preface:
Nowadays, most of the only children in every family are the only children, and in the eyes of countless parents, children are the treasures in their hearts.
Holding it in the hand is afraid of falling off, holding it in the mouth is afraid of melting, no matter how much suffering and how much tiredness parents suffer, they have no regrets for their children.
You can even give up and abandon everything, but in the end, what do you get in exchange?
If the child knows how to be grateful, then the parents will not be raised in vain, and if the child does not know how to be grateful, the parents will also be very sad.
Often healthy families are full of love and know how to separate, after all, love and separation are two eternal topics in life.
Healthy families, parents love their children deeply, and raising them as adults is not about sharing this one result.
It is to push children into the wider world and let them face life independently.
When children grow up, they will also find their favorite partner to live the life they want.
So children should not be the whole of parents, we must not only leave space for ourselves, but also leave space for children.
In the family, the parent-child relationship should not be in the first place, but the husband and wife relationship should be in the first place.
Because a good marriage between husband and wife is the needle in the family, the husband and wife can grow up healthy and strong with happy children.
Parents' serious love complex will make children unable to take care of themselves in life,
Often things are also very extreme.
"To be happy as a family, you need to change your mindset.
And on this basis, long-term adherence to correct behavior, the child is not the first,
You must understand that your spouse is the person you love the most. ”
Because when the child grows up, he will have his own life and family. If a parent puts all his love on his child.
In the future, the family will not be able to function, and many couples will break down their feelings.
Slowly, it can lead to a mess of family relationships.
If parents blindly focus on their children, they ignore the feelings between each other and their husbands.
That child often does not get happiness and joy either.
1. Putting children first creates an unbalanced family atmosphere
As a parent, you must know to put your partner in the first place,
But many people have children, so they put their children in the first place in the family.
They have begun to pay attention to their growth and education, but pay little attention to the relationship between husband and wife.
Slowly, the relationship between each other, which was no longer so sweet, began to slowly become estranged.
In fact, women sacrifice much more for the family than men.
Since children need more from their mothers than their fathers, women also put their minds on their children.
At this time, men should pay more attention to the emotional and psychological changes of their wives.
The child can be said to be the third person in the family, because the arrival of the child has to some extent seized the love between the husband and wife.
As an adult everyone is very stressed,
If we are always not understood and cared for, we will become very lost.
In this way, it is natural to seek care outside the home for a long time.
2. Put the child in the first place, the parents may have a love complex
The plot of the lover is actually a kind of sick love, which will cause great pressure on the child.
Even when children grow up, they often become what we call mommy boys.
We can all understand that parents love their children, but don't let children feel that this love is heavy.
If you love him too much, the relationship between the husband and wife will become very bad.
When a child becomes a family, parents become very empty and miserable.
There are also children in the stage of identity and gender cognition, if boys are too dependent on the mother and girls are too dependent on the father.
In this way, it is easy to form a child's stealth disorder, and it is possible to exclude the opposite sex around them during this period.
So a good education for parents is of great help to children.
I believe that as parents, we all want our children to become better and better, and at this time, we should not regard our children as our own.
Everyone in the family should have their own family status,
When a child sees that his parents are very loving, he will also feel an incomparable sense of security and happiness in his heart.
Conclusion:
So our parents should not be dependent on their children for the sake of their children to be happy.
We mainly think that our love can trump their spouse.
Although it is difficult for us to give up, we must also give our children a space to grow.
In this way, when the child grows up, his heart will not be wronged, and he will understand and comfort his parents more.
If parents blindly focus on their children's education, they ignore the feelings between husband and wife.
The family atmosphere will not be harmonious, and the child will not perceive happiness.
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References | Journal of experimental psychology. Learning,memory,and cognition