In October 2021, we came to kindergarten with a 3-year-old child named Bunny. When I first came here, I looked very thin and couldn't speak, and we were all very sad about this child.
The teacher taught him to speak when he was all right, and slowly and simply said one word or two words, and we were all very happy. When it's all right, I'm willing to hug him, talk to him, teach him to talk.
Until now, children still can't talk, and after so many months of observation and contact, our teachers have found that it is not the child's problem.
Now that the children and teachers are familiar with each other, when they don't want to eat, they sit in their own small chairs and don't move, so they point to their own dishes and then point to the table where the dishes are placed and let the teacher help send them over.
From these manifestations of the child, we think that the child is not unable to speak, nor does he not want to talk; but that the family at home takes care of the child so well that the child does not have to talk at all.
As the saying goes: you can lie down, you can't sit, and if you can sit, of course you don't stand. The child only uses the finger to point and hum in place, then why talk, talk strangely tired.
Children still like to do things on their own.
Although this is convenient, it destroys the child's growth law and needs.
Originally, children should have learned to speak in a week and a half, but now more than 3 weeks will only be simple dad, mom, line, but also have to teach several times.
Originally, the child could put on and take off his shoes and socks at this age, but he couldn't do it.
Originally, the child at this age could deliver dishes according to the teacher's requirements, but he did not want to do it, so he wanted the teacher to help him complete it.
Originally, children of this age could run and jump freely and play outdoors, but parents were afraid that he would be sick and did not dare to let him go outdoors.
Originally, children of this age were free to drink water and urinate according to the requirements of the teacher; but he also had to carry diapers without wetness, otherwise he would wet his pants.
Is this the child's performance a problem for the child himself? Of course not, it's a parent's problem. Children are good, all problems are parents' problems, parents change, children will naturally be good.
Our guidance and role model are important.
So what do we parents need to do?
Understand the sensitive period of development of young children aged 0-6 years, the characteristics of the absorbent mind, and the outline of the early childhood development guide.
Learn more about the ability development indicators of children under 6 years old at all ages, and let children be able to be within the indicator range of the corresponding age groups according to the requirements of the indicators.
Sensitive period
In children need to express their wishes, exercise the ability of language expression and oral development.
At the age when children should learn to speak, let children express their own ideas, what they want to say, parents can pretend to be stupid, children do not say, do not know what to do.
About 2 weeks, the child's language expression should be almost simple language can be said, not that the child must say it, some children just know but do not want to say.
We can not force, but also need to let the child exercise expression, about 2 weeks is necessary to have a certain amount of language input and output.
Let the child learn to express their needs, but also exercise the child's oral muscle development, what is not used for a long time will rust.
We had fun chatting together.
Let the child practice doing their own things on their own.
We can help children at the right time, but we must ensure that children can accomplish these things on their own, and we must understand what self-care skills should be achieved at which age.
At least about 2 and a half weeks is able to put on and take off shoes and socks by yourself without problems, if the child will not, it means that the practice is not enough.
Children's self-care skills need to be exercised and practiced. Usually, I practice while playing games with my children. Be sure to play more games with your child.
Wear your own pants.
Exercise more, be strong and strong, and improve your resistance.
What the child can do is to let the child try it himself, even if it is a few more runs. Exercise and nurture children.
Outdoor activities are very important, when the weather is good, you must go outdoors to bask in the sun, run and jump. Even weak children also need to be exposed to the outdoors, so as to adapt to different temperature changes and reduce illness.
The weather can't be constant forever, we can't change something, we have to change ourselves to adapt to it. The weather is hot and cold, and we have to let our bodies learn to adapt to it is the right choice.
Even the coldest weather requires outdoor activities.
We must not be afraid of trouble, in order to let the children grow better, we have to give everything.
The child's growth is only once, and after it has passed, it cannot be restarted, nor can it return, it can only go forward.
We must make the best growth of our children in our existing knowledge, ability, money, etc., which we should do our best to complete.
It makes sense to work together.
We save the moment, the heart of the first life, and the regret of the next life. We still have to bother when we need to. When the child grows up and you want to bother, he probably won't need it.
So it's important to learn how to be a qualified "lazy" mom, what should be lazy, what can be lazy is an important part of what we need to learn.
For the sake of the child, let's work hard together, cheer up, and be a very ok mother!
If you can do it yourself, you have to practice doing it yourself. Kids are OK!