Before going to bed, My Dad talked to me about his colleagues. The colleague is more than 50 years old, the daughter has just married, and there are two old wives left in the family. Colleagues often complain to them that they have no children around, they are too lonely, and they have the idea of having a second child.
In your 50s? Second child? I was amazed when I heard it. Is this to stage a rhythm that grandma and mom can't tell? My husband was silent, and I understood that there was something in her words.
We were married for over 10 years and had a daughter. Because my daughter is difficult to take, I have never had the idea of having a second child, and even some resistance. My husband never mentioned the second child to me. But relatives and friends urged very diligently.
"Are you envious of the second-child family?" I teased him. He whispered back, "Every time I go back, I'm told." "I've heard about it, but he never mentioned it.
After being induced for more than 10 years, Bao Dad confessed for the first time. I could vaguely sense what he was really thinking.
About the second child, what does Bao Dad think?
Having children and daughters is more perfect
Bao Dad was born in the countryside, has been baptized by traditional ideas for a long time, and has the idea of having both children and daughters, and I also express my understanding. Together with the four brothers in the family, they are all a son and a daughter, and there may be a gap in psychology.
Although he didn't admit it on his lips, I still saw through the little trick in my heart and didn't say it. After the opening of the second child, there is no restriction on the household registration, and his desire for the second child is stronger, but...
The wife does not give birth to entanglements
My daughter was frail and sickly from an early age, and I brought up with my own hands. Among the hardships and heartaches, only they understand, and Bao Dad is in the eyes.
To tell you the truth, I don't have the courage and fear that the dark days will happen again. So, I couldn't resist.
Bao Dad probably also knows that as long as it is something I don't want to do, no one can shake it. Therefore, more than 10 years later, although he could not escape the urging of relatives and friends, he silently accepted it himself and did not mention it much.
My daughter has grown up and her physical fitness has improved a lot compared to when she was a child. When everyone thought it was possible to have a second child, I still did not waver in my heart.
Many people advised me, and even bluntly said that I would regret it later. No one can predict what will happen in the future. However, I know exactly what I want and what I don't want.
At the age of ben four, should I have a second child?
Regarding whether or not to have a second child, I think there must be some voices in favor and some against. Regardless of age, everyone's choice is different, respect is good.
The heavenly mother in her 60s still chooses to give birth to the gift at an advanced age, and if it is given birth to the gift, it will grow up healthily. We only have blessings and admire her courage.
There are also young girls who choose Dink. In fact, having children or not is a personal choice. And not having a second child is not necessary.
Therefore, there is no right or wrong to have a second child, as long as the conditions are ripe.
Under what circumstances can a second child be considered?
Parents are mentally mature
In society, many of our jobs need to be certified, but our parents do not. In reality, how many parents still want to have a child, they have a child.
If you have a child, you can't give your child love, you can't give companionship, and you can let your child stay in your hometown for a long time... So what can you give your child when you are a parent? These are all questions that need to be considered, how to give, what to give, it is worth thinking carefully.
Economic conditions are acceptable
The cost of raising a child is far from being able to solve the problem of food and clothing in the past. The cost of children's training, medical expenses, and family loans, mortgages and car loans, have put a lot of pressure on parents.
One more child costs only more. Don't believe what the old man said, isn't it just a matter of one more pair of chopsticks? I think the best conditions are not to affect or reduce the current quality of life.
Be prepared to bring your kids
Whether it is to ask someone to bring it, or to bring it with your family, you must take precautions. Please bring someone, there must be a suitable person to bring the baby. Bring it yourself full-time, and also do a good job in psychological construction.
Full-time baby is a test for moms. I've been through it. I don't know if moms who have been full-time have the same idea as me? It's much easier to go to work than to take a baby.
If conditions permit, I choose to accompany the baby with high quality after work. Full-time life, only experience can feel empathy.
Write at the back:
At the age of Ben Si, I still choose to respect my inner thoughts and not blindly listen. The life you are experiencing and what kind of life you want to live in the future, only you know best.
Therefore, whether to have a second child or not, depends on your own choice. What do you think?