The philosopher Erich Fromm once said: "The true embodiment of maternal love seems not to lie in the mother's love for the birth of the baby, but in the love of the child in later growth." ”
I believe that everyone will deeply understand this sentence. Mothers get up early every day to prepare breakfast for their children and tell their children to study hard every day; after the children work, the mother will warn the children to handle the relationship with leading colleagues; after the children fall in love, the mother will come up with suggestions and suggestions to strictly control the concept of marriage; after having grandchildren, the mother will take the initiative to take on the burden of taking care of the children...
Mother's love for children penetrates into the bits and pieces of life, perhaps you have long been accustomed to it, and feel that everything is taken for granted, once you encounter unexpected situations, you will feel the greatness and preciousness of maternal love.
When the Wenchuan earthquake occurred, firefighters and fighters found a mother and son under a ruin, the mother has no vital signs, she used her body to make a barrier, the young child survived under her protection, seeing such a scene Countless netizens ran in tears.
There are many similar things, whenever the child encounters danger, the mother will stand up at all costs, which makes us feel the glory and greatness of maternal love again and again.
The woman was 4 years pregnant and did not give birth, she had a big belly all year round, and the neighbors ridiculed her for being pregnant with "Nezha", the real reason was tearful.
Ms. Lei's family lives in Chenzhou, Hunan Province, and when she was young, she and her husband were introduced to each other, they were in love, they admired each other, and after a period of time together, they came together naturally.
In 2010, Ms. Lei gave birth to a lovely daughter, Ms. Lei named her daughter "Pearl", and the family looked forward to Pearl growing up healthy and happy.
Pearl suddenly fainted when she was one year old, Ms. Lei rushed to take Pearl to the hospital for examination, and was diagnosed with thalassemia, which is a rare congenital anemia disease, a little attention may be life-threatening, there are two ways to cure it, either to do bone marrow transplantation, or to do umbilical cord dry running transplantation.
After learning of this, Ms. Lei was heartbroken, she did not expect pearl to suffer from this disease, she could not bear to see pearl endure the torment of illness at a young age, she immediately decided to cure pearl's disease no matter what the cost.
Ms. Lei's idea is beautiful and difficult to implement. In the years that followed, Ms. Lei searched for suitable bone marrow through various avenues and found nothing. During this period, Pearl had many accidents, and Ms. Lei had to be with Pearl at all times.
Children her age as Pearl would play outside after school, and Pearl could only stay at home honestly because she couldn't do strenuous exercise or have big emotional ups and downs, which were fatal to her.
Pearl pestered Ms. Lei countless times to go out to play, Ms. Lei could only coax her to lie to her, Ms. Lei knew that Pearl's condition could not be postponed indefinitely, and considered repeatedly Ms. Lei made a surprising decision, she planned to save Pearl by getting pregnant.
In the following 4 years, Ms. Lei became pregnant frequently, and each time the pregnancy doctor would extract some cord blood from her body, which could relieve pearl's pain.
Ms. Lei also has an idea, she said: "If the child I am pregnant with can be successfully matched with pearls, I will give birth to the child, and when the child grows up, pearls will do bone marrow transplants with him, so that pearls will be saved!" ”
In order to achieve this goal, she became pregnant 9 times in a row, unfortunately the first 8 times she was pregnant with the child was not successfully matched, she chose to miscarry, and then prepared for a pregnancy.
For 4 years she had been repeating the cycle of "pregnancy-pregnancy-miscarriage", which was quite harmful to her body, and several times she passed by the god of death, but she did not hesitate.
Over the years, neighbors often saw her with a big belly, but no one saw her give birth, and many people ridiculed Ms. Lei for being pregnant with "Nezha", and Ms. Lei was helpless and bitter to hear such words.
Ms. Lei made such a decision very difficult, she had to endure both physical torture and mental torture, she was physically and mentally exhausted, her energy was haggard, no one could share her pain, she had to suffer alone in silence.
In fact, the husband and mother-in-law do not support Ms. Lei to do this, they are worried that Ms. Lei will be in danger. Her husband often advised her to give up this idea, and Ms. Lei's attitude was very firm, she said: "Pearl is my daughter, I want her to become a normal person, only I can save her!" ”
The husband said helplessly: "I don't respect her opinion she will be unhappy, I respect her and I am afraid that she is in danger, I really don't know what to do." ”
The mother-in-law does not understand Ms. Lei's approach, she believes that Ms. Lei will give birth to the child smoothly, there is no need to miscarry frequently, which is good for adults and children. The mother-in-law said: "She always has opinions about me, saying that I don't care about her, I don't care about Pearl, I am very wronged!" ”
Ms. Lei's hopeful pregnancies, disappointed miscarriages, physical and mental torture made her unbearable, and she struggled to survive each time.
During this time, Ms. Lei continued to take good care of Pearl, who needed to rely on blood transfusions and iron removal treatment to maintain her normal life. In order to save money, she personally gave Pearls a line of iron needles, and over the years she was more professional than a nurse.
Every time the needle pearl was strong, the little guy's stomach and arms were covered with needle eyes, she never cried out in pain, she said: "Cowards will cry!" "She showed strength and bravery beyond her peers, and her understanding was heartbreaking.
When Ms. Lei became pregnant with her ninth child last year, she rekindled hope. When she was four or five months pregnant, she went to Guangzhou to do matching, this time she waited for the good news, the child and pearl matching success, as long as she gave birth to the child smoothly, pearl will be saved, years of wishes finally come true, Ms. Lei and her husband are excited about it.
However, the cold reality was once again in front of her, and the results of her examination in the hospital were not impressive.
Because her uterine muscle fibers were badly damaged by multiple miscarriages, she was likely to bleed heavily during childbirth, endangering the lives of pregnant women and children. She told her husband that everything was normal, and she secretly shed tears when she was alone.
Another thing she was worried about, the operation cost 500,000 yuan, which is not a small amount for this poor family, she found the internet mother Tan Lanxia, with the help of Tan Lanxia, the operation fee has been settled, she is very pleased.
Now Ms. Lei is at ease raising a baby at home, she wrote a will behind her husband's back, she said: "If there is an accident during the operation, you must first protect the child no matter what, if I die on the operating table, you will donate my organs to save more people." ”
We often say: "A woman is weak, but a mother is strong", which is vividly reflected in Ms. Lei.
Ms. Ray gave birth to a daughter with congenital thalassemia, and she did not give up on the child, on the contrary, she tried to save the child. She has been pregnant many times, miscarried many times, and she has only one purpose despite the physical and mental torture and pain, that is, to give birth to a child who can successfully match her daughter, so that her daughter will be saved.
Ms. Lei is eager to save the daughter, her behavior is great, from her we can see the determination and courage of the mother in saving the child, and from her we can also see the brilliance and strength of maternal love.
I hope that Ms. Lei can give birth to the child smoothly, because the arrival of this child Pearl can be protected from the ravages of the disease, and I hope that Ms. Lei can pour the same love into this child, rather than just using the child as a lifesaver for pearls.
Ms. Lei saved her daughter through frequent pregnancies, do you approve of her approach? Some people say that Ms. Lei did not have to make such a big sacrifice, what do you think about this? Welcome to leave a message to discuss.