At night, the daughter is doing her homework, and the father walks into the daughter's room and asks her if she is finished? The daughter replied that she would finish it immediately.
When Dad was about to walk out of the room, his daughter stopped him and showed off to him very happily: "Daddy, do you see that my pen is beautiful?" ”
Dad said, "It's really beautiful, where did you get it?" ”
The daughter said proudly: "This is a pencil I took and exchanged it with my classmates, do you think I am strong?" ”
Dad said, "Not at all!" ”
The daughter was full of questions: "Not bad, why?" ”
Dad said, "You're obviously taking advantage!" ”
The daughter said, "Isn't it a skill to take advantage of you?" ”
Dad said, "Of course not!" If people are smarter than you and let you take advantage, it means that people care about you as a friend, and you have taken advantage of this relationship, which is not right in itself. If people are not as smart as you, it is even more wrong to use your advantages to bully people who are weaker than you. ”
After listening to her father's words, her daughter suddenly felt extremely ashamed and said to her father very sincerely: "I understand, I will return it tomorrow." ”
Unexpectedly, Dad said, "Don't pay it back!" ”
The daughter wondered again, "Why?" ”
Dad smiled and said, "Bring her something else tomorrow, but better than this pen, give it to her." ”
What do you think of when you see this?
This is the real "three views of education", if ordinary parents encounter this kind of thing, they may only say to their children, "This is not right, do not do this in the future", but they must not think of this father's approach.
If the father just asks his daughter to return the pen, for the daughter, what she learns is "I will no longer take advantage of others in the future", and there will certainly be no problems in character. But the father did not let the daughter return, but asked the daughter to give better things to the other party, and for the daughter, what she learned was "courtesy exchange".
Don't underestimate the word "courtesy exchange", if it is really used well, in the future life path, you will make more friends. Because others can pay you better, everyone is willing to pay for you. In this way, there will be more and more friends around you, and you will have more and more resources.
Let me tell you another negative case:
The protagonist of the story is a boy, when he was very young, he and his father went to the supermarket and saw a cool toy, he wanted to buy it, but the price was more expensive. The father saw his thoughts, so when no one was paying attention, he tore off the label and quickly put it in his pocket. He stood still and silently accepted it all.
When he grows up, he will subconsciously do similar behaviors, such as evading tickets when taking the subway, and directly tearing off the label when visiting the mall to take things away. Until one time, he was caught by the security guards of the mall and twisted to the police station.
The moment he walked out of the police station, he felt extremely ashamed, and it was hard to imagine that he was so young and had done such a shameless thing.
This is the influence of parents on the child's life pattern, although he knows that some practices are wrong, but in order to covet small and cheap, he still can't help but do it, and only when he is exposed or hurt can he realize the seriousness of the problem.
The influence of the original family on the child is actually the influence of the parents' three views on the child. If the parents have three views, the child's three views are correct, and the parents' character is poor, and the child's character is difficult to be excellent.
Although we do not require children to be morally noble, but at least the values can not be wrong, those who love greed and cheap, after all, can not achieve great things, and it is difficult to have close friends around.
Therefore, in addition to paying attention to your child's academic performance, you must pay attention to cultivating your child's three views. As a parent, there must be a big pattern, only if the pattern is large enough, can we achieve a bigger career in the future!
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