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In today's low fertility situation, many people will mention Dink. But do you know where Dink's statement came from?
The concept of "Dink" was introduced to China in the 1980s. It is a description of a Kochi family in which both spouses have jobs, have double income, but have no children . According to these two characteristics, take the initial letters of these two words and form DINK, transliterated as "Dink".
When "Dink" was introduced to China in the 1980s, it was once favored by high-income, high-educated families, and even became a trend.
Nowadays, many people, because of the pressure of life or personal pursuit of considerations, also plan not to have children. But before they made this decision, they had all kinds of concerns. Relatives, friends and family members around them are also worried about the old age of these people.
More people will say, "Don't have children now, you will definitely regret it when you are old!" ”
So, will those who chose Dink regret it in their old age? If we choose one or two from the Dink group to answer, it can only be regarded as a niche sample, not very credible. Let's hear how sociologists will analyze it.
On a certain website, a netizen sharply proposed: Those who choose Dink today have no regrets in their old age, and do they have any data in this regard?
Let's see how Yu Jia, assistant professor at peking university's center for social studies, answered.
In large-scale social surveys, she said, childless people are often not directly asked whether they regret it in their later years. However, some studies conducted through interviews will have a deeper and more detailed understanding of the psychological conditions of these people. In general, whether these dink groups will regret it in their later years depends on the reasons for their dink in the first place.
◆ Tieding crowd, basically less regret in their later years
The Tintin crowd is actually the active Dink crowd. Their willingness not to have children is very strong, and they belong to the active type of not wanting children. That is to say, the couple themselves have fertility, but no will to have children. Until his old age, he remained childless.
Such a Dink group, after reaching the old age, the chance of regret is relatively small, and because after making plans in the early years, it has begun to prepare for the old age (more importantly, psychological preparation), and the quality of life in the later years is generally high.
70s Dink's poems and distant places
I once followed a pair of post-70s travel bloggers on the Internet, the couple is a tieding, hard work in the early years, and now hand in hand to travel around, life is comfortable. They have discussed their later life, believing that they have sufficient financial ability and psychological foundation to cope with problems that may arise in their later years. Of course, their lives are now very happy.
◆ Passive Dink group, more regrets in their later years
Among the Dink group, those who are prone to regret in their later years are mostly those who want to have children but cannot have children.
It could be because of a physical problem with one partner, or because of the couple's age, or because of financial considerations, they didn't have children. But the heart actually wants it. These childless groups are forced to dink, and in their old age, they see other people's children and grandchildren wrapped around their knees, and they are handsome, and the two are compared, and the regret is deeper.
It can be seen from this that whether to be born or not to be born, we must ask our own hearts. If you want to have children and can't, you must overcome the difficulties and solve them bravely. If you have no desire to have children, then be prepared to deal with your old age in advance, and do not hesitate to "fear of regret when you are old".
[Topic Discussion: Is there anyone Dink around you? How are they doing now? 】
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