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A couple of post-90s couples in Hechi, Guangxi, after marriage, the family lived alone in the deep mountains and old forests, and gave birth to 10 children in a 12-year period, that is to say, since the beginning of marriage, the wife has never stopped giving birth to children.
What is the reason that keeps them having babies non-stop? Why don't they do related contraception? Why didn't the local government persuade them?
1. Family environment
The male owner of this family is named Wei Guoze, born in 1991 in a poor rural family, the ancestors are living on farming, the family conditions are very difficult, before the birth of Wei Guoze, the family already had 4 children, although the parents want to leave Wei Guoze, the youngest son, but the family really can not afford to raise Wei Guoze.
In desperation, parents can only send this newborn child to a family in the next village for adoption, this family can not have their own children due to physical reasons, so the arrival of Wei Guoze is a very happy thing for this family, and the adoptive parents will regard Wei Guo as their own, and give all their love to Wei Guoze alone.
However, the adoptive parents' family is also facing a life of financial constraints, although Wei Guo has always been pampered, but he has not been spoiled, since the adoptive parents can not afford to support him to go to school, after the 4th age of primary school, he dropped out of school to work in the construction site, assisted his adoptive father to support the family, and later went out to Guangdong to work with his fellow villagers.
The hostess Meng Xiuping's life is more unfortunate than Wei Guo's, born in 1990, her mother died of illness 3 months after giving birth to her, and her father had a serious patriarchal mentality, so she was not welcomed by her father since she was a child, and she ignored her, let alone sent her to school for education.
The child has been born, how to say that it is also a person of the Mengjia family, although the grandparents are older, they can also raise her with hard work, and when they grow up, they also follow their fellow villagers to go out to Guangdong to work.
2. The two meet
Fate is to match two people who do not know each other, under the pull of fate, two people know each other, probably because they have a similar life, and they are both Guangxi people, the two slowly have feelings, and they admit that they have entered the palace of marriage.
The second year after the marriage of the two young people came good news, Meng Xiuping is pregnant, no matter what kind of family, the small couple is pregnant is a happy thing, after learning this news, Wei Guo sent Meng Xiuping back to his hometown, handed over to his mother-in-law to take care of, let her raise a fetus at home to give birth, and she continued to work outside the home to earn money to support her family.
I don't know whether it is because I don't understand, or because of economic reasons, during the entire pregnancy, Meng Xiuping did not go to the hospital to do a maternity examination, and even gave birth to a child at home by the mother-in-law, fortunately the mother and son were safe!
That is, from this time on, the little two opened the hanging mode, either in pregnancy or on the way to give birth.
From the birth of her first child in 2008, to November 2020, Meng Xiuping gave birth to 10 children in a row.
Why did they give birth to so many children, and did their family conditions improve so much in those 12 years?
As a result, on the contrary, their family conditions have not only not improved in these 12 years, but have become more stretched.
In their local area, mainly mountainous, such geological conditions, there are not many fields that can be used for cultivation, the land cultivated by ancestors is excavated a little bit on the mountain, and these lands are mostly in the position of the mountainside, so some families live directly in the middle of the mountain in order to make farming and local materials, and Wei Guo is one of them.
The family lives in a simple house made of wood, living in a very poor environment, and even looks like a dangerous house. But they had no way, the family's main food rations all came from these acres of barren land near the house, and they could not give up farming, and living here was the most suitable place for farming.
Seeing that they were living in such a difficult situation, the local government applied for the highest level of low insurance for their whole family, and each person could get a living allowance of 350 yuan per month, and the family could get a subsidy of about 4,000 yuan a month. In addition to this subsidy given by the government, Wei Guo will also go out to do odd jobs, and he can get an income of 200 yuan a day, but the work of this gig worker is not very stable, so the family's main source of income is still 4,000 yuan of income from low insurance.
Such an income situation is a drop in the bucket for a family with 10 children!
3. Why have 10 children
Since it is such a family condition, why don't they do the corresponding contraceptive measures to reduce fertility, the reporter found Wei Guo and asked this question that everyone was curious about, and Wei Guo gave an unexpected answer.
He said that he actually did not want to have so many children, but he did not know how to contraception, so it was easy for his wife to get pregnant, and once she became pregnant, her physical condition was not very good, and it was not suitable for miscarriage, and if she miscarried, there would be greater damage to the body.
Coupled with his own growing up alone, seeing other people's families of brothers and sisters growing up together, lively and lively, and helping each other when they grow up, he hopes that his children can not eat the pain of their childhood, and more brothers and sisters support each other.
Obviously, the above reasons are not enough to convince the public, as a father who has been married and has children, since he knows how to conceive, how can he not know how to contraception, as the saying goes, he has never produced pork, and he has not seen a pig run?
The wife's health is not good, not suitable for miscarriage, this we can understand, any female small birth has a certain damage to the body, but since you know that the body is not good, why do you want your wife to give birth to a child, so that for a woman's body, it is an overdraft again and again, and even the best body will be dragged down!
I hope that my children have brothers and sisters to help this can also be understood, but they are such a family, giving birth to so many children, they can not get a good education, in the future out of society will also face the survival rules of survival of the fittest, they themselves may not have time to take care of, how easy is it to help others?
Wei Guoze's all reasons are excuses, and his selfishness and not thinking about others is an irresponsible excuse.
The reporter saw his wife Meng Xiuping, indeed the same as Wei Guoze said that the body is not very good, thin, yellow muscle thin, eye sockets sunken, there is like a 30-year-old woman, saying that she is 40 years old will not be suspected.
The reporter asked her the same question, why do you want to give birth to so many babies, she said that her husband wants to give birth, she also feels that there is no problem and agreed to her husband's statement, pregnant to give birth.
In the process of pregnancy, it is not so smooth sailing, I have never done a maternity examination, the first 4 children are delivered by the mother-in-law at home, the mother-in-law does not have the corresponding professional knowledge, after birth, it can be simply handled, and even the fourth child is still cut with a sickle, in such a production condition, Meng Xiuping can successfully give birth to 4 children is also a fool' blessing.
Later, because the child must have a birth certificate to go to the hukou, Meng Xiuping began to go to the hospital to give birth, and she repeatedly stressed that it was too expensive to give birth to a child in the hospital, and the child after giving birth spent a total of 6,000 yuan. It can be seen that the financial constraints make her have to aggrieved herself!
Meng Xiuping is pregnant and gives birth every year, so who helps take care of her child? The mother-in-law has also died, and Meng Xiuping said that these children are taken care of by themselves, and when they are pregnant, they have to work in the crops, and the big ones help watch the small ones at home. Why did she hear her say that she was alone? Where did Wei Guo go?
It turned out that Wei Guo wanted to help lining is also weak, if he is at home to help watch the children do farm work, he can not go out to make money, if only rely on the low insurance of 4,000 yuan a month is certainly not enough, so he can only go out to work, bringing a certain economic income to the family.
So how to solve the problem of the education of these children?
Their family lives in the mountains, children need to walk to a few kilometers away from the town to read, so generally Monday to Friday do not go home, borrow to live in relatives' homes, the problem of eating is solved by the government, greatly alleviating the problem of children eating. By Friday, the younger siblings were brought home by the eldest child.
Board students go home once a week, and ordinary people's parents have already prepared food and drink for them to come back and enjoy it, but Wei Guo's children are not ok, and the first thing they do when they go home is to put down their school bags and work. The biggest went to the fields to help with farm work, but also had to wash and cook at home, and helped take care of the younger children when they couldn't work at a younger age, and took them to play with them.
Children do not have a decent piece of clothing, most of the clothes are old clothes given to them by others, the big one can not wear it to the small one to continue to wear, fortunately, these children are obedient and sensible, but also know that it is not easy for parents and mothers, this is the typical poor child early home!
In the face of this situation at home, the local government has also given help within its ability, and the school for children is the Hope Primary School in the town, without paying tuition fees, and the subsidy policy of free and nutritious meals is enjoyed at school.
The women's director went to their homes one after another and brought free condoms for them to popularize the correct concept of fertility.
All the low-insurance subsidies that can be fought for are in place, and even medical insurance and so on help them buy them to avoid making the family worse because of medical problems.
Their house is simply built of wooden planks, has long been judged to be a dangerous house, the local government's poverty alleviation policy, in the village under the mountain built a two-story small building for them to live, although there is a better living environment, but the husband and wife in order to take care of the crops, will often return to the old house to live.
Their affairs were discovered and reported by an online self-media company, so they received widespread attention, and afterwards they became an Internet celebrity couple in the village.
Some well-meaning people put forward that they want to adopt children, these ideas were severely rejected by Wei Guo, they were adopted by their parents, leaving many regrets for themselves, although the family conditions are not good, but they will do their best to raise all children as adults, and will also try to let them receive a good education, be a good person, and contribute to society.
Although he has irresponsibility, at this moment he is a father who loves his children, in that remote rural area, he himself has received less education, does not know how to plan for his own life and his children's lives, but as long as they live their own lives and do not do bad things, they are good people.
Born ordinary, they have their own ideas and experiences, and we can't arbitrarily stand on the moral high ground to criticize and evaluate others. I hope that their family will experience less unnecessary interference, the children will grow up healthy and healthy, and they can also be a person who contributes to society in the future.
In today's life, most of us are educated, have our own completely independent thoughts, childhood has passed, has long stepped into society, and maybe when we dream back in the middle of the night, we have also thought back, if we can plan our lives in advance, will it be better than now.
On the road of life, most of us are like a blind person, can't see the road ahead, but still stumbled to today, followed our parents when we were young, followed the society when we grew up, and in the process of growing up, no one ever told us to do our own life planning.
When we grow up and go to society, we can only helplessly experience the wind and rain of society, and what could have been a better life has been like this step by step.
I hope that friends who read this article, whether in marriage or career, can plan their lives reasonably, but also do not forget that children are brought to the world by us, when they are still young, we need to help them plan their lives as adults, and when they grow up, we must also teach them how to plan their lives reasonably!