After being blocked by the other party after the breakup, do we still have a chance? How do I do this? When many female friends found the teacher, they were particularly frustrated: "Teacher, after I broke up with him, he blacked me out, is it so desperate?" Am I not going to have a chance? And so on.
Today I'm going to tell you an answer that you're surprised about: If a man breaks up with you and blocks you, then the likelihood of this compound is higher than not pulling black. If you understand the thinking of men, you will be clear.
In a man's mind, why should he block you? If he really breaks up and lets go of this relationship, then the last gift he can give you is indifference or neglect, and he can't see what you do, in such a situation, it may be a little difficult for you to try to save it.
But if he takes the initiative to block you, it means that he is also a love-hate intertwined relationship, on the one hand, it is very painful and uncomfortable, on the other hand, under the rational thinking, it feels inappropriate, emotional thinking is love, rational thinking is inappropriate, so the love-hate interweaving is very sad.
He can only tell himself, "Let go, I'm going to get you out of his world", so he will block you out and try to ease his thoughts about you by not seeing you, so what can be seen is that he cares about you. It's just that the previous wrong way of getting along, or some problems that cause him to have higher negative feelings about you, will lead to the final breakup.
So after we understand this, at least give us a little letter: it doesn't matter if you are blocked, you can pull back if you can block it, so how to do it specifically? Two steps:
Step 1: Dissolve opposing emotions
Some people immediately began to be anxious after being blocked, all kinds of calls to each other, go to people's downstairs to block him, useless, because people are thinking of pushing you away, you are always squeezing into the world of others, it will only make his negative emotions higher, and even say some words that hurt you, so at this time, we have to resolve the antagonistic emotions.
The first step in resolving opposing emotions is to leave the other person alone, but at least to pull away. A common suggestion for this time is that seven days after the last chat with each other, this is the first.
In this seven days, it is not to do nothing, but to summarize the problems in the previous relationship, find the root of the problem, and then after seven days, you can try to add each other, whether through a letter or a text message.
So how to add it? I will give you a more general paragraph, you can follow your situation to set it up, for example, you can say, who is who, the title must be your previous more intimate title, such as calling people Xiao Wang classmates, Brother Wang, etc., to see how you usually call each other. But don't be too fleshy in this, because you have not yet compounded, you said that this will only remind the other party of the previous feelings of all kinds of unbearable.
Then the first sentence is to dissolve the negative emotions, you can say: "I did not come to you to compound, but I think that our feelings for so many years, even if separated, can be well gathered and scattered", showing that you are more atmospheric, and the pass rate is extremely high.
Step 2: Let him feel your change and show his understanding of the other person
Plus after the chat, this chat includes your circle of friends, showing your changes, to give everyone a formula: change + memory + understanding, and finally this plus understanding, is based on your situation.
That is to say, if in the process of getting along before you, he feels that you do not understand him, you can add understanding, if you think that your value is very low, then you have to add something else later, increase the value and so on.
I give an example, just to understand this, you can say such a paragraph: "Who is who, today I cook chicken soup at home", for example, before you did not understand him enough, he cooked chicken soup for you, and then you said: "But doing it is not as delicious as you make, every time I have stomach pain, you will cook chicken soup for me to drink, now think about it at that time you are so good."
There are your changes, there are your memories, and there is your understanding of the other person, because such words make him feel different from you, it is enough.