In the education of children, many parents will set many paths for their children when facing innocent children.
I hope that they are sensible and intelligent, and I hope that they can become talents in the future, which is the wish of most parents.
However, in the face of children's various naughty and disobedient behaviors, many parents' hearts are very broken.
Even some parents will yell at their children regardless of the occasion, hoping that their children will be more well-behaved.
In the face of parents' unstable emotions, many children have scars in their hearts.
This is also the reason why many children will have more and more psychological problems as they get older.
See other people's children are well-behaved, sensible, and have good grades.
Many parents will also reflect on whether it is a problem with their own education methods, so that the children lose at the starting line, so that the children lose competitiveness.
In fact, it is necessary for every parent to understand that the following methods of education are the most useless and ineffective of all the educational methods in the world.
Not only does it not make children better, but it may even push them into the abyss.
【The World's Most Useless Educational Method】
1. Tantrums
Once the child has any behavior that cannot satisfy the parents, the parents' emotions must be very bad, and even the parents with relatively large tempers will scold the children on the street and lose their temper with the children.
It seems that the child has become the parent's venting barrel, and the child who bears the anger of the parent will not only become very fragile in his heart, but even the relationship with the parents will become precarious.
However, in the hearts of parents, they believe that if they lose their temper, they will definitely establish an authority in the child's heart that cannot be ignored, which can deter the child.
As everyone knows, this kind of cognition for children, in the process of their parents' education and edification, brings negative effects, without any positive guidance.
2. Be reasonable
In the process of their children's education, many parents like the didactic method.
I always take the form of a long speech, hoping to let the child understand his own good intentions and read his heart of continuous giving.
As everyone knows, this kind of excessive affection and reasonable behavior will only increase the child's sense of boredom and resistance, and the role played in the child's education and growth may also be counterproductive.
3. Cold treatment
Some parents will adopt the adult education method in the process of children's education, that is, cold treatment.
I hope that the child can reflect in time and correct it in time.
This kind of cold treatment will only increase the child's sense of fear.
Over time, they will also be left behind by their children and do not take this behavior and education to heart.
Even they will take a cold and indifferent approach to their parents, and once they have a strong sense of resistance, they are likely to go down a crooked path.
The above three ineffective educational methods are often used by most parents in real life, and they are used very frequently.
If you are also lamenting: your children are disobedient and do not understand things.
It is likely that the wrong methods of education were used, which is why they are in the current state.
If you want to let your child have a more stable future, parents should also change their education methods in time, the following points will definitely make the parent-child relationship more harmonious, but also make the child more excellent.
【The most effective educational method】
1. Guide from a small place
In the process of children's education, seemingly inconspicuous small things in daily life can play a big role.
For example: after dinner, the family reads together, the father helps the mother clean up together, and the family shares the achievements and things of the day.
Things like these can bring positive guidance to children.
Children will deliberately imitate the parents' solutions, so as to bring the right guidance to the children, not only to make the children realize their mistakes, but also to face their own shortcomings from the depths of their hearts.
2. Set the rules
For every parent, in the process of their child's growth, it is inevitable that there will be some unsatisfactory places for parents, and there will be conflicts with the rules set.
When this situation arises, blindly indulging is not the best solution, and it is not of much benefit to the child's growth and future life.
Therefore, as a parent, you must establish certain rules and resolutely implement them.
Only in this way can we set a benchmark in the depths of children's hearts, so that they understand what cannot be touched, and only by doing this can they have a stronger competitiveness in their future lives.
【Author's Message】
There is a cloud in the "Aphorisms": Reading is expensive to doubt, and doubt can be enlightened. Reading is gradually, and gradually becoming successful.
Children's education not only reflects the level of parents' educational philosophy, but also shows the artistry of parents in children's education.
Some parents can become friends with their children and grow up together in mutual supervision; some parents are on the top and stand against their children, which not only delays their children's precious learning career, but also makes their children lose future competition.
It is precisely because parents have the wrong behaviors and methods in educating their children that they are forced to go to a dead end.
If you want to make your children talented, for parents, the above ineffective educational methods must be completely shelved, take effective educational methods, give children the right guidance, presumably their future, will certainly make parents extremely proud.
Today's Topic: What do you think is the most effective way to educate your children? Feel free to share your thoughts and experiences below.