Many people feel that love at first sight is just a past for the face value, and the interaction between people should pay more attention to the inside, so people feel that love at first sight is just a superficial performance.
However, the very beginning of two people getting along is to "see the color", a thing that arouses our interest, will want to understand, will want to go deep, otherwise everything is empty talk, and in interpersonal relations, only superficial people will not take people by appearance.
Therefore, in the relationship between the sexes, one day you will understand that the love of two people at first sight is the most reliable love.
The so-called "seven-second theory" refers to whether they will have a good feeling for each other when they meet each other, depending on the first seven seconds of meeting.
Of course, the "first seven seconds" is not only seven seconds, but refers to the shorter time that two people meet for the first time, because it is a new contact, so the initial impression will greatly affect one person's judgment and feelings for another person, thus affecting each other's subsequent emotional development.
The male protagonist of the world famous book "Pride and Prejudice" Darcy is a rich second generation, he looks very handsome, but because he grew up in a pampered environment, he feels very arrogant.
The evaluation of others is also harsh and mean, so the heroine Elizabeth first met Darcy and had a bad impression of him.
Because the first impression is really bad, Elizabeth is very disgusted with Darcy, even if the other party has been pursuing herself, she has not changed the feeling that the first impression brings to herself, and Darcy is sad to leave because she can't get the favor of the goddess.
It wasn't until later that Darcy realized her own problems and corrected them, that Elizabeth saw that the changed Darcy had valuable qualities.
Therefore, she also tried to accept the love conveyed by Darcy, so the two people had lovers and eventually became a family.
If Elizabeth had met the changed Darcy for the first time, the relationship would not have been so bumpy, but would have been together in the beginning.
It can be seen that the impact of the "seven-second theory" on the relationship between the sexes is preconceived, and if the first impression is not good, then the subsequent emotional development will become very difficult.
When consumers enter a store, it takes about 0.67 seconds, so that some goods can quickly enter the consumer's field of vision.
And these goods are often able to impress consumers, and throughout the consumption process, the first impression accounts for 60% of the decision to buy.
Returning to the relationship between the sexes, when we meet a person for the first time, due to the influence of a series of factors such as personality, appearance, speech, etc., the other party will leave a good impression in our hearts, so that under the influence of this kind of pre-emptive thinking, we will look forward to each other's next meeting.
In such a process, we unconsciously pay an emotional cost, which prompts each other to become more intimate.
Moreover, the basis of love at first sight is more pure feelings that are not adulterated with any other substance.
Because two people at that time did not understand each other's financial resources, social status, family environment, car, house, etc., our love at first sight was only based on the most objective reaction.
Just like the first time we see each other's faces, good looks are good looks, bad looks are not good looks, all from the most objective point of view.
Therefore, love at first sight can more intuitively and purely reflect the emotional resonance of two people, and it is more informative.
Many people say that love at first sight is not love, but face, this sentence is correct from an objective point of view, because the heart of beauty, everyone has it, in the case of the line of sight is attracted, we are interested in further in-depth communication, that is, the appearance determines whether two people are possible together.
Interesting souls are important, but if a person is not trim, sloppy, and emits a strange smell because he or she does not bathe, in such a situation, even if his or her soul is interesting, people are not willing to go near him or her.
Having a clean and tidy appearance is not superficial, but our respect for ourselves, a respect for those who come into contact with us, and a manifestation of love for ourselves.
Because they are born from the heart, a person who loves himself will exude a beautiful quality from the inside out, including the outside, including the heart.
There is a passage in "Indian English" that says: "If you don't like yourself, you will hate everything around you, but if you learn to love yourself, everything around you will gradually become attractive, and the life that was originally silent like stagnant water will begin to become new and beautiful." ”
Therefore, having a certain attraction is the key to love at first sight.
The End - Author | Psychological counselor Fu Dongsheng The main writer of love and marriage psychology | Use psychology to analyze love, marriage, and life WeChat public account: love marriage psychology