability are the best, if not, choose the best and the best, with virtue first.
Meet people from the point of view. Ambition to be interesting to see people's superiority, high interest will go in a good direction day by day, on the contrary, it will go to mediocrity, there is not much room for development.
Recognize people in small ways. Zeng Guofan likes to look at the small and detailed parts of people. To recognize people from small things is to recognize people from normalcy, and normalcy is closer to a person's true face.
Recognize people in terms of looks. Bright eyes, solid heart, concentration, temperament, uprightness, heavy deeds, and speech are the seven aspects that Zeng Guofan values more.
In a sense, what affects the direction of people's lives stems from our choices about people.
Choosing who constitutes an indispensable part of our lives, whether these people are talented and whether their character is good, is very critical to our lives.
As Zeng Guofan said: "Choosing friends is the first meaning of life." The modern interpretation is that the value of a person's life is the average of the 5 people he most often contacts.
Therefore, let the knowers know the people to achieve you, and don't let the ignorant people ruin you.
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