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The hospital is the place where life is most witnessed, in this place where life, old age, illness and death and money collide fiercely, naked humanity is at a glance.
Doctors face life and death every day, and see human nature. If you have doctors, relatives, friends or family, talk to them more often in your spare time, and some of the things they experience in the hospital will make you more aware of reality and see some truths about life.
A doctor friend once told me the truth she saw in the hospital: children who retire their parents are usually not the most favored ones in the family. Once one of the parents has a major illness and is hospitalized for a long time, then accompany them for a long time, up and down, except for the wife, who is the unfavored child in the family. Many parents regret and sigh before dying, sorry for their children, they were too eccentric before, and so on.
We have to believe in a truth: the more parents usually prefer the spoiled children, the more they can't count on when their parents really need it, but those children who are usually ignored or even snubbed by their parents, in a critical moment, make a lot of money.
Parents usually prefer which child to spoil, the more they can't bear to let them suffer
For children whose parents love eccentricity, parents are distressed in their hearts and eyes, afraid that their children will suffer a little. When good things happen, they will think of the child, what benefits are cheap and want to let the child possess, willing to pay for this child, afraid that they do not give enough, the child is affected.
But once something happens to them, it's time for the children to pay for it and do their filial piety. At this time, parents think of those children who are usually not waiting to see, let them run before and after running, and wait in front of the bed. Because they know that this is not a good thing, they suffer and suffer, and they cannot bear the burden of their beloved children, but only want to give this chore to their children who do not know their heartache.
A friend of mine said that her grandparents, young people are to bring children to the little uncle's family, usually put their own pension is also all subsidized to the little uncle's family. But when they were sick and hospitalized, or when the two needed to buy something, they both looked for their fathers. Some time ago, Grandpa was seriously ill and hospitalized, it was Dad who had been accompanying Grandpa in the hospital until Grandpa closed his eyes, Grandpa was also busy with Dad after the incident, Uncle appeared on the day of Grandpa's funeral, and afterwards took all the gift money.
Children who are pampered by their parents, the habits are obtained, they do not know how to give
For families with many children, parental eccentricity may be present from an early age. From an early age they were particularly eccentric and pampered, the child they liked.
And this child from a young age, because of the preference of his parents, has been effortlessly obtained, has always been accustomed to being taken care of, enjoyed, and received. Having become accustomed to the role of getting, many children become taken for granted in such roles and are ungrateful.
When parents are strong and valuable, they naturally rely on their parents' preference and care, so that their parents can pay for them. However, when parents are sick and need to retire, those children who are usually pampered will not pay, let alone think of return, they will only hide far away.
Only those children who are usually not favored have not received much affection from an early age. Therefore, even if parents neglect to ignore, they are silently thinking about them and silently fulfilling filial piety. When parents need it, they immediately stand up and take responsibility for themselves and do their best to serve.
[Topic Discussion: Do you agree with this phenomenon? 】
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