In the process of children's growth, they will make many mistakes, and sometimes parents will inevitably be really angry with their children and make some extreme behaviors. Afterwards, parents will feel remorse for their actions, but the harm to the child has already been caused.
Ms. Zhang will pick up her daughter from kindergarten every day to come home from school, on this day, her daughter walked for a while but did not move, her eyes looked at the stall selling fried skewers on the side of the road, and her daughter looked at the stall and looked at her mother, and the look in her eyes was the meaning of longing for her mother to buy her food.
Ms. Zhang has always disliked her daughter eating junk food, in her opinion these things are neither healthy nor hygienic, pulling her daughter to go, the daughter reluctantly shakes off her mother's hand, and cries and makes trouble, Ms. Zhang has no way, coaxed her daughter to say a few words, but the daughter cries louder.
Ms. Zhang said angrily, "If you make trouble again, I will throw you here." After saying that, Ms. Zhang raised her legs and left, leaving her daughter in place. Ms. Zhang had thought that her daughter would follow after taking a few steps, but the child still stood where she was, and Ms. Zhang continued to walk forward angrily, thinking that her daughter would definitely follow her in a moment.
After walking for a while, Ms. Zhang never heard her daughter's footsteps, and could only turn back to look for her daughter. What Ms. Zhang did not expect was that her daughter was not in the same place, and Ms. Zhang was completely panicked, shouting her daughter's name while looking around for her daughter.
Fortunately, a few minutes later, Ms. Zhang found her daughter, and the neighbors saw her standing alone in the street crying and felt too unsafe, and was planning to send the child back. The moment she saw Ms. Zhang, her daughter burst into her mother's arms in tears, and Ms. Zhang was also afraid to cry out after a while.
Psychologists have found that when parents are angry with their children, the child's body and psychology will produce these unexpected changes.
1. The brain loses consciousness
The roar of the parents will make the child's brain blank, the child does not understand why the parents are like a sudden change of a person, those hurtful words will always be engraved in the child's heart.
2. Stiffness of the body
From the outside, the child looks like a fool, motionless and unresponsive to the outside world, then parents usually think that the child is using silence to rebel against the parents, and to fight against the parents, becoming more angry.
3. Loss of trust and security
Angry parents make children feel strange, and children's innate dependence and trust on their parents are impacted, which will make children lose their sense of security and trust in the people and environment around them.
If you want to avoid similar psychological harm to your children, parents must put themselves in the right position, and in any case, do not use rough means to treat children, otherwise such impulsive behavior will only be counterproductive, hurt the child's mental health, and have no meaning to education.