Author: Warm-blooded animal (ID: staywarmblood)
Recently, a conscience invention was planted by hand Geng.
Really, so much needed.
He named the hat:
"A hat that allows you to be quiet anytime, anywhere."
When you don't want to face someone you don't want to see,
You can autize anytime, anywhere.
I'd like to call it a "social terror helmet."
Is social fear terrible?
A friend described it this way:
"The mole is an animal that does not see the light of day,
Their vision is completely degraded, once exposed to sunlight for a long time,
You will die because of the central nervous system confusion.
Social fear is that moles are placed on the cement floor and exposed to the sun. ”
Today's tweet about "social impairment",
It was written by social terrorist friends who secretly hid in a safety hole.
When I was a child, I went to the rice noodle shop for breakfast,
A fly was found in the bowl.
I went to the boss with the bowl,
The owner had a bad attitude and asked me not to look for trouble.
I ran back crying and told my dad about it.
My dad didn't do justice for me.
He also laughed at me and said, "Now you know how dirty things are outside, right?" ”
Later, I even ate flies in a restaurant.
It's all just silently picking it out,
Don't dare to find anyone to settle the account.
Weakness is original sin,
Social fear is not, nor is timidity.
I used to think:
If I were really a rich man,
It should be brave and stronger.
Love, affection, friendship, all aspects.
When I went to college, I didn't dare to enter that kind of high-grade shopping mall.
As soon as you smell those luxury perfumes,
You'll feel breathless.
Don't dare to get too close to the door of the Chaopai shop,
Don't dare to look at it casually,
I was afraid that people would come up and ask me enthusiastically:
"Sir, what do you need?"
I'll be red in the face.
I feel that I can't stay in a shiny place for a moment.
I use the word social terror,
To decorate our superficial inferiority.
It was as if we were just afraid to talk to strangers.
Not because there's no money.
When I graduated from travel,
The roommates asked if they wanted to go to Tibet together.
Asked me many times,
Makes people have almost no reason to refuse,
I had to say that the internship was not available, and all kinds of excuses were made.
I didn't want to see them during that time.
Seen in the distance on the road,
Either take a detour to avoid it, or look down and pretend not to see.
They'll feel,
I'm withdrawn and difficult to communicate with, right?
In fact, to put it bluntly, there is no money to go out and play.
When I was young,
Even I thought I was a social disorder.
Until one day after three or four years of work,
I buy clothes at the mall,
Picked a few pieces that didn't feel appropriate.
The clerk is still trying to sell,
I shook my head calmly and said:
"Thanks, no thanks, no thanks.
I'll look elsewhere. ”
I suddenly realized that I wasn't so nervous anymore.
In other words,
I couldn't have refused so naturally under any circumstances.
Even the other party has an unhappy expression,
It will embarrass me to the point of being landless.
It's vulgar to admit that,
My social fears were indeed cured by money.
Money can't determine right or wrong,
But a lot of problems can be whitewashed.
Having money does not make your soul noble,
But you can earn the respect that others have for you on the surface.
You can accomplish a lot of things you want to do.
I won't feel so humble.
Looking back at my young self,
I don't feel that I am not brave,
It's that I lack the capital to fail.
Publicly speaking of PPT failed,
Maybe this course will get a low score,
In the future, the grade point is not as good as others,
You can't find a good job.
I live like walking on thin ice,
It's because life can't tolerate a single mistake.
Even being disliked by an insignificant person,
It all scares me.
Life will soon usher in many opportunities,
These opportunities made me particularly resistant.
I don't want to have dinner and drink with the leaders.
I also don't want to speak at the conference.
I'll even do it because of an event a month later.
Anxious to the point of not sleeping well every night.
I will try to keep my job,
In order to earn more money,
Do the things that are most rejected by the society.
In the end, I got some positive feedback.
The main thing is,
I can make a little bit of money,
I'm finally an adult too.
A man who is afraid because he has no money,
It's easy to fall into a vicious circle.
Because of timidity, hesitation, sensitivity,
It will make us miss out on many opportunities to make money.
I also had no money to pay the rent,
I gradually forgot that I was a social terrorist.
Interview everywhere, work actively,
It seems to have more courage to break the boat.
- Success in the eyes of the world,
To heal the damage left by the worldly vision.
Money can cure many diseases.
Besides, where to go to see a doctor does not cost money?
So, at the beginning of our new year,
Best wishes to each other,
Yes Wishing you prosperity.
My boyfriend has a bunch of buddies.
The kind that used to play games online a lot.
They also often organize meals offline,
But my boyfriend almost doesn't go.
Every time I went, I was the first to run away.
I thought he hated socializing.
I learned later from his buddy ex-girlfriend that
They get together in addition to drinking and singing foot wash massage,
I will also go to special services.
Because of this, my boyfriend joins because he rarely joins,
In that circle of buddies,
Mixed comparison edges.
Because of this,
I came to the conclusion:
There is nothing wrong with boys' clubs.
After all, society itself is terrifying.
Social fear is a person who is very concerned about his family.
Because they're in addition to staying at home,
I don't want to go anywhere.
Although the boyfriend does not like to socialize,
But he was a normal person to talk.
Not decadent at all, but also humorous,
It is not like to deal with people who are not familiar with it.
He doesn't like to talk to people about the weather.
I don't like to talk nonsense, I don't like to watch hot dramas.
No ambition, no concern for current affairs,
I usually like to chat with our dog,
He can't even be online,
Play For two years (a social game).
But every time I go to a place where there are many people,
For example, Disney,
He will be restless.
For him,
The happiest place in the world that makes him happiest is the smoking area.
He said, "It's so nice that there are so few people here. ”
He also has friends,
Tell me countless times about what fun things they experienced when they were in college.
Say how deeply they have feelings.
But let him open the chat history,
The last time I talked to the most ironal buddy of his life was a year ago.
I said you good friends don't contact each other?
He said you don't understand, so good friends don't have to contact.
Maybe only social fear understands it.
He is indeed a person who resists socializing.
More precisely, he was a man who resisted being socialized.
He said, "It's nice that I live with you and the furball (dog)." ”
According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs,
Most people also have safety, social, respect, curiosity, aesthetic needs,
He jumped directly from physical needs to self-actualization.
To put it simply: "He's comfortable when he's full." ”
I once asked him,
Why do you hate socializing so much.
His answer was this:
"I don't hate making friends.
I just know too well what kind of person I am.
Since childhood,
Crouch in the corner of the wall and pick the mud for an afternoon.
I'm also a very lazy person.
One or two people I'm willing to put in the shoes of are the top of the sky.
As for the friend, don't come to me to show that he is doing well,
I'm pretty satisfied;
I'm a person who likes a regular life.
And especially don't want to be broken.
If someone wants to use their standards to try to change me,
Usually disappointed.
I'm too lazy to pretend.
I know I'm pretty upset.
But I don't want to change either.
I don't want to socialize, I just don't want to hurt others. ”
I said, "Okay, I see.
You are a thorny rose. ”
All in all
Having a socially fearsome boyfriend is actually quite good.
Because he left fear to the world,
Then most of the likes were left to me.
Last year our dog had a birthday,
He said how could he, as a sled dog, not have seen the snow in the north,
Then we drove back and forth for more than two thousand kilometers,
He said he was going to take his son to play in the snow.
Dogs are not allowed in the hotel,
He was afraid that the dog would disturb the people by barking in the car at night.
Just hold it and sleep in the car.
Social fear is so screwed,
We try to avoid any possibility of disputes with the outside world.
He was afraid that I would not sleep well, so he let me stay alone in the hotel,
I don't want to go,
It was still raining lightly that day,
A family of three nestled in the car is so cozy.
There is a line in "The Pianist at Sea":
"I was born on this ship,
The world is constantly changing around me,
But never more than between the bows.
Enjoy yourself on a limited piano,
I only learned to live like this. ”
Can maintain social fear, refuse temptation,
It's a kind of struggle with life.
Carrying the weight forward in the oil and salt of chai rice,
It is not so easy to get greasy.
Who chases away the lonely boat?
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*Article Source: Warm-Blooded Animal (ID: staywarmblood).
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