The love of parents should be fair love, selfless love, perceived love, and unrequited love.
If, in the process of raising children, parents consciously or unconsciously take sides, whether it is a favored child or a snubbed child, it will be more or less psychologically unhealthy.
Today's main description of what psychological problems children who are raised by eccentricity (being snubbed) may have:
1, will become a flattering personality
In the process of children's growth, children expect more love from their parents and families.
If his parents and family give the love that should have been given to him to others, it is human nature to "compete for favors".
That is, the "flattering personality" we often talk about.
When the child is young, the flattering personality will not have a very serious impact on the child's life, and some parents will even enjoy it.
But when the child grows up and even becomes a family, many ills will be revealed.
2, will be more concerned about fairness
Because children have not been cared for and cared for since childhood. When you grow up, when you enter society, you will care more about the fairness and justice of others.
In society, we often say: "To suffer losses is to be blessed." "Not without reason.
A certain degree of "altruism" is more conducive to wandering in the commercial society.
Children will be too concerned about personal gains and losses, and they will pay more attention to the interests of small things, which will affect the long term.
3, will become very sensitive
Children will become more sensitive to many things.
Referring to the previous article, in addition to issues related to the fairness of personal interests, it will also be difficult for ordinary people to deal with interpersonal relationships.
When getting along with friends, you will put more energy into the process of getting along, one small thing after another.
There are some things that even the other party is completely unaware of. Make it difficult for children to communicate with each other.
Getting along with it gives people a feeling of walking on thin ice. Not conducive to the development of healthy friendships.
4, will be easy to inferiority
Children who lack parental love from an early age, especially those who are snubbed by their parents, will be more likely to have low self-esteem.
They often have a hard time opening their hearts and trusting that others will be nice to them.
This feeling of inferiority is rooted in the depths of the heart for a long time, and it is difficult to change his mentality through a few simple words.
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"Parenting" is the lowest threshold profession in the world. If men and women love, they can become "parents".
If you love him, treat this "little angel" that God has given you.
[Author of this article]: Secretary Zhang of Orangutan Village
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