People have to go through three kinds of education in their lives: family education, school education and social education, of which family education is often called "first education" by educators.
Not only because family education first played a role in children, but also because family education has the most profound impact on children. Whether a child can become a talent is often directly related to the success of family education.
Many parents spare no effort to report various interest classes and improvement classes to their children early, hoping to let their children win on the "starting line", but they do not know that parents are the best "starting line" for children.
The three keys of family education: companionship, reading and habit formation, parents should pay more attention to no matter how busy they are.
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The best way to get an education is companionship
Accompanying children is an unshirkable responsibility of parents, and children's good character cultivation cannot be simply learned from books, but comes from the companionship and guidance of parents.
If a child's childhood is not accompanied by parents, it is like a sapling growing without sunshine and rain.
Children who lack the company of their parents tend to be more introverted and are prone to inferiority complex.
Parents must know that no amount of money and no matter how good the material conditions are, they cannot make up for the lack of companionship of their children.
I have a friend around me, the so-called "left-behind child" when he was a child, when he was very young, his parents went out to work, he grew up in the home of his grandparents, and his grandparents gave him endless pampering, but they could not replace the care of their parents.
He has formed an independent but somewhat paranoid personality since he was a child, likes to drill the horns when things happen, and therefore misses many opportunities, and he has not been able to talk about marriage with any partner.
Nowadays, his grandparents have passed away, his parents are more than half a hundred years old, he is also close to the age of establishment, and there is still an insurmountable gap in the relationship with his parents, and he is accustomed to escaping the care and preaching of his parents, and he is not even willing to go back to that home.
There is still work to be made to establish a career, and it is even more distant to start a family, and even the happiness and harmony of a family seem to be difficult to achieve.
Visionary parents are willing to spend time with their children, so that their children know that they have parents behind them, so that children can perceive love and learn to love.
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In education, we should pay attention to reading
Bi Shumin once said that making children fall in love with reading will surely become the most cost-effective education in their parents' lives.
Good reading habits can benefit children for life, reading is not only to get good results, but also to let children experience life and increase experience from reading.
Parenting expert Yin Jianli once said: "A child, from reading, is not only the nourishment of the soul, but also the psychological strength." ”
To cultivate the habit of reading, parents should work together with their children. Only families who attach importance to reading can cultivate children who love to read.
For children to fall in love with reading, parents should do these things:
1. Create a reading environment
It's important to create a reading environment for your child at home, and you can buy a small bookcase for your child to select books that his age group needs to know or that will interest him.
To create a reading atmosphere, to make reasonable use of other spaces in the home, not only desks, sofas and even toilets can be properly placed some books or magazines.
Make reading ubiquitous so that children can read anytime, anywhere.
2. Read with your child
Reading with children can not only enhance the parent-child relationship, but also make children more interested in reading.
After reading the book, encourage children to tell the stories in the book to adults, and children's storytelling not only exercises their thinking, but also affirms the results of reading.
3. Parents lead by example
Reduce the time spent using mobile phones at home, use the time to look down at mobile phones to turn over a book, and refrain from looking at mobile phones anytime and anywhere when going out with children, and it is the best education to be by example.
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Make excellence a habit
In 2019, Yang Chenyu, a science champion in Guangxi, broke the record of the highest total score of science in Guangxi since the college entrance examination with a high score of 140 points in Chinese, 150 points in mathematics, 150 points in English, and 290 points in science.
When it comes to his son's high score to win the title of science champion, Yang Chenyu's mother said bluntly: "I think he will do well in the exam, but I didn't expect him to do so well." ”
Talking about the experience of raising children, Yang's mother said: "We must supervise the formation of habits when children do not have the ability to think independently, and after stereotyping, the road behind will be easy to go."
We usually only take care of his logistics, and we give his homework to the teacher and will not bother him. ”
Mother Yang also mentioned that the process of supervising the formation of children's habits is very painful, and it is necessary to pay attention to and supervise him at all times. And in the process of supervision, parents themselves must also be self-disciplined, can not let children learn, but they are playing mobile phones.
In the final analysis, when parents cultivate their children's self-awareness, they must first lead by example and give their children a good learning example.
With a mother who is so good at educating her children, it is no wonder that Yang Chenyu can stand out among many candidates and become a college entrance examination winner.
If it were not for Mother Yang's predictive guidance and supervision of him to develop various good habits in the stage when he did not yet have the ability to think independently, it is likely that there would be no excellent him now.
Because the establishment of self-awareness is a long and complex process, before that, children can not consciously learn, work hard, must have adult companionship, guidance and supervision.
After all, the supervision of adults can only play a role for a while, not to mention that children will have more and more ideas of their own, so the sooner the child's self-consciousness is cultivated, the better.
If you cultivate good habits in all aspects of your child from an early age, he will also continue to feel the joy of learning in the subsequent learning growth, get praise and rewards, thus forming a positive cycle and making excellence a habit.
Some people say that children are the epitome of family education and the mirror of parents.
We can often see the parents' educational ability and intentions through the children, and feel their family relationship and atmosphere.
Many parents often praise other people's children, but they do not know that many times, it is often they who do not provide a good education for their children.
New Parents Online has three core ideas
A good mother is better than a good teacher, a good father is better than a good principal, and a good family is better than a good school!
The best teachers are the parents, the best schools are the families, and the best school district rooms are their own study rooms!
For three and a half hours a day, parents and children are better: half an hour of parent-child reading, half an hour of parent-child sports, and half an hour of parent-child communication!
Source: New Parents Online