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The lives of others that we envy are only the lives of others that we fantasize about.
There's a story in an Oscar-winning film:
A young couple living opposite the apartment of a middle-aged couple whose marriage once faced collapse often forgot to make love in the bedroom, and forgot to pull the curtains, and the indecent picture can be seen clean by them!
Since then, the husband has been addicted to telescope peeping, the wife is still troubled by the baby, and the marriage is even more precarious. Until one day, the opposite indulgence turned into a hospital bed, and the male neighbor died suddenly...
At the funeral, the wife went to comfort the female neighbors, but learned that their noisy daily life was also being "peeped" by the young couple:
You're a couple living in the building opposite, right?
My husband has been very sick, and when he is sad, we will look over and see you and the children, and really envy you...
Subsequently, the female neighbor choked up to the point of being unable to speak... In order to make good memories, this little couple envied the life of "chicken flying dog jumping" on the other side, while pretending to be happy to accompany each other to "death". It turns out that those who you envy are also envious of you.
Through the screen of the mobile phone, envying others is an illusion.
It cannot be denied that with the development of society, the circle of friends in mobile phones, a certain sound, a certain book can see the wonderful life of others, people can't help but pursue, watch them also enrich our lives.
But as everyone knows, many people are envious of each other, and no one's life is happy and free of troubles.
Mo Yan said, "You envy my freedom, I envy your restraints; you envy my car, I envy your house; you envy my work, I envy you always have time to rest every day." ”
Where there is a good or bad life in life, behind every life you envy, there is a price tag secretly marked.
When we encounter difficulties, we always think that we are the "unlucky ghost", but those we envy are not also eating "suffering" that we do not know.
We envy the real estate sales of suits and leather shoes a single mansion to draw millions, but do not know that they have failed 99 orders before the order, ran a pair of leather shoes, every night thinking about giving up;
We envy the couriers who deliver food out of the office, with salaries as high as 15,000, but how many blank eyes to suffer on each stormy night;
We envy the "bosses" in the luxury cars on the road, you don't have to squeeze the subway, wait for the bus, do not know if there are no old and young, why do they have to run around every day...
No one's road is smooth, and everyone is heading against the wind. To look up at others from one's own narrow perspective is to seek one's own troubles.
Do your own thing and go your own way. You will find that the original people you envy are also looking at the "small luck" of your life with envious eyes.
Always looking up to others is a mistake.
You don't have to look up to others, you are your own landscape.
Although life is a chicken feather, it still has to sing and advance. Loving life is a super ability and a decisive magic weapon for life.
Life is fair, and if you give a little, you will reap a few points.
Africa's long-distance running champion, Khalimer, is a "wild" champion with no professional training, and he is poor and does not even have a training ground.
His only "teacher" was his father, who supported him in training, and for eight years he spent eight years in the inconspicuous corner, without thinking about his livelihood, he had to pursue his dream of running until he won the African championship and the world championship.
It is true that not everyone can make money by running, and in the eyes of many people, he may be a "self-made poor" fool who lives in a dream.
But isn't success just about trying to live your life well?
In the eyes of others, you are each other's "supporting roles", staring at other people's time to transform your own strength, in order to find the goal and direction.
On the contrary, if you regard other people's lives as "life", you are doomed to live without feelings, without souls, and without direction.
Your time is limited, don't live for others.
It is better to put your time and energy into yourself and wait for it to blossom and bear fruit.
Discovering the "small luck" in life, contentment is also a kind of happiness.
What exactly is happiness?
Everyone's answer is different, and everyone has their own standards.
I once read an article that said "Don't pry WeChat does not change the girl's avatar" said that the avatar can reflect people's personality, familiar with this method can accurately seduce the sister.
Among them, the absolutely untouchable is the girl who does not have to change the "exquisite selfie" avatar frequently, because they know how to "be content and happy", and they do not need to use the avatar to attract the attention of the "male god".
Maybe their "male god" is already around them, and the next second is to exchange couple avatars.
Only girls whose avatars are always changing are because they have not met the "favorite"; people who are already in happiness know how to be grateful and cherish, will not easily change their avatars, and it is difficult to "touch" into each other's hearts.
There is certainly no scientific basis for this statement, and it can only be enjoyed.
But the truth inside speaks to the heart. Why do we like to "spy" on other people's lives through windows, screens or text?
Isn't it because there's everything we want out there?
Don't push yourself too hard, stop and look at the "enviable self" in the eyes of others, and you will find that I am quite dashing in life!
Cherish what you have, your life is still full of meaning and value. #Emotional Emotions ##婚姻 #