Why do you always feel that you are easily controlled by your parents? Swayed by the joy, anger, sorrow, and happiness of your parents?
Some parents are really strong, but some are actually because children also like to "control" their parents.
Honey, I wonder if you feel this way too?
I often have a certain "sense of guilt" in my heart, and I care too much about whether my parents are doing well or not, whether they are happy or not.
If my parents are unhappy today, they will feel guilty, so I want to make them happy.
If my parents are having a bad day today, they will feel guilty, so I want them to have a good time.
On the surface, this is controlled and swayed by parents, and even "sacrificed" themselves for their parents.
But here's the truth: you can't stand a certain emotion within yourself, like guilt.
In fact, everyone's starting point is selfish.
The key is whether you can see your selfishness and where your selfishness lies in the process of struggling with your parents.
For example, if my daughter falls into the water, I will definitely rescue her, even if I can't swim.
Why? Because I can't bear to live without her, I'd rather die than save my daughter.
This reflects my selfish side.
So, if you feel that your parents are always controlling you and controlling your emotions, then I would like to ask you, can you be with your own guilt and accept the negative feelings that your parents are unhappy about?
Because you are entangled with your parents' energies, it is not good for either of you.
Each soul comes into this world independently, and everyone is following their own life journey and following their own path in life.
You will not be happy when your energy is not tied to anyone, whether that person is your spouse, your children, or your parents.
When you're not happy, they won't be happy either.
Therefore, the best gift for your loved ones is to let them experience their own things, and let them be responsible for their joys, angers, sorrows, and happiness, not for you.
In this way, over time, the relationship between you and your parents will improve, and they will become wiser and know to take responsibility for their joys, angers, sorrows, and joys.
In the past, when my father was in a bad mood, he would say to me with a sad face: "Oops! I'm old, my children aren't around, and I'm a lonely old man. ”
At this time, I would say, "Dad, if you can't find happiness and happiness on your own, even if I move back for you and live next door to you, you won't be happy, and I've sacrificed so much, so I'll be unhappy."
You are an adult, and you are responsible for your own happiness, joy, and health. "After listening to my talk a few times, he happily told me that he now knows what to do.
Try to expand your parents' bottom line!
When you take that step, you will find that your parents love you, they just live in inertia because they are used to doing it, and you are used to letting them do it.
So once you change, they will change too.
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