What kind of child is a "good child"? We looked at mothers as the subject of the survey, and the answer we got was "obedient children", which reflects the special ideas of mothers about education, because these mothers were required by their parents to be "obedient" when they were still "little obedient". When I was in elementary school, my parents often admonished me: "Everything my parents say, children must obediently obey!" If you resist, your parents will scold you for being "filial piety" or punish them. Filial piety is also related to disloyalty, which is simply a manifestation of "immorality".
No matter how selfish and unreasonable the parents' demands, the child cannot disobey them. This is a kind of parent-child relationship in the context of feudal society, these parents believe that children cannot have spontaneous self-assertion, and children who do everything without self-assertion and whose parents do everything are "good children". I think that if there is a phenomenon of obedience between mothers and fathers, the "good children" they think should be like this. Such mothers and fathers often want their children to be as concerned about this as they are, and in one country parents teach their children that they must "express their opinions clearly".
And in the process of expressing opinions, it also includes saying "NO(no)!" "Because the same is true of the interactions between adults. During my life in Europe and the United States, if a friend wants to find me to "go to tea". But I don't want to. Well, I can tell him "I can't go" and although I refuse, he will never feel uncomfortable about it. You can honestly tell them "because my wife is waiting for me at home tonight". Friends will say "it is so", he knows the reason for my refusal, and he will not remember hatred and complain afterwards.
However, in our country, it is difficult to say the word "no", and as soon as others look for us, they will involuntarily "keep up". In particular, the boss opened his mouth to invite, and there was a sense of command, if you did not agree, it may not be good afterwards - because you destroyed his emotions, if you reject him today, tomorrow there may be a situation that is not favorable to yourself, and even suffer a dumb loss because of it. In fact, not only the father, but also a lot of the same things have happened to the mother, between husband and wife, many wives on the right still have the ancient idea of "husband singing with women", I believe there are wives who have always "respected each other" for their husbands, right?