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The person who spends money for you doesn't necessarily love you.
Money is a tool. If a man knows that he can get what he wants from a woman just by spending money, then even if he doesn't love her, he will spend a thousand dollars for her.
But men who aren't willing to spend money for you must not love you.
I have seen many news on the Internet, and some men ignore the pain of women having children and resolutely adopt the way of giving birth. As for the reason, it is natural to think that caesarean section costs more money.
During this period, both nurses and doctors repeatedly stressed the risk of smooth delivery, but men ignored it. Some men even get angry at the doctor, thinking it was his decision to break the bank.
The woman on the delivery bed who gave birth to the crystallization of their love, was not afraid of the shape of the body, not afraid of the fear of having a child, not afraid of the disappearance of the beautiful appearance, after experiencing many tortures, finally conceived a child.
Since then, she has not eaten well, and the feeling of nausea has followed her everywhere, so that she can never enjoy the pleasure of eating in large mouths; so she does not sleep well, always worried that she will accidentally press the child. She survived the hardships of conceiving in October, and now when she has a child, she just wants to alleviate the pain, is this wrong idea?
In the eyes of the man who did not love her, it was wrong, because her idea made him spend a lot more money, so he ignored her painful struggle and insisted that she have a smooth birth, even if she would fall ill and lose her life, he did not care.
As a viewer, many people are amazed by the cold-bloodedness of their husbands and think how can he be so cruel? In fact, it is not that he is cruel, but that he does not love her, so he can watch her in pain casually.
For example, Qiao Zuwang in "Children of the Qiao Family", when his wife was about to give birth, he actually let his wife with a large belly go to the hospital alone in order to play mahjong, and even did not prepare some more nutritious meals for her.
He didn't seem to know that his wife was breaking into the ghost gate when she gave birth to a child.
Would he still be like this if he had enough wives? The answer, of course, is no.
Therefore, a man's attitude towards how much you spend money determines how much he loves you.
So, how can a man be willing to spend money for you? In other words, how can you become the most beloved woman of a man? In fact, it is enough to do three points, especially the second point.
1. Go into his heart
In the face of man's miserliness, women need to realize that it is not that he will not throw a thousand dollars, but in his heart, she is not worth his thousands of dollars.
The reason for this is that she has not yet entered his heart.
Feelings cannot be quantified, but they have a certain range. Within that range, he would be willing to spend money on her, or he would warn her and exclude her from his life.
There is a very impressive scene in "Little Shed", where Cai Juying tells Nan Jianlong in great detail about his spending during this time.
In this regard, Nan Jianlong waved a big hand, indicating that she did not need to do this. Since he insisted on marrying her for her, abandoning his cultured and temperamental ex-wife, the most fundamental reason was that he loved her, so he was very relieved about her doing things.
So for him, she didn't have to.
Hearing Nan Jianlong's words, Cai Juying was moved. She didn't expect him to do so much for himself who had no culture and no temperament, and even treated her daughter like a biological woman.
The audience was also touched to see this scene, and did not expect that the love of the elderly halfway husband and wife could be so sweet.
However, when they saw Nan Jianlong's next move, the audience was stunned: only to see That Nan Jianlong took out a small book after Cai Juying left, and checked the cost she said before.
It turned out that he had never trusted her, never cared about her as much as he said, so he would be extremely wary of her. Even though they had been living for years, he still didn't trust her.
Of course, this is related to Nan Jianlong's personality. But it also shows that she did not enter his heart.
In the face of love, men are relatively rational, so he rarely spends money for a woman for no reason. Therefore, in the relationship, the smart woman will never pursue the man to spend money for her, but use various methods to enter his heart.
2. Enhance your own value
The short-term maintenance of feelings depends on the heartbeat, and the long-term maintenance depends on interests.
Adult feelings are mostly the result of weighing the pros and cons, it may be less of a youth feeling of purity, but because of the frequent injury, so the two will form an alliance and move towards a common goal.
In this case, the more valuable the woman, the more favored she is with the man.
A woman's appearance will gradually grow old with the passage of time, and eventually the person will grow old; the woman's thoughtfulness and gentleness will make the man feel greasy and crooked with the passage of time. Only value can become an advantage that men value at any time.
The reason why Xu Huanshan in "Thirty Only" "turned back to the shore", in addition to feeling guilty about Gu Jia and her children, is also partly due to Gu Jia's high value in marriage.
With Gu Jia there, he doesn't need to care about the open guns and dark arrows around him, he just needs to be at ease with the design of fireworks, because the strong Gu Jia will help him remove all obstacles. Sometimes, if not completely cleared, the impact of those obstacles on him will be significantly reduced.
With Gu Jiazai, he doesn't need to pay attention to the trivialities of life, because she has arranged everything, and he only needs to be responsible for execution.
Such a powerful woman, a woman who loves him, how can he be willing to leave? Therefore, after learning that Gu Jia had filed a divorce request, he tried his best to get her to change her mind. It's just that he doesn't know that the broken mirror can't be restored to its original state at all.
For feelings, stupid women will make men spend money for her; smart women will increase their value and spend money for her.
3. Know how to praise
Every man wants to be a hero, but in the face of harsh reality, his ideas are bound to be unrealized. Even so, he wanted to be her hero. So the praise strategy always applies to men.
It's just that no one's money is blown by the wind, so while implementing the praise policy, women must also know how to save money for men, otherwise he will not be "deceived" and willing to spend money for her.
It is enough to make a man willing to spend money for you, to enter his heart, to enhance his own value and to know how to praise, especially to enhance his own value. This is not only a place that men prefer, but also a confidence to let women get better and better. So no matter how busy they are, women have to enhance their value in various ways.
Only in this way can we stand in an invincible position; only in this way can we attack - enter the man's heart and become the woman he loves the most; retreat can be defended - leaving the man can still live a wonderful life.
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