We live in this world, no one can always live smoothly, every day to face all kinds of adversity and unhappiness is almost a necessary thing in life, and when we ourselves fall into such a predicament, the more unsmooth we have to guard these three places, there will always be clouds and moons to operate, so which three places are it?
First of all, for a successful person, you must have a very broad vision, you must look at the long term, open your own horizon to be able to see what others can't see, naturally you can cross the current unhappiness to look at the future beauty, so keeping your eyes and opening your eyes is a very, very important thing to get out of the trough.
I don't know if everyone has any impression of the story of Su Wu shepherding sheep, he was a petty official during the period of Emperor Wu of Han, but the ancestors of the ancestors as officials can also be regarded as some background, so Emperor Wu of Han also knows that there is such a loyal and patriotic person, so in that time when the relationship with the Xiongnu is good and bad, in order to show his sincerity, su Wu let Su Wu take more than a hundred people to the Xiongnu to show goodwill.
Originally everything was going well, but just when the gifts were ready to return to the dynasty, the top level of the Xiongnu had a disagreement, thinking that they still had to fight with the Han Dynasty, and Su Wu and others became the victims of the first wave, and the Xiongnu shan asked them to betray the Han Dynasty and submit to themselves.
However, Su Wu did not listen to what he said, so he suffered inhuman abuse, and later put Su Wu next to the inaccessible Lake Baikal to herd sheep, which is now a great scene for us, but for Su Wu at that time, it was the end of the world, and Shan Yu also asked him to release him back to the Han Dynasty when he could let the ram give birth to a lamb.
This is obviously impossible to accomplish, and it is very likely that the average person will give up, some people with weak will may choose to submit to the Huns, and even people with strong nature will choose to cut themselves off on the shores of Lake Baikal, but Su Wu is a very far-sighted person, he knows that his country will be victorious, and one day he will come back to save him, so the first wait is 19 years.
19 years later, it was indeed waiting for the dawn, Emperor Wu of Han and Shan Yu, who had imprisoned him at that time, were already dead, and Emperor Han Zhao remembered such a loyal subject, at this time he had already vaguely overpowered the Xiongnu, naturally he wanted to save him, Su Wu waited for 19 years and finally waited for the rescue of the motherland with his extraordinary vision.
In addition to keeping your eyes, the second thing that needs to be held is your own mouth, after all, the disaster comes out of the mouth is not just talk, many times it is the speaker who does not overhear the person who has the heart, and even what you say changes the taste when it reaches the mouth of others, and then it is spread by the person with the heart, and how the people outside will see you is really unknown.
Cao Cao, the famous tyrant of the Three Kingdoms, had a subordinate named Yang Xiu, who was simply killed by his own mouth and tongue, and many times self-righteously saw Cao Cao's intentions, because he was too clever and caused disaster, and he was also a relatively unlucky person, who met a jealous leader like Cao Cao.
For example, once a small country gave Cao Cao a box of shortbread to pay tribute, so Cao Cao was very happy to write a sentence on the box, ready to wait for the evening to come back and share it with his beloved concubine, but he did not expect to be eaten by Yang Xiu and the ministers, and asked Yang Xiu but replied that what was written on it was not "one person and one bite of crisp"? Cao Cao was very speechless.
Later, there was another time when Cao Cao said that he had the habit of killing people in his dreams, and really took a bodyguard to kill chickens and monkeys, but he did not expect that when everyone was in awe of him, he was really broken by Yang Xiu's words, this is not Lord Cao in the dream, but I am waiting in the dream, a sentence punctured Cao Cao's trick, and finally cao Cao was beheaded for "evil words and disasters to the country", this is an example of a disaster coming out of the mouth!
The last thing that needs to be kept is our heart, the temptations in this world are too much, keep their own spiritual platform clear, can not appear impatient, after all, the heart is anxious can not eat hot tofu, do what must be done step by step, especially in the face of adversity, but also to prepare for the turnaround.
Oniguchi once said that "in the face of big things and there is calm", when you encounter things that make you unhappy, it is very important to be able to maintain a normal heart, when you calm down, you will find that you can see a lot of things that you can't see when you are irritable, and naturally you can better think of countermeasures.
Looking at the meritorious emperors and generals in history, which one does not have a strong "big heart", so it is more important to keep the heart clear and clear when things are not going well, although we are not saints, but we still have to work hard to get closer to them, so that life can go more and more smoothly!
Reference: Oniguzi