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I saw a topic on Weibo: 'Actually, you don't have to care about the likes of the circle of friends'.
There is a saying in the text that says it best: "What makes us anxious and inferior is not the state of self-abandonment and isolation, but our greed and comparison." ”
Because, in fact, people who love you will not necessarily give you praise. They'll tell you in a more direct way how much he loves you.
1. We're all juggling down the words
"Why don't many people send a circle of friends now?" This was the last time I had an occasional discussion with a friend.
Thinking about it carefully, my circle of friends seems to have not been updated for several years, not that I have not sent it, but I simply feel tired.
Originally I was just going to have dinner, but I also had to consider the time of sending, would someone be working overtime, would it cause trouble to some people who saw it?
Fear that something will make parents feel bad and inconvenience friends. Even if it is only a few words, it will be considered for half a day, so it is simply not sent.
Some people say: "Those who really love life will not simply be busy with life, because they are busy enjoying life." ”
In fact, more people are simply afraid of their own state, and if no one cares, it will make themselves more sad, and it is better to give up.
Originally, the meaning of the existence of the circle of friends has changed from the moment we become cautious, and it should not have been like this.
2. Early morning phone calls
A friend who has been working in the field for a long time sent a circle of friends, and it was obvious that it was the type that only a few people could see.
Friends said that they were particularly stressed at work some time ago, so they often complained about their work and boss in the circle of friends in the middle of the night, but they were seen by their parents.
My mother called in the early hours of the morning and said a lot of things to her, which made my already irritable self even more sleepless.
Of course, everyone knows that parents are worried about their children who go out, worried about their health and work, and remember whether they are doing well or not.
However, not all care will be accepted. Kindness will be accepted, but irritability will continue. That's why they are more reluctant to be discovered.
Backstage once saw a mother complaining: "Why can't I see my daughter's circle of friends?" Did she block me? ”
In fact, it is just that many people have set up groupings to be visible. Some content, for some people, still wish you didn't know better.
3. Don't care about likes
The very meaning of the existence of social circles is that we can meet more people, which will help us in future development.
Therefore, a lot of the content of the circle of friends is actually sent out for you to see. That's not all true.
For example, if you see a compliment, do you think that the person who said it must really appreciate you? No, there's a good chance he's just a simple kind of flattery.
In "Tonight's Post-80s Talk Show", Wang Zijian once said a sentence: "When I want to praise the leader when the team is built, I will say that the last row of your singing level concert will be two thousand." ”
But in fact, the leader sang really hard to hear, and the compliment had the second half of the sentence, he did not say it, that is: "The ticket in the front row can only sell for ten yuan." ”
To sum up, don't put your life in the circle of friends, and don't get complacent because of a simple compliment from others.
Because, those compliments are really cheap, the other party does not pay any cost, but you pay a lot of feelings.
4. You have to invest in your life
Venus said, "Once some words are spoken, the taste becomes different." ”
We will meet many different kinds of people in our lives, and we can see a lot from their words and demeanors.
When you genuinely spend time and energy into real life, you will find that real social interaction is much more interesting than the circle of friends.
So, the circle of friends is really not so important, take it easy, people who really care about you, will not just give you likes.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.