Children who are allowed to eat ice cream and children who are not allowed to eat it from a young age are really different when they grow up, pay attention

"My child is 10 years old, this is his first time eating ice cream", such a golden baby, is it really good for children?

I went camping with a few friends a few days ago and ordered ice cream for several children, but my smiley mother grabbed the smiling ice cream and said, "My family Xiaoxiao never eats ice cream!" ”

Xiaoxiao is 10 years old and has never eaten ice cream, which surprised several of our mothers.

Seeing the child's hungry look, the smiling mother reluctantly agreed to her daughter to lick a small bite, and then threw away the rest of the ice cream. Then she taught us her parenting scriptures:

Children can't eat ice cream, especially girls, because it's too cold, it's not good for the stomach and stomach;

The child never drinks any drinks, only warm water and warm milk at 40 degrees, and it must be a fixed brand;

Children are not allowed to eat any snacks, and they have never eaten potato chips, chocolate, let alone junk food such as fried chicken

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In the summer, ice cream and cold drinks have become children's favorites, but some parents are firmly opposed to their children eating these foods, thinking that it is not good for the child's stomach and is easy to make the child diarrhea.

It is understandable that parents love their children, but is it really good not to give their children ice cream?

I had a college classmate whose mom didn't allow her to wear skinny jeans when she was growing up. Once when I went to her house to play, most of her cloakroom was piled with skinny jeans, most of which were not even removed!

There is also a friend whose favorite thing to do is to stock up on snacks, and there are a lot of expired snacks at home, but she just doesn't want to throw them away. She told me that when she was a child, she was beaten as soon as she ate snacks, and when she grew up to earn her first salary, she immediately spent half her salary on snacks, and she felt a sense of satisfaction when she saw the cupboard full of snacks.

Teacher Yin Jianli said in the book "Free Children Are Most Self-conscious": Stifling children's small desires will lead to children's extreme desire for something and compensatory psychology.

There is a concept of "self-compensation" in psychology, that is, the more he lacks, the more he will compensate for himself when he is able. Because the yearning has not been satisfied, now one has long been out of jeans, and the other does not like snacks now, but when he sees it, he can't help but buy it back to compensate himself.

For children, ice cream is actually his childhood happiness, once deprived, the child will grow up to have a "self-compensation" psychology, in the future when he has the ability to buy or make the decision, the child may fall into a state of crazy ice cream, eating chocolate, becoming a mental illness.

In "Please Refrigerator", Huang Lei said that eating candy and ice cream is a very happy thing for children. So he will not obstruct, but will use other methods to control the amount of food consumed by the child.

For example, he will divide the boxed ice cream into ice boxes, and only give children a small compartment at a time. He will replace the large spoon of the ice cream parlor with a small spoon.

This satisfies the child without harming the body.

The ice cream is too cold, so we eat one once in a while;

Chocolate is not good for teeth, take a small piece at a time, and rinse your mouth after eating.

If you feel that snacks are unhealthy, make some healthy snacks for your child, boiled corn edamame, and make dried fruit, small cakes, and even ice cream with your child.

It ensures a healthy source of food and exercises the child's hands-on ability.

The more the child is raised in a vacuum, the more likely the child is to have problems when he grows up.

It is said that people's hearts are sinister, can you stop children from interacting with others?

Work is not easy, the child enters society, can you follow him every day?

Today's parents raise their children, there is a very scary point, that is, too nervous, too anxious, but the more you interfere, the more likely the child is to have various problems.

When the child's growth is limited everywhere, his dopamine will be reduced, and he will not feel the joy of growth.

So, as a parent, relax a little, have a bigger heart, and the more relaxed the parenting, you will find that the child is much better than you think!