Children lose their temper because they have an innate, natural instinct to cling to fulfilling all their desires, but their physical and emotional development exceeds their ability to communicate. When children feel that they are not fully empowered, they will be very angry, but they do not know how to express their thoughts, and temper tantrums may be the only way they can express themselves.
Older preschoolers who don't express their wishes properly are also seen by our parents as playing tantrums.
Temper tantrums are a stage that children have to go through in the development process, but some children have a long time, and some children have a short time. Temper tantrums are an outburst of children's emotions, and he needs parents to give some attention and guidance after the child is calm. Otherwise, the next time the child encounters such a problem, he will still choose to break out of his temper.
In fact, parents can also avoid this outbreak by listening and understanding, and we parents are also obliged to provide a safe place for children to release all emotions.
The reason why children play with temper points
A child's tantrums can be divided into two types: one to express dissatisfaction and the other to seek attention.
We parents have all seen the kind of kids who ask for attention, who are smart enough to find ways to get there. They'll go and open the cookie tube after you've banned it, and then make a big fuss as you lecture him. So, you'd better walk away as soon as you set the limits.
In contrast, another type of child who loses his temper in order to express dissatisfaction needs the help and sympathy of the parents. A child may lose his temper when he tries to fix his toys or wants to dress himself, but can't do it. Many parents may not understand their children, do not understand why their children lose their temper, and then get angry at their children, or feel that their children's behavior is funny. In fact, both of these practices are not right, and the child's emotional fluctuations are the best time to deepen your parent-child relationship. Parents should come forward in time to comfort their children and lend a helping hand: "Daddy is here, and I can help your child." "Don't ignore it or laugh it off. Be sure to let your child know that when they can't accomplish something, they can ask their parents for assistance.
In the face of children who play with their temper in search of attention, you can do this
1. Plan ahead. If you need to go out shopping and you have to bring your child with you, talk to your child in advance, ask for your child's consent, and indicate that you need your child's help. Most children are happy to help you.
2. Express understanding and compassion for your child. It is very important that no matter what happens, be sure to figure out the cause of the child's tantrums and express your understanding of the child, which is the key to solving all problems.
3. Stay calm. Never be swayed by the child's emotions, and you can't lose your temper because the child loses his temper. If you really can't solve it, take your child to a quiet environment where no one is there, and wait for your child to calm down before solving the problem.
No matter what kind of situation you lose your temper with your child, don't confront your child. The more you try to control your child, the more he will resist you. Before taking action, be sure to figure out why your child is throwing a tantrum. If you're emotionally excited, the worst outcome is your child rejecting you or you losing confidence. Respect and guidance will greatly help channel the temper tantrum of the child, and your unconditional love will make the child truly happy.