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Mothers often tell me that children don't like to read, what should I do?
I asked her:
"How old is the child now?"
"What books are at home?"
"Before the child is 6 years old, does it read with each other?"
Generally, as long as you ask these three questions, you can almost find the reason.
The answer is often that there are no books at home.
Because children don't like to read.
I didn't read with my child until I was 6 years old.
Because children don't like to read.
Not loving reading has become a reason not to read.
Is there really a child in this world who doesn't love to read by nature?
Definitely not.
So why are there still so many children who can play with their mobile phones and play cartoons by themselves at the age of two or three.
What if you see a book but ignore it?
It is probably the parents who enter the misunderstanding when they guide and delay the child.
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On the road of parent-child reading, we are all students, starting from the same starting point, we all start from scratch.
You must remember the first time you read with your child.
If you stick to it all the way, help your child develop a reading habit.
You will definitely feel that your anxiety back then is really full of cuteness.
Fortunately, I have stepped through the misunderstanding and have come all the way to the present.
To sum up, these three misconceptions are the most common:
First of all, children who cannot read, cannot read.
So I don't feel the need to read until my child grows up.
There are many mothers who shake their heads when they hear it read to children before the age of 6.
Will also question that the child is illiterate, how to read?
"Read picture books to children! Children look at the picture and listen to you read it! ”
"Then how to read, just read it to the child?"
"What if the child doesn't listen!"
Many moms get frustrated at first.
Because his baby doesn't read books, he even pushes it away when he sees it, saying that he won't read it.
Of course, there is no need to force the child to watch, even if the little one cries and cries to break free, you will hold him.
That was making him hate books.
We can think of the book as a "toy", find an appropriate time, and happily put him in front of the child.
Game books with interactive features are a little more interesting.
But children may sometimes only look at one page of a book, or just one picture on a page.
Other places don't look anyway.
In this situation, don't be in a hurry.
For 0-2-year-old babies, the most important thing to carry out parent-child reading is "patient guidance and more contact".
We make books accessible to children and not disgusted.
Then wait patiently, one day, wait until it accumulates to a certain extent.
All of a sudden, he has a book and asks you to tell him a story.
When you see this, do you still think that you can't read if you can't read?
But there are mothers who will ask, for older children.
What if you can't read independently if you can't read?
Literacy takes one step at a time.
It's like transitioning to independent reading also requires step-by-step accumulation.
But we don't need to wait until the child is 7 and 8 years old and literate before reading.
At this time, even if they are literate, the child's interest is often not here, and the ability is not reached.
Many moms ask me, what do I need to prepare for independent reading?
I said that you need to prepare a reading habit so that children really love reading.
In addition, it is necessary to prepare many years in advance, the sooner the better.
Because the ability to read independently is by no means formed in a short time.
Let's say two 8-year-olds.
One child who insists on reading from the age of two or three, the other has almost no parent-child reading.
If you compare carefully, you will see the difference.
The amount of knowledge, reading comprehension, and summary ability will all be very different.
So, don't wait until your child can read.
It's about getting kids exposed to reading as early as possible.
For example, for children aged 5-7.
Even if they don't have much literacy, they can read bridge books (a type of book, allowing children to transition from pure picture books to text reading, this kind of book also intervenes in the content and layout of the two, in layman's terms, half picture, half text, more like a text book than a picture book, but more like a picture book than a pure text book. ）
With a good bridge book, plus a conscious literacy practice at ordinary times.
It can help children step by step towards true independent reading.
I've also been reading with little fish.
And I started to try to read some of the bridge books myself.
It's just that often I know some of it, and I will come to us with a book, point to one of the words and ask how to read it.
So when I read picture books, I will also point out those I know and consolidate them.
Remind me when I touch the word he is recognizing.
Now I can read picture books from elementary school fluently.
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Second, I feel that reading school textbooks is reading.
So there is basically no reading outside of class, and I feel that there is enough reading in school
When children go to school and have a lot of schoolwork, parents feel that reading outside of class is too much time.
Children don't have so much time either.
So the extracurricular time is filled with tutoring and extracurricular classes.
Sometimes I see the children who come back from the training school one after another at eight or nine o'clock in the evening, and I feel a little sorry for them.
There are also many children's extracurricular books, which are basically circled by famous teachers and schools.
But some book lists are really dull and boring.
So some mothers say that children like to watch messy things, not those recommended.
I think it's not a child's problem, but too much outside intervention.
Children have regular schoolwork, and the reading world outside the classroom can be free, and it is not impossible to give it to the child.
For example, during the recent summer vacation, I joked that Xiaoxiaoyu said that you are "left-handed mathematics, physics and chemistry, right-handed Lin Handa".
Mathematics, physics and chemistry is a set of popular interpretations of mathematics, physics and chemistry that he likes, which talks about the knowledge of science, while Lin Handa tells historical stories and talks about history.
It's not enough to read this, he will read the books of my new group every week, and I will start the group only if it is interesting.
In this way, I read happily, and read a lot of idle books and miscellaneous books.
I don't think it's a bad thing to let my child read some idle books.
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Finally, I feel that reading is a child's business and has little to do with myself.
This misunderstanding, in fact, many parents know, but often commit.
The purpose is to get yourself out.
Because reading with children is a matter that requires patience and time.
Many parents say they are busy and can't hold on.
Parent-child reading about this.
The key is really on this word "common".
Only by participating together can parents truly lead by example and influence their children.
If the family has the habit of reading, it also provides a reading environment.
How could that kid not fall in love with reading.
I remember when I was a child, I lived in a big family.
Xiao Shu is literate, went to high school, and also ordered a newspaper.
So when I was in elementary school, I read his middle school textbooks.
And then I finished reading the textbooks and read the newspaper.
Every week, the aunt at the post office personally came to deliver it, and I picked it up.
Then I read it myself and put it in my uncle's room.
As long as my family sees me reading, they won't bother me.
I love moments like this, quietly doing what I love.
I didn't expect it to get out of control and stick to it.
So after I had the little fish.
There was no deliberate emphasis on him falling in love with reading and the like.
Just keep reading my own books.
So when he was very young, he liked to take my books and look at them.
Because I was curious and wanted to know what my father was doing.
Then I told him it was a book, and it was fun.
Then buy him the right book.
Parents need to know the needs of their children at different stages.
We adults sometimes read, resonate with the author's thoughts, or trigger feelings, gain experience and be happy.
But what about the children?
They may just like the impact of the image, or the excitement of the exciting story.
So let's not talk to our children about books.
Just accompany him to read a book happily.
In fact, every child is born to love reading, just to see if the parents do it right!
Parent-child reading, it's really not that difficult.
The difficulty is that it requires time and patience from parents.
The difficulty lies in the need for parents to understand their children and support their children.
And these are all things we should have done!