What to do if you find out that your husband is cheating?
A: Divorce and let him get out of the house.
What should I do if my husband has repeatedly cheated on him in marriage and has repeatedly asked for divorce?
A: Don't break up and stay for the New Year? Let him get out of the house, how far to roll.
The husband has cheated many times, and he also preaches everywhere that he is willing to give up his life for Xiao San, and even willing to give me all his property and only ask for a divorce.
A: Oh my God! Where to find such a serious man? What a wonderful man.
Ridiculous, right? The nature is equally bad, only because of the difference between active purification and passivity, the treatment of public opinion is a world of difference.
On June 13, 72-year-old Japanese director Takeshi Kitano announced his formal divorce and began a new life with his lover, because he received a lot of praise for leaving a huge fortune of 1.275 billion yuan to his wife.
A large number of media did not hesitate to praise:
Collect money and release people? For love?
As a fan of Kitano Takeshi, it was not strange to see his shocking behavior, but as a woman, I really wanted to cry for Matsuda Kanko. In the spirit of "if you don't understand, you don't have the right to speak", let's break up the grudge between Takeshi Kitano and "wife" Matsuda Kanko.
Let's start with Takeshi Kitano.
Maybe you are a little unfamiliar with this name, but "Kikujiro's Summer", "That Summer, The Sea of Tranquility", "Sex Rhapsody" these works have always been heard, at least spread throughout the circle of friends of the mellow chicken soup, you must have drunk: although hard, I will still choose that kind of hot life.
Crosstalk masters, funny entertainers, program hosts, university professors, actors, directors, screenwriters, painters, writers...
What profession does not require mortals to work hard for a lifetime? But they all appeared on Takeshi Kitano alone, and each role was well done, and not long ago, he also joked: "I want to change careers to become a male actor." ”
This is a man who cannot be defined, talented, gentle at heart, humorous to the bone, extremely intelligent, free and innocent, or a tough guy who lectures on morality...
Just by looking at the resume, I am afraid that my eyes will be starry. Who is the divine wife of such a person who has charmed all beings?
The introduction of the few numbers on the encyclopedia makes people's hearts sour:
"Kanko Matsuda, takeshi Kitano's ex-wife, was a program host at the Taisho Television Music Theater before her marriage, an assistant to Shinji Maki, and a member of the female manga group Miki & Michi".
In 1980, he married Takeshi Kitano, and in 1983, he officially obtained a license, and had a son and a daughter after marriage, and when Kitano Takeshi was not yet famous, Kanko worked as a waitress in a tavern to earn money to support her husband's acting career.
In June 2019, he divorced Takeshi Kitano. ”
Originally an entertainer, Matsuda Met Kitano takeshi in a show in 1978 and later fell in love and lived together, as Wikipedia says, when Kitano's career was not going well, she tried her best to make ends meet, and even went to a tavern as a waitress.
After marriage, Matsuda Kanko was more focused on supporting Kitano Takeshi's career, and together with him formed a "husband and wife manga" group, you should know that at that time, women came out to do manga (cross-talk) is still very rare, for Kitano Takeshi, this girl with a clear eyebrow has become very brave.
It is often said that the most admired are the women who accompany men through hard days and the men who accompany women to live sweet days. Matsuda Kanko is obviously worthy of admiration, unfortunately, Kitano Takeshi is not.
"Boring life, I don't want to die", this is the proverb of Kitano Takeshi, who has spent his life pursuing freshness, career and love.
The first derailment was in 1986, just three years after the two received their licenses. When he cheated on female college students and surrounded by reporters, he was scratched by a voice recorder to his neck and sprained in his waist, and he lay in the hospital for two weeks.
Kitano Takeshi, who was exposed to the scandal, not only did not "panic a lot", but also led his men to the magazine headquarters to make a big fuss, made a big fight, and was sentenced to 6 months of detention.
Such a blatant protection of her little lover, I don't know how heartbroken Madame is, but she chooses to be patient.
In 1994, Takeshi Kitano drove to meet his new lover, a lover named Hosokawa Norrie, who also starred in "Kikujiro's Summer", had a car accident, lost his life, was paralyzed in the face, and during the hospitalization, his wife waited day and night.
Another 8 years, in 2002, the reporter photographed Takeshi Kitano and a actress who was 25 years younger than himself living together with Yuko, and the two went shopping on the street together, showing great love. Later, Kitano directed "Hanabi" and "Kikujiro No Natsu", starring Yuko.
The woman who recently cheated on her, 18 years younger than Kitano Takeshi, met Kitano at a banquet in 2002 and began living together in 2015. Kitano resolutely admitted that it was a presence that could give him his life, and he and his wife had not seen each other for two and a half years.
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When people dislike cheating men and women to the extreme, Kitano Takeshi's frequent derailments have not caused any adverse impact on his career, perhaps everyone tacitly accepts that such a person should be unusual, and it is not normal not to cheat.
He cheated, he divorced, he was high-profile with Kozo, and even confessed in "Kitano Takeshi's Tavern": "The more lovers, the better." The more lovers there are, the closer the relationship is to the circle and the fewer edges and corners. Then there will be less friction and turmoil between each other", which has won him the evaluation of spontaneity and true temperament.
These are not the most excessive, the real chilling thing is his evaluation of his wife: "This person is called Kitano Kanko, she is my wife, and she is also the most powerful and terrible person in the world." ”
Which of the wives in this world did not come from a naïve little girl? Who wants to become a, a shrew in the eyes of the pillow people?
Moreover, leaving aside the years of love, just look at how Matsuda Kanko took on the burden and spent it silently with him in the difficult days of that year, and it should not ruin her reputation so much, a "humble woman" hat was buttoned up, and her various bad deeds were completely wiped out.
Kitano Takeshi has to be clear, it is not a day or two, what is puzzling is that 40 years of marriage, 30 years of separation, cheating is more commonplace, why does Matsuda Kanko refuse to leave?
She is not a housewife with no strength, in addition to the artist's career foundation, even Kitano Takeshi also admires her financial management ability, "My wife can always arrange our family plan unconsciously, by the way, she also bought some real estate or something, driving on the street, the agent pointed to me and said, that, is Mr. Kitano's real estate Oh! This kind of thing that stunned me happened more than once. ”
Speaking of which, for Kitano Takeshi to give his wife the full amount of family property, I think that people do not have to sing praises, without the careful management of his wife, he cannot have so much energy to engage in so many undertakings, and he who regards money as dung may not have the ability to make money and accumulate such a high amount of family property.
Many people explain Matsuda Kanko's refusal to divorce before: "When she left Kitano Takeshi, there was nothing; and Kitano Takeshi left her, or Kitano Takeshi." ”
On the contrary, if it were not for the help of Matsuda Kanko, Kitano Takeshi might not have become Kitano Takeshi.
40 years of vain husband and wife life, how much cold and despair given by her husband, how many ridicule and sympathy from outsiders, only Matsuda Kanko herself knows.
Perhaps because of love, habit, or perhaps out of unwillingness, she silently insisted on this marriage, even if it was a joke in the eyes of others. In her twilight years, she watched her husband, who had been supported by her best years, declare to the world that he would not live without another woman. She finally compromised.
And I always can't help but think, fortunately Kitano Takeshi is so desperate, fortunately she chose to let go in the end, don't have to be like Lilia, regret at the end of her life, everything is too late.
Lilia is one of the protagonists in the book "When You Are Sad, Go to the Kitchen" by the writer Eile Peike, she was born into a warm multi-sister family, she is lively and cheerful by nature, elf and eccentric, and has unlimited energy to decorate the whole family with laughter.
But she married Arnani, a cold and terrible man, who hated the usual warm chats and parties, but whenever anyone talked, he was noisy, did not smile all year round, and only wanted to live with the door closed, hiding in his shadow, thinking that Lilia's lively family was like a circus.
The spectator naturally knew that from the very beginning, Lilia should have left him.
But she didn't, she forced herself to get used to Arni's habits: she had a beautiful garden, but she couldn't linger in it, there were exquisite white lounge chairs on the porch, but she hadn't sat down once, she couldn't sing her favorite songs, she couldn't dance when she was good at dancing, and her talented ability to draw was wasted... Just because Arnani didn't like it.
"For so many years, I have lived in this house on tiptoe."
"I was just sharing a house with him, and I thought we were sharing a life."
Shaohua is fleeting, she is 63 years old, and the former lively and sunny girl has become another person, unattractive, sullen, and moody, just like her husband.
Finally, she realized that she had wasted her entire life, and wanted to reverse her life, leaving this cold and cruel man, just thinking about it, she could jump up happily.
However, it was too late, and in this house that exhausted her joy, she suddenly fell down, never to go back to her hometown, never to return to her life...
It seems that Kitano is much more benevolent than Arni, at least giving his wife all his wealth, but in the destruction of life, their cruelty is the same.
Whether it is Kanko Matsuda or Lilia, sunk and entangled in failed feelings, and the exhaustion of 40 years of life is enough to ruin most of the happiness and fun of life.
As the old saying goes, "a thousand years of cultivation to sleep together", husband and wife are indeed fate, and I do not advocate that people divorce easily, but if you want to draw a prison for a wrong choice, it is better to end it in time.
After all, everyone comes into the world to shine, to bloom, to live hard, to feel true love and being loved in ordinary days, not to tangle with people who hurt you.
Let him meet his lover, and you should also dress up for a new life, complete each other, and be happy!