In 2020, a news of homeless people set off a wave on the Internet. While verifying basic information on personnel, police in Shanghai encountered a ragged homeless man in a dilapidated demolition area. I thought it was an ordinary tramp, and when I checked my identity, I shocked everyone.
He turned out to be Yao Yuan, the Beijing Polytechnic bully who had been missing for 12 years, on the search notice posted in the streets and alleys of Shanghai.
Yao Yuanben is a native of Hubei, born in 1971, and his family is an ordinary rural family. In order to get out of the countryside and settle down in the city, his parents taught him from an early age that only by studying well can there be a way out in the future. Therefore, Yao Yuan is diligent and studious every day, from primary school to junior high school, he is a good child in the eyes of parents, a good student in the eyes of teachers, and a bully in the eyes of his classmates.
In high school, Yao Yuan knew that this was the most critical moment, so he did not have any slackening, still insisted on working hard, studied as hard as he could, and his grades remained at the top. The third year of high school is a more critical year, Yao Yuan is still working hard, more than ten years of cold window, must persist.
In his hard work, Yao Yuan's college entrance examination became the college entrance examination champion of Hubei Province that year with excellent results. What a great honor, many famous schools for him to choose. With such achievements, there must be a bright future.
The end of the college entrance examination means that the 12-year cold window of hard study is finally over, and the future life will be easier and there are more choices. Yao Yuan returned to the village as a college entrance examination winner, and needless to say, relatives came to congratulate him. Yao Yuan became the object of envy of his peers, and his parents also became the envy of his relatives.
With such results, it is natural for me to choose from all the famous schools. Yao Yuan was elected to Beijing Institute of Technology according to his wishes, although it was not as good as Tsinghua Peking University, but it was also a higher education institution. Especially around the 1990s, if you can graduate from this university, you must be able to graduate from a high-educated school.
But after entering the university, Yao Yuan found that he was not as good as he imagined, because here gathered the elites of Tiannanhaibei, and his identity as a champion of the Hubei college entrance examination was really not worth mentioning. The excellence of the classmates around me sometimes makes me breathless. But he was the envy of everyone in the village, and his parents' faces were also very radiant. In order to continue to be in the eyes of family and friends, the expectation of their own. Yao Yuan went to college and did not relax in studying.
Every day at three o'clock, rushing to the dormitory, canteen and classroom. The efforts of four years of college have not been in vain, and Yao Yuan is still a bully in the eyes of college classmates and a top son in the eyes of his parents and classmates. After graduating from college, Yao Yuan's life ushered in a new direction, and with his academic qualifications and excellent results, he will definitely find a good job.
Yes, such an excellent talent as Yao Yuan does not need him to go out to find a job, and good units directly come to him. China North Industries Group directly sent him an employment notice, which made the classmates envious, this is a scientific research unit, many students can not hope for the unit, actually directly hired Yao Yuan. The envy and admiration of others also made Yao Yuan feel happy, and he was still the proud Yao Yuan.
However, entering the workplace is still very different from the period of study in school. Yao Yuan, who thought that when he entered a large company, he would be stronger than others, would be superior to others, and was the proud son of heaven in the eyes of everyone. When he entered the company to work, he realized that as the proud son of heaven in the village and school, when he arrived at the unit, he was just a frog at the bottom of the well.
I entered this kind of large unit, but I was just an ordinary small clerk, much more than the people in my own high position. The strong gap made Yao Yuan very disappointed in his heart. He studied hard for sixteen years, but he could only be a small clerk, and his heart was so unwilling.
He was very reluctant to be an ordinary small clerk, but he did not dare to resign, because he could not find a better job than he is now. So Yao Yuan spent the whole day in dissatisfaction with himself, and he did not think about working hard to fight for a higher position. In Yao Yuan's dissatisfaction and constant self-doubt, he gradually felt that he did not want this kind of life.
He wants a better life and wants to find a better version of himself. So Yao Yuan, who had been in the China North Industries Group for eight years, resolutely chose to leave here and go to the big city of Shanghai. Hearing Yao Yuan's thoughts, the parents directly said that they did not agree. After working hard for so many years, in order to stabilize in such a large unit, it will not be long before you can start a family, which is the envy of many people in your hometown. But Yao Yuan wanted to give up everything he had now and start over in Shanghai.
The resolute disagreement of his parents made Yao Yuan feel very uncomfortable. He had been thinking about this decision for many years, and he had been in this scientific unit for eight years, knowing full well that it was not the job he wanted. Yao Yuan was bent on going to Shanghai, and no one could change it, so he had a conflict with his parents.
Yao Yuan, who came to Shanghai, could only choose to rent a very broken small house, and after settling in, he began to look for a job. Although it is difficult to travel every day to find a job, he feels that these difficulties are temporary. He was rejected once for an interview, and after being rejected many times, Yao Yuan realized how ordinary his academic qualifications were.
In the eight years he has worked in the scientific research unit, there have been more and more high-quality students, and more and more college students have graduated from famous universities, and he is a graduate of Beijing Institute of Technology. Moreover, he has been graduating for eight years, and he is more than thirty years old, which is obviously somewhat derailed from society. When large companies choose Yao Yuan and fresh graduates with higher education, they will choose the latter without thinking. In this way, Yao Yuan found one job after another, but they were all brutally abandoned, and his heart was greatly hit.
And those small companies, Yao Yuan will not go, after all, how good he is, those small companies are not as good as the previous scientific research companies, how can he retreat to the second place? However, this choice of high or low made Yao Yuan unable to find a job at all. You can only rely on the savings in your hands every day to stumble in a small rental house.
When he came to Shanghai, he had a conflict with his parents and gradually broke off contact. Coupled with his current situation, he did not dare to contact his parents at all, and did not dare to let his family and villagers know his current situation. He hadn't been home in years, and he hadn't contacted his family. He thought that when he found a good job and had a good development, he would return to his hometown in a beautiful way.
But life is not as he wishes, seeing that his savings have been spent, and the global financial storm has arrived, most companies are urgently laying off employees, even small companies that Yao Yuan usually does not look up to, do not recruit people. At this time, Yao Yuan could not find any job, he could not even maintain his life, even if it was a very small rental house, he could not afford to live.
Yao Yuan has been sitting on the mountain in the past few years, the savings in his hands have been used up, and he can't even pay the rent, so he can only be driven out. On the side of the parents, they had severed contact with their sons for several years, and at first they only thought that it was the parents' incomprehension that made Yao Yuan resent his parents and was unwilling to contact his parents. But the parents gradually felt that something was wrong, Yao Yuan should have started a family long ago, but the parents could not contact Yao Yuan, they realized that Yao Yuan was missing.
And Yao Yuan was devastated, and he didn't have the face to go home. Every day, I face great pressure and lose myself in life. Coupled with no savings, Yao Yuan can only wander around the streets of Shanghai, in such an environment and pressure, Yao Yuan gradually delirium, he does not know who he is, where he is, why he is homeless, he does not know anything.
Yao Yuan's parents came to Shanghai from their hometown with all their savings, just to find their son. They posted search notices on the streets and alleys, and traveled every day, but they still couldn't find their sons. Within a few years, Yao Yuan's parents spent all their savings in Shanghai to find their son. There was no way but for them to return to their hometown temporarily. But they never gave up, as long as it is not the busy season, the second elder will come to Shanghai to look for his son.
In this way, year after year, the second elder was already more than sixty years old, and Yao Yuan was already more than forty years old. His parents decided not to look for it, disappeared for more than ten years, either there was an accident or passed away, and Yao Yuan basically could not live.
It wasn't until 2020 that police in Shanghai found a homeless man in a dilapidated demolition area. The police asked him what his name was and where he was, but the tramp was completely speechless, so the police had to take him back and settle down. Under the care and enlightenment of the police, the tramp was gradually able to speak, which also reminded him of his memories.
He said that he was from Hubei and his name was Yao Yuan, a graduate of Beijing Institute of Technology, who had worked in China North Industries Group. Little by little, Yao Yuan told how he had become what he was now, and how he had lost contact with his family. The police only knew that it turned out that he was a high-quality student of Beijing Institute of Technology who had been missing for 12 years and had been looking for by his parents, and the Winner of the Hubei College Entrance Examination that year.
After learning his identity, the police quickly told Yao Yuan's parents the news. Yao Yuan's parents recognized Yao Yuan as soon as they came, and although he was more than forty years old, his parents quickly recognized him. Yao Yuan's parents directly hugged him in pain, and the second elder poured out his family wealth to find his son, and finally found it, and then Yao Yuan followed his parents back to his hometown.
Although the parents are very distressed by the change of their son, but they have been looking for more than ten years, there is no news of their son, they have tacitly acknowledged that their son is not there, and now the son can still find back, it is a great honor for them.
After the second elder brought Yao Yuan home, he took good care of him, did not want to put pressure on his son, and tried his best not to think about the past. Yao Yuan is also under the care of his parents, his mood is getting better and better, he speaks more and more fluently, and he thinks about all his experiences.
A few months after the incident, some netizens had seen their family in Yao Yuan's hometown, and Yao Yuan's spirit was already very good at that time, and his clothes were clean, just like normal people. In June 2021, a reporter went to Yao Yuan's hometown to interview Yao Yuan again. In the face of the reporter's interview, Yao Yuan did not shy away from the stage at all, nor did he avoid the things he had done, and when expressing things, the way he spoke could not see that he had been a mentally abnormal tramp. Although his face is a bit vicissitudes and his hair has a lot of gray hair, the reporter can feel his ability to express himself as a high-achieving student of Beijing Polytechnic.
In order to pursue her inner desires and realize the expectations of her parents and family, Yao Yuan did not consider reality and made a wrong decision in life. This decision made the former high-achieving student vulnerable, unable to bear the torment of huge life and mental pressure, and finally forgot his past and became a carefree tramp.
In order to become a better version of himself, in order to surpass others and become his ideal, Yao Yuan forced himself into a tramp, and he used twelve years of street wandering to reconcile with himself.
At the end of the interview with him, he said that after a while, he would also find a good job, work well, and honor his parents.
After twelve years of wandering and returning to his parents, Yao Yuan finally learned to reconcile with himself and no longer live for any desire, but only live for the sake of living. Letting go of the past and reconciling with yourself is the most difficult practice.
A high-achieving student at Beijing Institute of Technology in the 90s used his half-life experience to tell everyone that he must have an optimistic attitude towards life, let go of his attachment to himself, and accept his ordinary self. If people always compete with themselves in life, in order to surpass others and become the envy of others, they may even lose their ordinary lives.
If Yao Yuan had not chosen to go to Shanghai, he would still be the envy of everyone, a high-caliber student of state-owned enterprises, and he might have already established a family, often accompanying his family and honoring his parents. People must always know how to be content and accept their true selves. If you blindly cling to your heart and amplify your desires, you will only lose your way and become a more failed self.