People, they will always set some rules and regulations in their hearts for the people they like, such as how he will be in the future, how his body will be, how he will look, how his family will be, and so on.
But every time, after really meeting the person you like, everything that was once was invalidated.
So, what is love?
Love has never been said to be "favorable to the time and place", but just met this person, at first sight there was some love, and then, the more we talked, the more we talked, the more we talked, the more inseparable.
It can be seen that love is love at first sight, and it is also a long-term love.
Men and women interact, every small talk, seemingly careless, in fact, it contains temptation, display, inference, and affection.
Therefore, grasping a man's heart is not only your external attraction, but also your dependence on his connotation.
And this "connotation" lies in your "seduction" when you chat. Talking more about these three topics will make the person you like more and more interested in you, and feel more and more that you are his confidant.
Talk about "what sets him apart" topics
Perhaps, behind every man who seems to be mature and stable, in fact, inside, it will be a child who likes to show himself.
No matter how old he is, his inner desire to win or lose will come out at any time and anywhere.
So, if he has a crush on you and you don't have a definite relationship, he will definitely want you to see that he is different from others and want to attract your attention.
Especially, when you have other suitors around you, he will want you to see him different. At this time, you just need to give him a "ladder" appropriately and let him climb up the ladder.
In "The Legend of Lu Xiaofeng", the flower widow chatted with Chu Liuxiang, and after getting drunk, she talked about the "boss" and said: Although he is already an old man, he is a real man, a different man, maybe I don't like him, but I admire him, as long as it can make him happy, I am willing to do anything for him.
It can be seen that a woman's heart will be conquered by some "different".
And, man's heart, he will be proud of his "different".
So, talk to a man, talk more about the topics that distinguish him from others, he will feel that you really understand him, you know him very well, you can see through him.
Everyone living in this world will have some "personal characteristics", or personality, or dealing with the world, or demeanor, or open-mindedness... In short, you have to make him feel that his "difference" is attracting you, and you may become a road person.
The deepening of the relationship between people requires two people to be able to talk together, eat together, and play together, while some people's habits are appreciated by others, and some people's is not accepted by others.
Therefore, when he can feel that all he has, you can understand, and can even be said to be intimate, then he will gradually open his heart to you, talk to you, and regard you as a "confidant".
After all, between confidants, they can talk about it, and only then can they develop.
Talk about "showing his charm"
Most men, they all have a little bit of face.
After all, for men, career success will be far greater than love. So, if you talk to him, he will most likely talk to you about his work.
So, when a man can talk to you about what he's doing right now, mention his small accomplishments, or have any work problems, he's probably moving on to you.
Perhaps, you will not understand his words, and you do not know how to integrate into his topic, but you must understand that when a man mentions this to you, he does not want to get any advice from you, but more, he hopes to show his charm, or when he is in trouble, he wants your comfort.
So, chat, don't force it, and let yourself express yourself naturally, and that's it.
In fact, the most important thing in getting along with people is to be able to communicate with each other.
Man's heart, sometimes, is as deep as the sea.
When he can talk to you about his "glory" or "loneliness", in fact, he already wants you to know him better and pin his current emotions on you.
You can go with the flow, talk more about the future imagination, look forward to the future of the beautiful, the atmosphere of the full, so that two people, have some expectations for the future.
True love is actually to carry each other and become better people together.
If he talks to you about what games he plays, which bar he goes to, stays up all night, and complains to you about how tired he is, most likely, you will also hear some discouragement, and this man is estimated to be not so mature in his heart, you must also seriously consider whether he is the person you want.
Chatting, in fact, is about whether two people are suitable.
After all, love, or need to live a life, is the real, not simple, two people on the face of each other's attraction.
Talk about "getting him interested in you"
Some girls will not be able to let go in front of the people they like, and they don't know what to talk to each other.
But, remember, be sure to talk more about topics that interest him in you, not send a few selfies or tell him you have a crush on him.
Moreover, don't expose the other party's shortness, laugh at the other party, and don't throw out a question, just scream and force him to give you an answer.
The more happy the two people can talk, the more they can go deeper into the topic, but don't tell each other about their old bottom at once, learn to "leave three points to the mouth", and give him the opportunity to continue to explore you.
If you have a high degree of overlap, then there will be a lot of topics to talk about in an instant, if he is still the best of your common preferences, you can also express your admiration and admiration by the way, so that he will also have more good feelings for you.
If you are not so like-minded, then, you may wish to talk about your family, talk about your feelings, talk about the places you like to go, your past experiences, the circle of friends around you, and so on. Of course, remember, don't talk too much, don't let your own family bottom out. If he is not willing to talk, then you should also stop appropriately, "Don't rush to change."
Some people, treat some privacy, or will be very conservative, which step you are related to, first talk about which step, you say too much, but there will be a counter-effect.
You know, if he really has an interest in you, sooner or later he will tell you his life past and his emotional experience.
Conclusion:
Remember, a friend once said: There is nothing more rare in this world than love.
At that time, he had countless blind dates, but none of them could be seen, according to him, the reason: to talk about two sentences, I didn't want to talk.
But then there was a business trip, on the train, met a girl, the two people at first sight, chatting around, long-distance love for half a year, he married the girl into the door.
It can be seen that in the world of feelings, it is really too important to talk.
Many people, when in love, are afraid of trouble. However, in this world, it is estimated that only the words and novels that can be seen once are determined for life.
Love needs to be slowly "talked about", not to talk about, how to know
Is it appropriate for two people to say?
When people are young, they may have a passion, with pure "face value attraction", they have a heart for each other.
But as you get older, you will find that the older you get, the more you will think about the long term, after all, love and marriage is a lifelong thing, not sloppy.
So, don't worry, talk slowly, fully understand each other, and take your feelings seriously, so that you can have the opportunity to meet the right person.
After all, in this lifetime, we will speak out of nonsense, accounting for ninety percent.
Time is long, small and broken, and the person who can listen to your nonsense is actually such a person.
Author, Frank Fox
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May you find in my words the ordinary years, a strong affection! Thanks for your attention!