Author | Inspector (1686 words, about 4 minutes to read)
School bullying has always been the most heart-wrenching topic for parents.
Whenever there are cases of children being bullied, in addition to hating, everyone is also worried about their children being bullied in school.
There was once an investigation report on bullying in schools, this survey was carried out for the majority of netizens, but the results of the investigation were shocking.
According to the data finally obtained, almost 40% of people will stand idly by for school bullying, and half of them have been bullied by others.
That is to say, in actual life, no matter how strict the management of the school is, it is inevitable that some children will be bullied. If we analyze and summarize each bullying incident in detail, it is not difficult to see that the "perpetrator" of school bullying may be a bully or a former "bullied person", and the actual situation is far more simple than we think.
A child who has been bullied for a long time often has several obvious characteristics, in addition to their own reasons, family and parental factors are also an aspect that cannot be ignored, and these parents should pay special attention to.
★ Parents who like to "escape problems"
● In some families, parents have been "shirking" and "avoiding" the problem of their children's growth and education
Many parents are busy with work, and they often ignore their children's demands after returning home, and the issue of children's growth and education is also a mutual blame between husband and wife.
Some parents think that their children will not be treated in this way, and even if the children explain this to them, they will mistakenly think that their children just want to escape from school life, or jokes between classmates, so they do not care or avoid the problem.
When parents "escape" from problems and choose to "ignore", children's hearts tend to be more lost and pessimistic.
They don't know what to do when they are targeted by others, they don't know what measures they should take in a crisis situation, they don't know whether they should suffer in silence when they are suppressed and ridiculed by others, even when they are coldly spoken by others, they will seem overwhelmed.
Because there is no one to support them, no parents to be their backing, parents who have been "ignoring and not asking" about this issue and avoiding talking about it, it is easy to let their children be in the middle of school bullying.
★ Parents who are "indiscriminate"
● Family members do not distinguish between right and wrong, and directly give the child a "big hat"
It's normal for children to experience all sorts of problems as they grow up, but they don't have the ability to solve them on their own.
At this time, if the parents do not help them, but blindly accuse them, "Why don't they bully others, just bully you?" "You must have done something wrong, or how could others bully you?" ”
It's easy to put their children in more dangerous situations.
Long-term accusations will make them hide themselves, which will not only not allow them to return to normal life, but will make them hide their true thoughts, a child who will not "sue", is easily bullied by others and even becomes a bully who will bully others in the future.
★ Parents who do not have a sense of "bottom line"
● Such parents are easy to teach children who have "no bottom line awareness" and will also become the target of bullying
Children are very prone to conflicts and quarrels when they are young, and parents often say when mediating:
"Not a big deal!" "What's there to care about?"
But parents do not know that their simple and simple indifference will invisibly destroy the establishment of children's bottom line awareness.
If children are deliberately targeted by their friends, the parents' words "not a big deal" and "children's things are small things" will often make their children become taciturn, discouraged, and often shatter the children's expectations of seeking asylum.
In life, such a lack of attention is devouring the "bottom line of the heart" of the child step by step.
When the bottom line consciousness in their hearts has been worn out, they will repeatedly tolerate all kinds of things, and they are likely to become a cowardly child.
★ Parents who don't "think differently"
● Parents do not think from the child's point of view, but also put the child in a state of being bullied
Most of the children who are bullied choose to suffer in silence after asking for help without success.
When children are bullied, they instinctively expect to be protected by their parents, and parents think from the perspective of adults, thinking that the harm suffered by children is nothing, they do not understand the child's thoughts, and they have no way to be protected, so that the child will only fall into a state of fear and no "sense of security", and it is easy to lose all "hope" in a desperate situation.
Parents do not put themselves in the shoes of their children and are also the main culprits that contribute to bullying in schools.
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In addition to the school's learning and education, in fact, parents can do a lot, do not communicate well with their children, do not reasonably help their children to solve problems, but also make children vulnerable to bullying the main reason.
If parents are willing to communicate with their children in their daily lives and guide them to solve the difficulties encountered in life, then the children will know what to do when they are bullied in school, and they will not be so hurt.
If your child encounters school bullying, what will you do about it?
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