Since having children, many mothers have become Hedong lions. They yell at them when they don't eat well, sneak up on TV, don't write their homework, and don't sleep well. As soon as the children disobey, they will immediately roar! Because it really works. As long as you yell at your child, he will be obedient. In fact, after the yelling, we immediately regret that we were too fierce to the child, but after yelling, will everything be okay?
Our rant actually has a big negative impact on the kids, but these changes are hard to see in a short period of time, but the negative effects are noticeable over the long term.
1. This will make the child timid and insecure
When a child is scolded, he is actually very scared. If parents yell at their children regularly, their children will grow up in such a repressive and angry environment, becoming more and more insecure, afraid to express their own thoughts, afraid of uncertainty, and feel that they can't do anything. So, when something happens, don't rush to blame the child. Learn to listen to your child's ideas and guide your child well.
2. Influence on intimate relationships
Yelling at a child inevitably affects the closeness of the parent-child relationship. He'll put you in the "unpopular" category. He doesn't want to talk to you about any issues. Eventually, he will be more rebellious in adolescence. He is likely to be misguided by anger and even irreparable!
3. It will make the child's personality uncertain
When a child faces a parent with repeated moods for a long time, their emotions are easily out of control, and the child cannot control the anxious emotions.
Control your emotions. You can't sort out your emotions in time, inspire yourself, and get rid of your emotional control. If the children's emotions are not soothed, it is easy to lead to extreme personality. Some children are extreme, while others are more introverted and withdrawn. Such children will also be greatly hindered in social interactions, which will also lead to children becoming more inferior, withdrawn, do not like to communicate with others, and communicate with others less and less. Therefore, how important it is for parents to have the right way of educating.
4. The impact on the child's future family
When we yell at a child, all our words and deeds are seen by him. What kind of parents have what kind of children. When he grows up, you'll find that he's too similar to you and speaks in the same tone. Gradually, he will treat his children, friends, family, and even you as he treats him!
Parents love their children. Please control your emotions. Communicate more with children, do not impose your own subjective consciousness on children, listen to children's opinions, understand children's personality, and be a good teacher and good friend in children's lives.