Can we hold hands for a long time?
After encountering love, everyone always thinks that they will continue to love.
As everyone knows, "love is easy to get along with" is a normal state in the emotional world.
Two people with different personalities have the opportunity to meet and love each other, and even so, everyone will still face unexpected tests. As a result, some people walked and scattered.
How to get along with a loved one is a test of wisdom and patience.
In the red dust, it is not easy to meet.
People with sincere feelings, in addition to loving each other with their hearts, will also learn the skills of love, as well as the wisdom of managing love and marriage, and in this way, escort their emotional life.
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When encountering disagreements, how to resolve them?
Everyone grew up eating grains.
At the same time, everyone will have a different life background.
Under a variety of factors, we will have our own temper and behave differently.
Because of fate, they hold hands with each other and become lovers.
A truly intelligent friend can realize that even if two people fall in love, they will encounter various tests. With the hope of happiness and long-term happiness, we will also consciously find ways to resolve contradictions and differences.
So, from the perspective of marriage psychology, after the two parties get along as lovers, how should they deal with differences next, which is a wise way?
There is a "soapy water effect" in psychology, and if everyone understands it, it is bound to be able to suddenly open up.
How to understand this effect? For example, when we find that there are shortcomings in the lover, do not use a critical tone to blame the other party, but use a euphemism, or praise, to reduce emotional reactions and make the other party more receptive.
Mixing criticism with praise is more conducive to the solution of the problem.
This effect is the "soapy water effect", this way of solving the problem, not only will not hurt each other's feelings, but also help the other half to accept, in self-reflection, and strive to be a better partner.
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Use the "soapy water effect" to start from three perspectives.
We often think like this:
The sublimation of love into affection is just a matter of course.
In fact, if two people lack communication and understanding, not only can not usher in the sublimation of feelings, perhaps in a certain turn, the two sides will exhaust all patience, and choose to go their separate ways.
At the beginning of fate, everything is beautiful.
In this case, everyone often has a good original intention, hoping that love and marriage can end with a consummation.
However, if friends lack the awareness of management, it is easy to become busy in the face of various tests. Even one day, there is a complete loss of patience and confidence in love.
For us, how to fulfill the love we want? This requires everyone, with the awareness and skills of management, to find a harmonious mode of love in the relationship between two people, such as:
Psychology: Tethering a person starts with the "soapy water effect"
First: discover the benefits.
In love, we are often short-sighted.
When two people have been together for a long time, it is easy to ignore the advantages of the lover.
In fact, everyone has their own unique place and has their own shining point. However, as love enters a period of flatness, friends often ignore these.
Even, there are some people who will stare at each other's shortcomings.
You know, no one in this world is perfect. Amplifying the flaws in a person will not only affect the feelings of two people, but also affect their own happiness, which is not conducive to the development of feelings.
Truly wise people will use appreciative eyes to keep in harmony with their lovers.
Only in this way can everyone discover each other's charm in the world of two people in time, and such a mode of getting along is conducive to the development of love.
Of course, if you want the "soapy water effect" to be effectively implemented, you need to create a harmonious atmosphere, and when you praise each other, it will not seem too abrupt.
Second: sincere praise.
Two people in love need to be sincere.
Only sincere people can open their hearts to deal with various problems when they face them head-on, and will rack their brains to find ways to solve them.
In this way, to maintain the feelings of two people.
Using the "soapy water effect" and replacing accusations with praise is conducive to maintaining feelings.
But everyone should be clear that when praising your loved one, you need to be from the bottom of your heart. Instead of using the yin and yang weird way, let the differences between each other further increase.
Even if you are sincere, you need to let your lover perceive it.
If two people often fall into a situation of dispute, they will fall into a cold war without a word. If you rush to praise the other party, it will be counterproductive.
This requires everyone to grasp the usual time and leave a sincere feeling for each other. Under such a premise, it will be conducive to the use of the "soapy water effect".
Third: Control emotions.
When you encounter disagreements, it is inevitable that people will be angry.
Friends should know that when your emotions are out of control, it is easy to do verbal behavior.
Obviously, an excessive tone will only further increase the contradictions of couples.
If you want to solve the problem and let the feelings usher in the possibility of further heating up, you need to be a calm person. Correctly understand the problem and find a suitable solution.
Even if you want to blame the other party, you must also know that the tone of the accusation is difficult for others to really accept you.
If you cherish this relationship and hope to continue to love happily with your lover, you must master the skills of management and use the "soap and water effect" reasonably, which can help you say the problem and make the lover willing to accept.
But the premise is that everyone needs to carry out in a harmonious atmosphere, otherwise their emotions are out of control, how can they convince each other?
Although, love is accompanied by games.
But everyone should understand the fact that couples need to talk about feelings when they get along, rather than using accusations to restrain each other.
Even if two people get along, there is really a disagreement.
We must also maintain a peaceful attitude and find a reasonable solution, rather than arguing with each other endlessly, which ends in exhaustion and damage to each other's feelings.
When everyone finds that there are improper things in the behavior of the lover, how should we maintain love?
In fact, the best way is to understand the "soapy water effect", through the way of praise, so that the lover is willing to accept your suggestions, willing to make changes for love. If this is done, it will become much easier to manage love.
Author: Zhou Woodman, an emotional cultivator with an attitude. Write the warmth of the world, read the heart-warming story, and thank you for your company along the way. I only hope that the years are quiet, the clouds are light and the wind is light, and you and I can pour out our heartfelt feelings when we meet in a piece of text.