Author: Grape Mama
Don't let go of your child's "nature" at the age of making rules.
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Pandora Effect: A simple prohibition will only cause the child to rebel.
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Stair climbing effect: the road should be walked step by step, and the rules should be standing little by little.
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Broken window effect: a small mistake is left unchecked, and the future will only become more intense.
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Watch law: make rules for children, parents should unite the front.
This voice is responsible for pointing out the direction for the child, and at the same time draws out the child's bottom line, so that the good rules are formulated and no longer waver.
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The furnace effect: appropriate punishment is a necessary auxiliary means to establish rules.
Mom was still unmoved and ordered him to stand there for 10 minutes.
For those 10 minutes, my mother sat not far away and watched all the time, and the little boy kept crying quietly, and everyone else was soft-hearted, and they advised their mother to forget it.
Mom said:
"If a child does something wrong and does not listen to the teachings, he should be punished." Let him have a long memory. ”
After the punishment, the mother took him to apologize to the passengers around him before taking her son's hand and returning to her seat.
After that, the boy sat in his seat and ate quietly, never making a fuss again.
This story reminds me of a remark by Professor Qian Wenzhong of Fudan University:
"There must be an element of pain in education, and it is self-evident.
After all, the child is not an adult, the child must be disciplined, must be disciplined, must let him know that education is not only happy. ”
Punishment is an effective auxiliary means.
Because punishment allows children to experience first-hand what to do and what not to do.
It's like the meaning of the "furnace effect":
Whoever you are, whenever you touch a hot stove, you will be burned.
Anyone who violates the rules and regulations is punishable.
When parenting and educating children, we must neither forget to make rules nor ignore the necessity of punishment.
Without punishment, without rules, without authority, there is no progress.
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There is a saying on the Internet that makes a lot of sense:
"Educating children needs a kind of strength, to conform to the child's feelings and rhythms, with the wrong direction and way of education, the child will knock you away."
Rome was not built in a day.
Nor do children's rules stand up in a day.
You know, in the face of a bear child, parents grind their lips ten thousand times and have emotional breakdowns a thousand times in order to educate a good habit.
When parents master the method that suits their child best, the rules can be effective and easy.
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