Wen | Yingma
There's a song that goes like this: "If you love me, you kiss me, and if you love me, you hug me." ”
This is actually the real feeling of the child, the child has a lot of receptors on the body. When parents hold their children, not only the warmth of the parents will soothe the children, but also the smell of the parents can make the children feel safe, and the parents' hugs will stimulate the sensors on the children's skin, so that the children feel warmer, more comfortable, and more stable inside!
And when the child is young, he can get more full love and more security, the child can be more confident, the inner happiness will be stronger in the future, the peace will be more peaceful when looking at things, and it will be happier when he grows up!
At the 6 key moments of children's growth, parents should not skimp on hugging and kissing
One or six months ago, how to hold it is not excessive
The child is ignorant and full of fear of the world before 6 months, so the child can only express it to the mother through his unique language - crying, at this time, as long as the child cries, the mother must quickly pick up and comfort the child.
When the child is awake, he will sometimes let the child play in bed, but if he takes the child out, he must hold the child tightly and let the child understand the world in the mother's haven.
The child is often hugged before 6 months, his sense of security will be more sufficient, and the happiness will be stronger in the future, and after 6 months, parents will also hold the child, but in addition to holding the child, it is also necessary to teach the child some necessary rules, such as the child starts to eat complementary food, to tell the child to sit on the children's bench when eating complementary food! Rules such as not eating when playing with toys.
Second, kiss your child before going to bed
Before going to bed is the best parent-child time, the child may drink some breast milk before going to bed before the age of one, the child will not drink breast milk before going to bed after the age of one, then the mother can read and chat with the child, the child is ready to sleep when the child kisses on the cheek, tell the child: good night baby! This allows the child to fall asleep with a smile, and the child has a good mood before going to bed, can sleep better, and his mood can be better.
When you are about 4 years old and sleep in a separate bed with your child, you should also chat with your child before going to bed, accompany your child, give your child a kiss, and let your child sleep better on your own!
Third, give the child a hug when he cries
When the child is crying, his heart is very wronged or sad, at this time we first do not pursue the child for doing something wrong, but hold the child, let the child feel his grievances, his sadness, the mother knows, the mother is here, you do not have to be afraid, this will make the child have more courage in his heart, let him have the courage to face the unknown world and difficulties.
When a child cries when he is a child, his emotions can be understood and supported by his parents, and his emotional intelligence will be higher and happier in the future.
Fourth, when the child is frustrated, hold the child
When a child walks and falls after the age of one, he will be frustrated or will feel frustrated when he can't wear clothes. Every step the child has walked will have difficulties and thorns, the parents' embrace and understanding, can make the child suddenly have the courage to overcome difficulties, so when the child is frustrated, parents must not beat the falling water dog, blame the child, but hold the child, and then help the child to seek a solution to the problem together, guide the child to overcome the difficulties, so that the child will have a stronger frustration quotient when he grows up, and can solve the difficulties between talking and laughing.
Fifth, when the child is separated from anxiety
The most obvious is that when the child goes to kindergarten, many parents just trick the child into kindergarten, they sneak away, or when the child is crying, the crying child is stuffed to the teacher, and the parents turn around and run away.
Smart parents are when the child is unwilling to go into the kindergarten, tightly hold the child, tell the child, the mother knows that you are more willing to be at home, but we are now three years old, we have to be with the children, you play with the children in the kindergarten today, the mother will come to pick you up!
Let the child understand that the mother understands his reluctance to be separated from the mother.
When the child is uneasy
For example, when the child goes to a competition, he will be very nervous, at this time the child's emotions are very tense, the mother hugs the child and tells the child: "Go, no matter what the result is, mom and dad love you!" You win, Mom and Dad are proud of the results of your efforts; you lose, Mom and Dad accompany you to find the reason, we have a chance next time! ”
In the process of growing up, the mother's embrace and kiss is the source of the child's continuous strength, we give enough warmth when the child is not growing up, help him put on the indestructible armor, the child can grow up to become a towering tree, can be in front of the front, can also block the wind and rain for the elderly parents.
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