Zhengzhou Traditional Chinese Medical Hall: Children entering adolescence will have uncontrollable "rebellion", will issue various challenges, and even "blind work" without a bottom line.
At this time, most parents will have the following two manifestations:
One, escape;
In the face of children who can erupt at any time, parents are afraid and withdraw from work and study. Or keep silent and look at the child coldly; when the child is out of control, he doesn't care, afraid that he can't bear it; don't dare to make demands on the child, let them develop...
Second, strong suppression;
In the face of children's rebellion, parents believe that they are provocative to themselves, and carry out coercive, rough and severe discipline on their children, forcing children to obey.
The result of this is either that the child becomes more and more lawless, more aggressive, and even fights with the parents; or the child ignores the parents, the parent-child relationship breaks down, or even hates the parents, the family quarrels all day, and the chickens fly and the dogs jump.
"Adolescent children have behavioral biases. What parents have to do is not to blame, but to guide positively! We can't beat the problem with the problem, but we should beat the problem with the child! However, few parents know how to properly guide their children. Parents' self-study is the solution to the problem! "
Remember three key words, face your child's adolescence directly, don't run away, don't suppress, don't seduce.
When adolescent children have serious "retreat behavior", such as dropping out of school, fear, sensitivity, parents should accept! The attitude toward him was not fourteen or fifteen, but four or five. Only when a 4-year-old is fully loved and respected will he become 14 again! Children at this time are in great need of parental love and guidance!